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Cheating to Make Boyfriend Jealous

Sunday Confessional: Kissed Another Guy to Make BF Jealous

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I cheated on my boyfriend (just a kiss) to make him jealous (he was growing distant), and when he found out he didn't even get mad at me. I mean he was sort of upset, but he's totally moved on. I guess I'm lucky, but I'm annoyed.

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jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
Wow, didn't know 8th graders could post here.
Love-and-Sex Love-and-Sex 7 years
Whoops — Sorry to those of you who already saw this! But if you haven't weighed in yet, we love hearing what you think about the confession. Stay tuned for a fresh one next week!
girlgreen girlgreen 7 years
yeah, it's from last week!
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Okay I'm having serious deja vu. Didn't we see this one within the last couple of weeks?
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I don't personally think kissing is cheating, so maybe he didn't react because he feels the same way... though I'm pretty sure flyinggrip hit it right on. It might be in your best interest to straighten yourself out a bit before doing anymore dating anyway.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
That's not "lucky," it's just a sign that he really could not care less about your relationship at this point. Look at how you've acted towards him - you wanted to make him jealous, you didn't have a problem with kissing someone else, and now you're annoyed with him. It doesn't sound like you really like him all that much. I'll be you would both be happier with other people.
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
I completely agree with flyinggrip. Nicely put.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
You should break up. Clearly you are already trying to connect with other people and are attracted to them too. You might love him, but the relationship is over. This was just a way to escape the relationship without having to break up with him. It didn't work, just man up and move on.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
Talking to your significant other and letting him know that you feel neglected and ignored is much better than 'acting out' (which sounds like a child's behavior). Have a good long talk to why he's not paying attention to you before the kissing affair. Also do lots of introspections, perhaps he's not being distant, it's just you require a lot (more than normal) attention. Find out and try to compromise/resolve, cheating isn't the answer. Good luck.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
I'm confused. First I read he doesn't care then I read he got upset but has moved on. Alright maybe he didn't fly off the handle and rub your face in it for months on end but there is still quite a difference between those two statements. Saying you did it to make him jealous reeks of immaturity to me and if you were already having issues of distance in the relationship what you did is only all the more reason for more distance. If you want to work things out you're herding him in the wrong direction honey. My advice is get over this particular issue a.s.a.p. and get serious about cultivating some good vibrations in your relationship. That's all you can do and if that doesn't work well then it wasn't meant to be.
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
Are you annoyed because you feel that his moving on over this indiscretion means he doesn't care enough to be angry about it or that he is still distant despite the fact? Could this indicate that he perhaps doesn't consider kissing as cheating or has done it himself? I would echo the previous comments that having a serious chat with the bf is a better way to handle the issue rather than pulling an attention-seeking stunt. What constructive ways have you tried to rekindle your connection? Does he admit to being distant? It's possible that both your actions or inactions indicate that it's time to shape up or jump ship
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
There is no reason to ever try to make someone jealous. I'm glad your plan didn't work. I don't think you're a bad person though. Please don't do this again. It's not right to mess with peoples emotions.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I cheated on my boyfriend (just a kiss) to make him jealous (he was growing distant)... Um, really? Maybe you should focus on how to mature a bit. If your boyfriend is growing distant, the remedy is to talk to him about it, and if that doesn't work, or you don't want to discuss it, then end the relationship. I really hope you are under the age of 20.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
I'm inclined to believe that someone who was distant before and only "kind of upset" is on his way out. He doesn't feel strongly about it because he doesn't feel strongly about the relationship anymore, and from the tone of your post, its obviously not a strong relationship, and your actions were petty and immature. I think you should probably sit back and reevaluate what consequences those kinds of actions, feelings and thoughts will have on your life.
flyinggrip flyinggrip 7 years
If he is distant and you're kissing other guys, it seems like the relationship is over and you both need to move on
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Consider yourself lucky, and then realize that there are far better ways to deal with distance. Like, say, talking about it. It sounds like your relationship is a little on the immature side if this is how you deal.
xbaybee xbaybee 7 years
it seems to me he lost interest in you a long time ago, and his reaction to your cheating is the most obvious clue.
taffeta taffeta 7 years
Bad idea to do that. He's been growing distant because he either isn't attracted to you anymore or has grown tired of you in some way. You kissing someone else made everything worse. He is probably looking for thousands of reasons to break up with you over but couldn't find one...until now. That's why he doesn't care.
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
I'm sorry but it sounds to me that the poor man can't win.
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