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Boyfriend Moved in With Ex

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My boyfriend just moved in with his ex girlfriend today. He says it's just for a month or two until he can move into a dorm at college, and that she and her roommate need help with the rent. I'm not usually a jealous person, but I can't help feeling uneasy about the whole thing. Should I be wary of this whole situation? What do I do?

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soulsearcher83 soulsearcher83 7 years
Bad situation. Very bad. I'd move on from him if he stays longer than 2 months because that's a sign he could be sleeping with her. How in the world coudl that be a good idea to live with an ex if you have a current relationship?
Skeptic52 Skeptic52 7 years
That's freakin insane.
KateAthens KateAthens 7 years
Moving in with his ex girlfriend means that 90% he will sleep with her, even if he says otherwise. If you're ok with that then its ok i guess.
Bailey-Bloom Bailey-Bloom 7 years
I think you should have a heart to heart conversation with you bf and tell him how you exactly feel. Don't act crazy or yell. Just talk in a normal tone of voice and see how he responds. If he doesn't respond well after you talk to him normally or doesn't care about your feelings, you should be wary. But he said it is temporary while he waits to move into his dorm. I lived in a dorm before too and he probably signed a contract to move in at (I'm assuming) the beginning of fall semester. But I understand completely and I would feel weirded out. Keep us updated please!
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
Did you discuss this before he moved? I probably wouldn't stand to let my bf move in with an ex. That just sounds like a disaster. Can you go hang out over there? Have sex? Idk... so many problems I foresee with these new living arrangements.
ManiMartinixo ManiMartinixo 7 years
My boyfriend moved in with his ex two months into the relationship. Two years later we're good. In addition he had a different female roommate up until we moved in together. As long as you get to know her and don't feel anything weird it'll be okay.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
I wouldn't be in love with the situation either, but you have no control over it now, unfortunately. I think if it was an option for him to move in with the OP, it would have happened. One thing I would warn you of though..from my experience having someone move in for financial reasons, " a month or two" tends to extend to longer periods of time, and before you know it, 6 months has gone by. Don't mean to freak you out, but just be aware that could happen.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
There are always other options than living with your ex-girlfriend, in my opinion. I would absolutely be wary. Of all the people you want to live with for a duration of time, you pick your ex? Do you not have other friends or relatives? Is your actual girlfriend not an option? What about parents?
weffie weffie 7 years
(but maybe i just think that way bc right now i could use the help with rent too lol)
weffie weffie 7 years
I guess it depends on the individuals, but I know I get uncomfortable when my bf even has dinner with his ex because of their long, complicated history... I wouldn't try to stop him or anything, but I don't like that they leave me and her new bf out of their plans. At least your bf and his ex have another roommate so it's not like the two of them shacking up, but if I were in this position I'd probably insist he move in with me instead, especially if it's for a short time anyway. It's not his problem if she needs help with rent, they broke up!
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 7 years
I don't blame you for being a little weirded out. What I would do is tell him that you're trying to be open minded, but you still feel a little awkward about it. Tell him that you would make you feel better to be included in some house activities so you could get to know them better. You can scope out the vibe and hopefully assuage your concerns.
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