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Is a Cheating History a Deal Breaker?

Tattoo artist Kat Von D is dating Sandra Bullock's cheating ex, Jesse James, and she doesn't care about his philandering history. Yesterday she told an LA radio station that people make mistakes, and she wouldn't want to be judged by hers. "I'm a believer that we're all human and we're all capable of making mistakes. . . . I think if I were to be crucified for my drug addiction three years ago now, it would be hard to live with that."

Cheating can be seen as a one-time slip, a lack of respect for the other, or an all-out personality flaw? Would it be a deal breaker for you?

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queenobscene queenobscene 7 years
I loved Kat, but honestly who in the right mind would leave Dr. Feelgood (nikki) for Jesse.
Micha22 Micha22 7 years
This isn't just an issue of cheating though's the fact that he was publicly outed as a cheater, and not just with one woman. Not to mention those Nazi pictures. I just can't understand why anyone would want to be associated with him. They say any press is good press...but really? I wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I voted yes, it is a deal breaker, but I agree, it depends on the case. I've cheated, more than once, I'm not saying I was right to do it but I feel like I could be trusted in a relationship now. A lot of people look at cheating as the cause of dysfunction in a relationship; I look at cheating as a symptom of a dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes love does crazy things to a person's head- I'd hate to have someone judge me based on the frame of mind I was in when I cheated. I like to think I've matured since then. I had a serious relationship with a man (late 20s) who never cheated on any of his former girls, and he cheated on me with somewhere between 3 and 6 girls, I'll never know for sure. My point is: just because a guy has never cheated doesn't mean he won't. No relationship is exactly the same as any other.
bohokitty bohokitty 7 years
I think yes if I was looking for a serious relationship. If I was just having fun or needing attention then prob not.
WarEagleNurse WarEagleNurse 7 years
Deal breaker!
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
Deal Breaker. I agree with Genesisrocks; If the person in question made the mistake of cheating while a teenager, that is one circumstance; however once into adulthood, one should know better and for me, it is a glaring red signal that it is most likely a habit of theirs. I was taught to remember that often "once a cheater, always a cheater." And unfortunately, that often that tends to be true.
Kellanawida Kellanawida 7 years
It would definately set my warning radar off!
medenginer medenginer 7 years
I agree I think it would depend on the circumstance. In his case I wouldn't hold out for faithfulness and relationship if I were her. Yes, people make mistakes but she can't compare drug addiction to cheating it's not the same issue.
sourcherry sourcherry 7 years
It would be very hard for me to accept it, even if it was just once. Something like that completely changes my perception of the guy, character wise.
Studio16 Studio16 7 years
No, I wouldn't date someone who has a stint at Cheating Headquarters listed on his Relationships CV. Mostly because, like other women on here, I've never met a guy who cheats once and becomes a changed man. If he's cheated, he's done it in more than one relationship. If, on the off chance I did meet a guy who cheated once, I would potentially give him a chance, depending on many things. (How compatible we already were, whether or not we wanted the same things in life, how long ago the affair was, etc.) And Kat needs to get a clue. Honey, he cheated on Sandra, he can just as easily cheat on you. Not to mention that if you want to ride the coattails of your man's fame, you need a man who's famous for something other than breaking the heart of America's Sweetheart.
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
I couldn't date someone that I knew cheated in the past. It would cause trust issues for me, and that's not healthy.
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
It would definitely send some red flags for me
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
^^ I agree. In my experience, I've only met people who are serial cheaters. It's very rare to find someone who has only cheated once. Don't you ladies watch Maury? :P
restrictedcode restrictedcode 7 years
Actually, I haven't met anyone who'd have cheated for one time only. There are those who have never done it, and then there are those who do it on a regular basis. So, judging from my own experience, I tend to be suspicious when it comes to guys with a cheating history.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
It depends. There are some people who have cheated, learned a lesson, and have never done it again. Then there are people who chronically cheat. If a guy had a history of cheating on more than one occasion, I'd be wary. And the adult thing is also a good point.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
No it's not a deal breaker as long as he doesn't smoke. ha
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I agree with the above comments. It is a deal breaker for me if he did it as an adult. My sisters soon to be ex hubby cheated on his first wife (including when she was pregnant). He later cheated on my sister. We all saw it coming.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
I agree with genesisrocks and jazztummy. If they guy did it when he was 14-17, then it is not a big deal. But if it's a constant in his life, that is a problem for me.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
She's in denial. And, I agree with genesisrocks, it isn't the same if the guy's a kid. Any adult who cheats shows a level of immaturity, disrespect and self-absorption that I couldn't deal with.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
It really depends on the kind of cheating we're talking about. If I guy cheated on his high school girlfriend once way back in the day and since then he's never strayed, I'd give him a chance. But anyone that has cheated more than once (which seems like most cheaters) is out and anyone cheated recently or on a long-time committed partner is out.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 7 years
It would really depend on the circumstances. Was it a one time thing, how old he was, why he cheated etc. I'm not one of those people who believe "once a cheater always a cheater". Some people really can change and learn from their mistakes.
stephley stephley 7 years
She sounds naive and probably likes the attention dating him will bring her.
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