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Are "Blue Balls" Real?

Are "Blue Balls" Real?

I'm sure many of you can relate to being persuaded into having sex because your guy claimed he'd have painful blue balls if you didn't. So is this just a lame way to try to seduce you, or are blue balls an actual issue?

Let's first talk about what they are exactly. It's a slang term for aching testicles, which occur when a guy gets aroused but doesn't have an orgasm. When he becomes sexually excited, blood rushes to his genital area and the arteries carrying blood enlarge, but the veins are more constricted. This uneven blood flow traps blood in his penis which causes him to have an erection. His testicles enlarge about 25 to 50 percent, but once a man ejaculates, his arteries and veins return to their normal size rather quickly. If he doesn't ejaculate, however, there will be a lingering, heavy or aching sensation in his testicles, known as blue balls — the name comes from the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in his testicles.

So are blue balls harmful? To find out,


Experts say the discomfort is minor and it doesn't last long, but this feeling is likely exaggerated because it's coupled with the disappointment of not being able to orgasm. You should know that in no way do blue balls cause any physical complication or harm to his business, and you shouldn't feel like it's your job to cure him. It's become a socially accepted idea that when a guy has sex, he has to orgasm, but try not to feel pressured into going all the way or pleasing him so he's sexually satisfied if you're not ready to take that next step.


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shalissar shalissar 7 years
Have this problem too. The lady's version of it. Horny all day yesterday, thought about sex constantly. Went to bed thinking about sex, had a sex dream, woke up thinking about sex. Uterus feels like a brick atm. It's so damn uncomfortable. I can't get the privacy to relieve it either. Ouchy ouchy ouchy
Abnormal-girlie Abnormal-girlie 7 years
I don't understand why all the girls here would not just finish him off. If I don't feel like having sex, there are plenty of ways we girls can give him a "hand" or other items. Besides, he his just nicer to be around if he is satisfied. He makes plenty of compromises for me why would I not take care of this need of his, a relationship is caring for one anothers needs and this is just a need men tend to have more than women. I want him to listen to me when I tell him about my day or what the kids did that day even when he is to tired from work to really want to listen and empathize but he does, so what is the difference?
Kaleighna Kaleighna 8 years
All I can say is Have Merccccccy!!!
Leash8922 Leash8922 8 years
i'm a girl and i can say that when i want to have sex really bad and i don't i will feel sore and frustrated. any other girls feel that?
Evelyn3756 Evelyn3756 8 years
Yes, blue balls are for real. My fiance and I were sexually abstinent for the first six months of our relationship and I never knew just how easily aroused he'd become from just casual displays of affection between us--light kissing, holding hands, resting my hand on his thigh or belly while watching a movie--even a mere whiff of my perfume or the conditioner in my hair he later confessed was enough to get him all astir, beside himself, hot and bothered.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Wow, people actually use that line?!?!? Yeah, I would tell him to suck it up or go take care of himself if it's so horrible.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i feel like younger guys use this a bit more often than older ones - cause they think that there's a chance that if they make the girl feel bad, then that's the way that they are going to go about it. i think though that in my personal opinion, that if i were going out with a guy and he tried that - i would just tell him to deal with it and go masterbate since we know that it's something that he's likely to do anyway.
sushibananas sushibananas 8 years
I'm curious how many times DearSugar giggled as she wrote this column??? Blue balls!
Sky-Princess Sky-Princess 8 years
LOL on all the comments! They are great! I asked my boyfriend about this "phenomenon" (sp?) just the other day and he said he has never experienced such a thing and is not sure that it really even really exists. I gotta agree with FashionLuvr though, if it does exist then why cant they just go relieve themselves? :)
FashionLuvr FashionLuvr 8 years
I have seriously never heard of a woman having blue balls-like pain. I mean, I have felt frustrated before but never pain. Anyway, any guy who says that he needs to have sex to relieve it can just jerk off instead.
juicebox07 juicebox07 8 years
My boyfriend gives me the blue balls line from time to time and in my mind I'm thinking "too bad". Although I don't want him to experience any discomfort, I'm not going to feel obligated to have sex if I don't want to at the time.
Shadowsbane1988 Shadowsbane1988 8 years
I can't believe that people use that line. Boy would get a 'looks can kill' look if he tried that. But he wouldn't, because as he says "If you want to, and I want to, then it's good. Otherwise we wait till later." Seriously, if it's that uncomfortable, the man can take care of it himself. That's what masturbation is for.
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
bbkf, a lot of younger guys use this term regarding "heavy petting" (I feel like such a grandmother for just using that word, but i can't think of anything better) -- as in, guy and girl making out, girl doesn't want to go farther but guy says they have to so he doesn't get blue balls. i think this is a cultural phenomenon - my husband is a doctor in france and had never heard of anything related to blue balls. once i explained it to him, he said there's no medical basis to it at all because the blood will leave the testicles almost as soon as stimulation stops.
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
Women experience the same's just not called blue balls.
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 8 years
bbfk... in many a circumstances... you just cant... it could be something as simple as someone just stopping by your house unexpectedly. either way... if you're gonna use the tools you have like a man they should suck it up and be a man. no woman wants a cry baby
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 8 years
hahah my ex boyfriend would throw a pitty party for days telling me i couldnt touch him and he couldnt masturbate because it hurt SOOOO bad. gimme a break... so do my cramps... suck it up
Excellent article. LOL
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