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Can We Be More Than Just Friends With Benefits?

"Can We Be More Than Just Friends With Benefits?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

So almost a year ago, the friends with benefits relationship I had for 9 months came to an end. We decided to end our arrangement on the basis that he may still have had feels for his ex and that I wanted to be in a relationship, but didn't feel that I was ready to be in one at that time so there was nowhere for us to go forward.

Fast forward 6 months and we ran into each other at a concert after not having seen or spoken to each other the whole time. We merged our groups together for the event and spent practically the whole time together. I never inquired, but I had the impression that he was still single as he would take any chance he had to hold my waist or grab my hand. I decided to let things be and I didn't contact him afterward.

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Then about 3 months later, I had this urge to contact him and we met up for dinner. We never really dated when we were FWB a year ago, and this felt like an incredible first date with someone that I got along with and knew quite well. The whole time he was being flirty, and still not knowing what I wanted, I didn't make any moves, despite the fact that he embraced me as we waited in front of the bar. The next morning I felt horrible for not being more forward, realizing that I did in fact want something with him. I texted him saying that we should do something again soon as I had a great time, and we should not take 6 months to see each other again in an effort to show him that I'm interested. He replied instantly saying that he'll give me a shout soon.

That was a month ago. I haven't said a word to him, being preoccupied with my studies, work, friends, etc. But he's recently, in the last 2 or 3 days, been "liking" all my Facebook statuses and pictures even though he has never, ever done that before. Is that a sign that he wants me to contact him? I'm sure I'm over-analyzing this situation, but I don't want to get my hopes up for nothing since I already had to get over him once before, even though it wasn't even serious the first time. This time, I'm in for all or nothing, and I don't know if I currently have a chance, or if he's just being an overly friendly friend. So, should I just be forward and make the move to see him again, even though it's technically his turn to contact me? Will I not seem too forward if I do that? Any advice would be much appreciated!

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