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Is Cheating Less Forgivable When You Have Kids?

(Possible) cheater alert. US Weekly is reporting that reality-TV-dad-of-eight Jon Gosselin has been caught with another woman.

Jon, who stars on the reality show Jon and Kate Plus 8 denies the accusation. Whether it's true or not, the cheating rumors have me wondering: Is infidelity worse when there are kids involved?

Part of me feels that when parents cheat, they're also cheating on their kids, and if the relationship eventually breaks up, so does the family. Then again, maybe cheating is just a bad idea no matter what your family situation is.

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witchbaby witchbaby 8 years
I think when the man is cheating and its an emotional affair its like way worse. My aunt was cheated on(she's really pretty and always been thin) and her ex husband was cheating on her with some woman who was like kinda hefty and not attractive. I think that would hurt more. as a woman. Like you cheated on me with HER?! Like you should have made it more worth it dude.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Cheating is cheating. Period. You just stand to lose more when you have children.
oni1 oni1 8 years
i think it would be worst with kids because it isn't as easy to leave. i don't know if he did it or not but i never liked that guy.
sidra5397 sidra5397 8 years
From what Chrstne has told us of her father's cheating, I feel that her response to what he did is justified. On the other hand, I don't think that every case is the same and deserves the same response. Some cheaters are jackasses and some are people who made jackass decisions. I don't condone it but I don't know if it's unforgivable in every case. I don't see the logic in viewing every instance of infidelity in the same light. Over all though, I think you should tell someone how you feel before taking that initiative to find comfort or whatever with someone else.
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
"It was a valuable learning experience and ultimately worked out for the better. It gave me self-esteem I didn't have and made me see relationships more clearly." That was beautiful. Agreed. :)
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Cheating is cheating-with or without kids to me it's unforgivable.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
Medenginer, No one has a right to judge your marriage, or what happened while in it, your admirable for admitting to what happened and I applaud you for that. I also went through pretty much the same thing and My marriage is better for it.
medenginer medenginer 8 years
I deserve whatever response I get but I do know what it's like to cheat on someone in a marriage. My marriage was long deteriorated before then only both of us didn't realized it. I know I should have left before that point but I stayed so long because of my children thinking it was the right way to raise them. I'm not making an excuse for my actions I was wrong and know it. My ex husband wasn't perfect either and takes equal blame in the relationship. It was a valuable learning experience and ultimately worked out for the better. It gave me self-esteem I didn't have and made me see relationships more clearly. My children are happier not seeing their parents miserable with each other.
Jillz1128 Jillz1128 8 years
Unforgivable no matter whether there are kids or not.
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
Hate how the world is obsessed with cheating. Yawn.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
My dad cheated on my mom -- he paid this woman's bills, took her to dinner, bought her expensive gifts and expensive gifts for her two children. That stung -- at lot. Considering this was the man who would rather buy drugs than buy us food. This is also the guy who wouldn't bother with gifts for us on any given day, but managed to do it for her children. It's bad no matter how you slice it. He didn't just wreck a relationship, he destroyed a family. I hate my father, never speak to him and never see him. Not just because he's a lying, cheating, bastard -- but because he treated us badly. We're better off without him.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
Its the same with or without kids in my opinion, and it is forgivable in either circumstance.
MrsRachel MrsRachel 8 years
Definitely worse.
starbucks2 starbucks2 8 years
I think it's worse because as soon as you become a parent the choices you make affect your children.
jdmxrain jdmxrain 8 years
Its never forgivable. At least not to me. There's no excuse to cheat, people who cheat are either too lazy to work on the relationship or too lazy to break up with their partner.
lightpollution lightpollution 8 years
Cheating is just bad all around. It is so much easier and mature to discuss your problems and if you can't resolve them to leave the relationship in a respectful manner.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I agree -- cheating is bad whether one has children or not. I kind of resent the question. Personally, my husband and I are child-free by choice. So if he cheated, it's more okay because we don't have children?? Hell no (in my book) Besides, I think it may be easier for me to leave the marriage because we don't have children. It would be less complicated.
Colleeninator Colleeninator 8 years
I'm not a big fan of the way the question is stated. I'm of the opinion that cheating is NEVER forgivable. Therefore, cheating in any situation can't be more or less forgivable than cheating in another situation. However, cheating when you have children has the potential to hurt more people in more different ways. As wackdoodle pointed out, it probably doesn't mean that the cheating parent doesn't love the children, BUT not all children are able to comprehend that, and many children will be hurt simply due to the fact that their parent is hurting.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
Cheating is bad no matter what.
janneth janneth 8 years
Poor wackdoodle, sorry you had to go through that. It is always a wonderful blessing when 2 people can continue to be attracted to each other in a marriage.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
Cheating is horrible no matter what or the reason, it's even worse when a family or two or more involved.
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