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Boyfriend Won't Say I Love You

"Four Years and No I Love You"

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I've been with my boyfriend for four years. We see each other often, though we don't live together (we each have our own kids from prior marriages). We have a lot in common, enjoy each other's company, etc. We're in our 40s, so I hope that by now, we have a better idea of what makes a relationship last.

However . . . I find myself getting hung up on the fact that he hasn't said the magic "I love you." Also, he only recently brought up the idea of meeting his mom a few months ago, but it hasn't happened yet. And now, I told him I'd like to take a vacation to Hawaii and he basically said, "Have a great time!" There was no hint of worry that I might meet someone there, and no "Can I go with you?" We went on two vacations last year and had a great time — one of which I had planned on my own, and he said he wanted to go, too (it was an overseas trip with a lot of difficult cycling, so I didn't ask him at first).


Other than that, he's loyal, and acts like we're practically a long-married couple. Still, should his lack of worry about me vacationing alone, his lack of "I love you" declarations, be a sign that it's time I move on?

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