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Blue Valentine's Unrealistic Moments

3 Unrealistic Expectations About Love From Blue Valentine

From reviews to award nominations, Blue Valentine's been praised for its nitty-gritty look at love. And, yes, I agree; it manages to show a relationship unravel without making you hate or blame either character. But it does rely on a few starry-eyed tricks to get the pair together in their younger days.

Tricks best saved for movies like The Notebook and rom-coms than a movie making millions off realism. Given the title, I don't think I am spoiling anything by saying it's a sad love story, but there are definite spoilers below.

Three things you likely won't see in real life:

  • Serendipitous bus meeting: The fact that Dean, Ryan Gosling's character, travels three hours to find a girl he saw once (that could really be its own bullet point) and then runs into her on the bus is not something that happens in real life.
  • Ukulele serenade: This scene is very sweet, but have you ever been serenaded by a guy you just met? In public? And who carries around a ukulele?
  • Dean's unconditional love: He meets a girl pregnant with another guy's baby, the other man travels all the way to Brooklyn to beat him up (also wouldn't happen), and all he has to say is "Let's be a family." That's a lot, even for a hopeless romantic.

Don't get me wrong, I liked Blue Valentine and would recommend it. The end of the characters' relationship is depressing enough, so perhaps these moments are just reminders that falling in love is itself unreal. But — as the title once again implies — it's a little romantic.

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HollyJRockNRoll HollyJRockNRoll 6 years
I have not seen the movie but intend to. However, I know some people who would so some of the things you listed. My friend had a guy serenade her with a guitar. And I know people who are so "romantic" that they would jump into a relationship with someone they barely knew.
whats-her-name whats-her-name 6 years
For the record, based on the people I know and spend time with, the ukelele/tap dance scene is not that far-fetched..
Angelica-Marden Angelica-Marden 6 years
You make solid points. One of the things I liked most about the film is it managed to create a window into the relationship without just a few scenes. It definitely made the moments you mention less realistic because of that. I've been serenaded by at least two dudes playing the ukulele on the street...but they were definitely street performers.
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