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Boyfriend Is on a Dating Site

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. I just moved for a job 3 months ago and there's no immediate plan for him to move. I just found out that he is still on an online dating site. I found the profile, and it was all about how he loves the city and is never moving — when he has talked about moving to where I am.  I asked him about it, and he said he felt like he had to keep moving forward in his life, even though he wishes he could be with me. I understand, but I don't know what to do at this point. Keep things open, or totally just end it?

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Yesi-Jukebox Yesi-Jukebox 6 years
It sounds like it's already over.
amandaaa amandaaa 6 years
end it.
amandaaa amandaaa 6 years
end it.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 6 years
10 months & you have moved off for your career? Although, you didn't mention the distance, it seems like he would have popped the question by now (& wanted you to stay) if he were madly in love with you. It kind of sounds like it was mutual.
maebryan maebryan 6 years
Yep, unless you're only into the relationship casually, there's no reason to continue. He is not committed to any kind of future with you (and not very respectful or sensitive either) - time to dump him and enjoy life as a single person in your new city!
cotedazur cotedazur 6 years
I agree with the above posters.... In fact, I think there's no other option than "end it," because this relationship seems to already be over. Enjoy your new city and meet someone new!!
whats-her-name whats-her-name 6 years
Since you're asking this question, you're probably not gonna like my answer. If he's so quick to "move on" and he used those words to your face, it sounds like he's done, and kind of a jerk on top of that. I'd drop him.
JessicaM25 JessicaM25 6 years
10 months of dating....and he is so quick to be on a dating site. Forget doesn't seem like he ever saw a future with you...if so he wouldn't even be on a dating site and he would of tried to work things out. Not every relationship ends up the way we would want it to be. I hope you find a better man that realizes you're worth moving for.
juicebox07 juicebox07 6 years
He is looking for someone else on a dating site, and he said he doesn't want to move. It's over.
inlove23 inlove23 6 years
I agree with everyone. It sounds like he has moved on. There are a thousand fish in the sea (or a thousand men in the city) to chose from!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
End it. He is done with you. You need to look forward too. You will be fine and you will find someone better than that piece of you know what. lol.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
End it. He is done with you. You need to look forward too. You will be fine and you will find someone better than that piece of you know what. lol.
marcied23 marcied23 6 years
yeah, i have to agree with the above because it already sounds like he ended it with that profile. you're in a new city, go out and meet new people. besides, anyone who would keep an online profile and not even break it off with you properly sounds like a real loser.
stephley stephley 6 years
I'd end it. He sounds pretty rooted where he is.
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