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Caught Up In A Routine Rut

Dear Sugar
I have a wonderful life, but I just need somewhere to vent. I shouldn't complain about work because I was just promoted to manager, I have a cute two bedroom condo and a gorgeous Yorkshire Terrier as a roommate. Yet life feels like the same day in and day out pattern. Occasionally I'll go on a date or meet a friend for dinner/drinks, but basically everyday I have the same routine.

I work in a corporate office about 15 miles from home. To save money, I usually pack my lunch and eat in my cube and talk to co-workers. Around 7:00pm, I pack up and head home, driving the same tired route and usually picking up some take out. Then I walk my dog, watch TV, and go to bed.

I need some spice in my life. I am not looking for anything super wild or adventurous and I am a happy person, I guess that I am just feeling a little bored lately. Can you help? Bored Jordan

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Dear Bored Jordan
You have a pretty positive outlook on life which is very refreshing. I think that all you've got to do is change your gears a little more. Here are some suggestions:

  • Try getting up earlier one day a week and taking an interesting class at the gym.
  • If you can, walk or ride a bike to work one day a week. 15 miles is pretty long, but the fresh air and physical activity might feel very refreshing.
  • Even try something as small as driving a different route to work allows you to see some new things.
  • Try going grocery shopping for your lunches/dinners at a different store once in a while, or try to go in the morning if you can so that you can avoid the crowds.
  • If possible, ask a co-worker or friend to join you in a park for lunch. It's amazing how much of a difference you feel by spending time outside during daylight hours.
  • Take a vacation day mid week.
  • Make an effort to make plans more often after work. Go home, walk your dog and then go out for dinner more often. Leisurely social interaction is extremely important. Plus, it gets you out of the house and experiencing new things.

I hope this helps. Don't try everything at once, just make one small change per day and see how you feel at the end of the week. Life is sure to become super boring if you don't stop and smell the roses every once in a while.

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lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
Pick up a new hobby! Horseback riding, biking, running, etc. I have my own horse, so horseback riding is my main venting source. It's so much fun! I also run every day, and that's exciting. Also, on your way to work, try rolling down the windows and blaring your favorite songs. Sounds small, but it makes you feel on top of the world.
cubadog cubadog 10 years
I got into the same rut when I first moved back to Portland after living in NYC for 5 years. After the going out every night life it was nice just to sit and do nothing!
la_clique la_clique 10 years
This is all good advice! I take new routes home all the time, or just drive around at lunch, nice not to be in the office. Everyone gets in a rut, no matter how good their life is. I have a pretty great life, but going to work and other "grown-up" things are pretty monotonous sometimes.
Lakey Lakey 10 years
When I was younger I was really shy so my parents thought it would be a good idea to get me a dog, thinking that I would meet more people that way. So my dad went to the SPCA and instead of getting a docile dog like a Golden Lab or something, he got this dog that would bark at EVERYBODY. It got to the point where I would cross the street in order to avoid walking my dog by people. My parents' plan totally backfired! Loved that dog to pieces though!
Daisy6264 Daisy6264 10 years
Get involved in some groups to meet people.
Jinx Jinx 10 years
lol, So true, I know a guy that referred to his new puppy as a chick magnet. He said he never had so many girls talk to him, then when he walked the dog.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 10 years
Very true, Lakey. I never, ever, in my entire life, knew my neighbors, no matter where I lived. Now that I have a puppy, I know everyone.
Lakey Lakey 10 years
Dogs are a great way to meet people. Let your pooch work for you!
tina_marie tina_marie 10 years
I like whiplashgirl's advice. This means though that you will have to force yourself to leave work before 7 pm. Chances are that you will be able to do that once or twice a week. I promise, the company will not go under!! Take some time for yourself and enjoy it!!
cubadog cubadog 10 years
It is of my dog Cuba. I am going to change it to a different pic today.
BlondeSugar BlondeSugar 10 years
cuba what is that a pic of in your av. i can't make it out
cubadog cubadog 10 years
Definitely try something new you never know what it will bring. I am not sure where you live but I know a lot of the doggy daycares have cocktail/date nights that are a lot of fun. They usually have a guest speaker and lots of time to socialize.
Lakey Lakey 10 years
Wear insanely sexy underwear underneath your work clothes - you'll feel like you've got a secret and will smile to yourself throughout the day ;) I'm kidding - what I do is to different places at lunchtime, like a gallery, a new shop, or have a look at a historic building. I'll also do research for my art projects, like looking for fabric, paper etc. I like to copy things that I've seen in stores or in magazines, and then make them at home. You can do these projects when you are watching television at night. Right now I am working on making cute little notebooks that I stash in my purse in case I ever need to write something down when I'm out. Oh, and congrats on your promotion and your condo. Dang, I wish I had my own place!
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
GL Dears advice is great I esp loved the take a different route home thing. I love to do that. Not only does it let u learn different places and routes to take if there is traffic but sometimes there is scenery or ull see a new spot u want to go.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 10 years
Take a class! Dancing, yoga, cooking, art, car repair, ANYTHING. You'll learn a new skill, meet some new people, and have something to break up your week. Is there a dog park nearby? If so, take your dog there. Again, you'll meet a lot of people and doggies, and it'll be different than your solitary walk every day. Why not redecorate a room in your apartment. Coming home to some bright paint on the walls and some new throw pillows might mix things up a bit.
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