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Sex Games: Bristol Palin Wants You to Pause Before You Play

Teen pregnancy rates are dropping, and Bristol Palin would like to see them fall further. The famous teen mom just cut a PSA for the Candie's Foundation, telling teens to "pause before you play."

Bristol wants teens to know that she has it easy. Being the daughter of a famous ex-politician and current media personality she has connections and glamorous opportunities. But if she was a regular old teen mom, she wouldn't be filming television commercials, but rather she'd be all by herself with a crying baby. I can't help but feel bad for her child. When he grows up will she have to explain why she's paraded him around as a mistake that other teens should avoid? And the message could be seen as classist — if you're rich, you can risk having sex, but if you're not well off, you're screwed. But I'll give Bristol the benefit of the doubt because I think she's just trying to be honest about her advantages.

Her ultimate point is solid, especially for young people who have trouble imagining the consequences of their reckless actions: pause before you play, or think before you have sex. While I know Bristol is pro-abstinence now, the slogan seems to leave room for contraception. Take the time to use a condom, or else you might end up all alone with your crying baby, or worse — as a poster mom for teen pregnancy.

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Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Wow... that surprises me... you both seem respectful whenever I see your comments... but whatever. Have at it then. The only thing that I want to add is, I only know one *unexpected surprise* adult, 24 yo guy, mixed-race; and he jokingly said to me once, "My mom fucked some big black dude, and that's how I was born." He has a good relationship with both his parents, and if he ever had any issues, he got over them long ago.
nancita nancita 7 years
That's actually a really good point you make about her parading the baby around as a mistake. That definitely rubs me the wrong way about this ad, but I hadn't really given it much thought until you said that.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Betty Wayne, steph hasn't liked me for quite some time now and I've given up on even trying to be polite to her. She's quite pleasant to a lot of other people, but she's never given me the same courtesy.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Wait- steph and lilk, are you two seriously bickering? Or are you just joking around?
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
And you certainly don't have to worry about civility not being a sign of weakness, considering the fact that you are far from civil!
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I don't even know to what you're referring. If you think I'm making people up, I can give you details. One person I know is my college roommate, Megan, who's parents had her long after they planned on having any other children. She always knew she was unplanned. Another is the son of a friend, Stephen. (He's 20, so I consider him an adult). His parents had him when his mother was 20 and his father was 18. He's always known that he was not planned. Another is a coworker, Tanya. Her mom was 18 when she was born; Tanya never knew her father and always knew (from the time she was old enough to understand) that she was unplanned. Another is a close friend, Julie. Her mom was slightly older. (I'm not sure of her exact age, but I know she was in her early 20's) when she was born. She was raised by her mother until she was about 10 and then by her mother and stepfather. Again, she always knew she was the result of an unplanned pregnancy. Then there's a friend I've had since elementary school, Ali (and her sister, Jill). Both of them were the result of unplanned pregnancies and neither of them have lingering resentment. Should I go on? There are more! Although, since you will just accuse me of lying, I don't know what the point is.
stephley stephley 7 years
As predictable as your phantoms?
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Thanks, steph, I won a bet that you couldn't leave me alone the next time I commented on a thread you'd also commented on. Your rudeness is so predictable! :woohoo:
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Her slogan does leave room for contraception, but I worry about how her kid will feel about it when he's grown. I know it's going to be obvious to my girl that she was an *unplanned surprise* and I plan on telling her, "No shit I didn't mean to get pregnant, but that doesn't change how much I love you." She's got a few cousins who were *unplanned surprises* too, so I think it will be something she understands. Walking around preaching about how much of a mistake she was? It's a good thing Sarah Palin is making some cash, that baby may need some intense therapy when he's grown.
stephley stephley 7 years
Thanks Lilk - I won a bet that you'd say exactly what you did! :woohoo:
flyowsley flyowsley 7 years
Amen, Bellasugar and ChloeBella.
Beauty Beauty 7 years
What Chloe Bella said. It bothers me when abstinence-only advocates pretend that contraception isn't incredibly, incredibly effective when used as directed. Abstinence is fine, but it's not as though it's the only way to not get pregnant. I think it's much smarter to encourage teens to practice safe sex than to promote abstinence in lieu of that. A lot of teenagers wind up having sex, so it seems smart to give them information on preventing pregnancy. Abstinence is the surest way of doing that, but it's not for everyone.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Exactly, chloe ! I am so tired of hearing from Bristol "I'm not having sex until I'm married." Um, sweetheart? You have a baby. Everyone knows you had premarital sex. You need to add the word AGAIN to that sentence. Having sex as a teenager isn't the worst thing a teenager can do. Teenagers need to know the emotional, physical, and mental ramifications of sex, and they need to know how to protect themselves if they choose to have sex. And while there are success stories of teenage mothers (and yes, I say mothers, because fathers are rarely involed), the sad fact is that very few finish high school, and even fewer go on to college. I'm almost 28, married, and have a stable job, and will give birth to our first in October. It's terrifying and this was very much a planned and wanted baby. I have no idea how we'll swing it financially and we've been in our careers for several years.
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
Um, as far as I was aware...if you had a kid, and you weren't financially secure...then yes, yes you would generally be screwed. Having kids IS a privilege, NOT a right, classist or not. Owning matured sex parts isn't a license for parenthood, at least as far as humans go. Anyways, this is will all be filed under 'PR for her crazy mother' and we will all move on to more sensible advice from more credible sources.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
To elaborate on my previous comment, my problem with Bristol is that she became pregnant by having unprotected sex, and now she's preaching to everyone that it's wrong to have sex before marriage, whether it be protected or unprotected. She hasn't once acknowledged that she could have prevented her pregnancy by using contraceptives, so I don't think she has any right to judge teens who are actually responsible and educated on safe sex.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I know quite a few adults who were "mistake babies," and not one of them has had trouble dealing with it. Maybe the way your parents treat you in general could cause lingering resentment or something.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
bryseana, that's why teens shouldn't be having sex. Being a father at 16 is not the ideal situation. How can you raise a child when you are a child yourself. Most 16-year-old dads don't change with the arrival of their babies, on the contrary, they are horrible fathers. Your brother is the exception.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
Most of my friends were teen moms. My brother was a dad at 16. They all knew about contraception. My mom even bought my brother condoms and gave him the "talk". I think teenagers will do what they want in the end. It's not a new phenomenon. It may not be politically correct to say, but I think everything happens for a reason. It was probably the best thing to ever happen to my brother. He was hanging with the wrong people, doing drugs, etc...The birth of his daughter possibly saved his life. He became motivated and turned his life around for himself and her.
janneth janneth 7 years
I don't care for her mother, but I give her a lot of credit.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
The thing that rubs me the wrong way is that Bristol always comes off as sounding so condescending.
stephley stephley 7 years
I've met people who were told they were mistake babies, and even when their parents tried to clean it up with 'but I'm so glad you're here' most of them say they have trouble dealing with the idea that they were more of a consequence than a blessing.
marcied23 marcied23 7 years
yeah, i think it's good that she's letting others know that it's not an easy ride, even with the added benefits of having a family that helps, also i don't think she'll have a problem telling her son, listen i'm glad you're here but if i had really thought about it i would've waited a few years, so just...wait.
UnDave35 UnDave35 7 years
Good for her. Is it bad that she wants others to benefit from her mistake?
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I will consider listening to her once her entire life stops being dictated by the GOP.
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