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Bringing Spontaneity Into Your Relationship

Spontaneity is essential in keeping the fire alive and without it, a relationship can get to be unbearably twiddle-your-thumbs boring. Even if you're not the impulsive type, you can still bring a little spontaneity into the mix — it just may be something you have to work a little harder at. Here are some ideas to get you going.

  • On a regular morning, while your lover is taking a shower before work, why not slip into the shower with him? You don't have to engage in a 3-hour lovemaking session that you clearly don't have time for, but a little naked intimacy is a sure way to feel close and connected.
  • Leave him a sexy note. Put it somewhere he won't suspect, like on the dashboard of his car, hidden inside his closed laptop, or in his coat pocket. List all the things you love about him and give him something to look forward to when he gets home!

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  • Plan a weekend away at a hotel or BB. It doesn't have to be far away, or even at some exotic drop-dead gorgeous beach or mountainside, it can be right in your own town. Pack a suitcase for the both of you, pick him up from work, and blindfold him to add to the anticipation. A new place is always exciting, and the time away can clear your minds so that the two of you can focus on having fun together and deepening your relationship.
  • Schedule a date to do something crazy you've both never tried before. Take water-skiing lessons, go surfing, take a helicopter ride, or go horseback riding. Sharing new experiences with someone you love is a sure way to bring you closer together.


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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Love these suggestions. We do sweet things for each other all the time but I'm always looking for some new ideas.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
that's an interesting idea fluffyhelen I think it's pretty easy to do little things for each other that are inexpensinve and sweet.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I hide pineapples in his stuff. Spontaneous AND tasty. (I'm sure he'd rather I hid chocolate)
Tami715 Tami715 8 years
I got these little pink heart-shaped post its and I'll randomly leave notes around the house for my boyfriend. He loves it :)
Beaner Beaner 8 years
I love the note idea. Very sweet.
itsme3683 itsme3683 8 years
Those last two sound expensive!
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