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Changing Facebook Relationship Status

"Does His Single Facebook Status Matter?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

We have been dating for two years now, already talking about marriage. A year ago I changed my facebook relationship status into "in the relationship." He didn't. He is still single in Facebook. I never brought this up as it is sounds childish. Two months ago I changed mine into "single." I figured why would I when he doesn't care about these stuff.

Is this so immature that I want everyone in the world to know that we are in love? He doesn't care about this stuff and he always maintains a high level of privacy and by putting it out there I don't mean to be possessive or let the girls know he is taken. I just want to . . . I don't know, brag about being in love?

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testadura67 testadura67 5 years
If he didn't want to share his status with anyone, there's an option to not have any status listed at all. The fact is he chooses to be listed as single rather than anything else. And if that bothers you, then you should explain to him why, and ask that if he doesn't want to be listed as "in a relationship", then he hide his status altogether rather than post a false one. I think people put way too much emphasis on facebook. Unless he's the type of person to make most of his connections online, then the people in his life know about you. It's a social networking device, not a substitution for real life. Don't let online life become more important than real life.
Elizabeth2714024 Elizabeth2714024 5 years
I agree with the woman below. If he wants "privacy", he should just get of FB altogether. FB is about "sharing" and if you're not comfortable with sharing, then you shouldn't be on FB. You can hide anything you don't want shown. I don't lie on my FB because I have no reason to hide anything. 
ThatsWhyYoureMyEx ThatsWhyYoureMyEx 5 years
Yes, it does matter. I completely understand someone people would rather not show this stuff to the whole facebook world. And if that's him, tell him to just hide it, or delete his facebook. He's basically telling the world he's single. That's a lot different than him not bragging to the world about being in a relationship.    Will be hard to hear, but my gut tells me he isn't invested in your relationship. He wants to play the field. Approach him about it. If he refuses or brushes it off, you need to move on.    Period.
BiWife BiWife 5 years
it's only facebook, in real-life he has been committed to you for 2 years. I don't have my in-laws listed as "family" because they either never sent the request for that or if I sent the request they never accepted it. My mom-in-law tried to make a big deal out of it several times, but then never logged into facebook enough to think about sending or accepting the family-link-request. So even though she made a big deal out of it, she wasn't irked enough to put in the effort to fix it. Your profile, on the other hand, can brag about your love as much as you want. make your profile pic one of you and your bf together. Post updates about nice things he does for you, etc. The checkbox on his profile as to his relationship status does not do anything to limit your ability to post things to your profile.
GZO GZO 5 years
I think some people simply don't care about this kind of stuff. (Like you said, "He doesn't care about this stuff and he always maintains a high level of privacy...") As long as he treats you right and the people who are actually important to you two know that you're in a relationship, telling the X number of Facebook "friends" that you might not even care about doesn't need to be a big deal.   I think changing your own status to "single" is a passive-aggressive way to go about it. If it really bothers you that his profile says "single" (which, TBH, would probably bother me too), you could just bring it up in conversation and ask him why he hasn't changed it (there's a good chance he doesn't even realize that it says "single" if he's not really too into Facebook), and if maybe he could even just put nothing there. And you just do whatever you want on yours. 
truffy truffy 5 years
My bf's the same. 3 1/2 years for us. He says it's no ones business- I think he identifies /w being some kindof foot-loose and fancy-free youth who isn't tied down to anything or anyone. Not that that's the reality... he just likes to look that way. (It pisses me off too btw)
Bubbles12 Bubbles12 5 years
It matters because it matters to you. What Cherry said.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
He doesn't care about it, so him not changing it is lazy. You do care about it, so you changing to "single" is petty. (It's okay, we;re all petty sometimes). when you're both sitting with your laptops out watching tv or something, just be like "hey, this is silly but would you mind if i facebook relationship requested you?" Just frame it as "not a big deal." Maybe he'll laugh at you, which is okay as long as it's not mean-spirited, but if he pitches a fit about it then something may be up.
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