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Boyfriend Gets Attention From Other Women

Group Therapy: He Gets Too Much Attention!

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I'm exclusively dating a professional salsa dancer. Our relationship is great but the attention he gets from a lot of women is not. I'm not insecure and confident in my doings but he cheated before and promised never to do it again. It took a lot of strength to trust him again. We have been together for close to four years now.

Problem is, his relationship status is not on his FB page, he travels with sole partners at a time, he doesn't contact me for days on end when he does events and anything can be going on. He also doesn't tell me details about these shows or the people I meet and flirts with women constantly online.


I have tried to have a mature conversation about this with him but he shuts me off and now I'm starting to catch him on some lies (eg: he said him and his ex girlfriend never speak but I accidentally landed on her blog when internet surfing and sure enough he was ALLL over the place, including new posts), there's just a lot going on.

Get rid of him or try to work it out?

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DJ-Osiris DJ-Osiris 5 years
He is a heterosexual salsa dance instructor. Nuff said. I'm pretty sure he's got plenty of little kittens in the background. It's just like other services women pay for... Fitness trainers and the like. Women get hit on all the time from clowns like these. My girl's salsa dance instructor tried with her as well.
testadura67 testadura67 5 years
He's lying to you. Whether or not he's cheating, I think he's proven time and again you can't trust him. There's no point in being with someone you can't trust.
Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine 5 years
Get rid of him. It sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too- a serious relationship with plenty of fun on the side. Find someone who puts YOU first :)
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 5 years
He doesn't see anything wrong with his behavior. So you've got zero leverage to make him change. He won't change. Until he's like 90 and can't dance or get attention anymore. Go ahead and keep seeing him occasionally if you want. But don't bother being exclusive to him. It isn't fair to give him something you're unlikely to ever get in return.
lcrox07 lcrox07 5 years
Ugh, what an ass! Sorry, I'm wanna be mature here but this guy sounds like a total jerk. After 4 years c'mon! You can do better hun.
chibros chibros 5 years
Nothing more to work out. A relationship of almost four years and he still play games? not even proud to show it on his facebook, when do you think he'll stop? He thinks he still have alot to enjoy before thinking of something worthwhile. Girl you still have a long way to go, finding someone that knows what he wants is much better, in addition, saves you lot of headache and worries from your spare-tyre treatment boyfriend.
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