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Confront Neighbors About Loud Sex

Have You Ever Confronted Neighbors Who Have Loud Sex?

When a reader complained she could overhear her roommate having sex last week, most of you said to deal with it by getting earplugs, turning on the TV, or blasting music. Very few suggested to confront her, and it looks many people agree with keeping quiet.

Two-thirds of New Yorkers reported overhearing their neighbors have sex, but only 14 percent of them confronted people or complained to their building's management. What's most surprising is how people let neighbors know they know. It's not an in-person complaint, a note, or even a broom to the ceiling, but egging them on. "Last Summer, I was having a barbecue. Everybody was outside. Suddenly, we hear this loud screaming," an overhearer told the NY Post, "Everybody was like, 'You go, girl,' cheering them on."

This actually sounds like the perfect solution — at least if you're with a group. Sure it's awkward, but only for the overheard!

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danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I have yet to hear my neighbors below make noise (a few normal house noises, never sex) and the neighbors behind us, all we hear is their rap music. I wouldn't confront anyone unless I really knew them. Or I'd just be loud back to show them how thin the walls are :p
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
No, but I have had an evening interrupted with a friend because a neighbor called the police and reported abuse and screaming at my friend's apartment...when all along it was the neighbor downstairs gettin' some action. THAT was awkward.
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
I agree. Some noise is obviously going to happen but I blame the porn industry for encouraging people to make noise to the ridiculous extreme. We should be purring not screaming!
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
What's so hard about writing a note to someone? I just sent a little something through the mail slot telling them to shut the f**k up, and they stopped. Problem solved. Eventually they moved out, and I was even happier.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Actually, I realized I have said something. I was in a hotel, with an interview the next day, where the people next door were having crazy loud ridiculous porny sex ALL NIGHT LONG. At one point I got so sick of hearing her say "Oh God Danny" over and over that I walked up to the door and screamed "Oh for love of God" as loud as I could and threw the remote at the door. Inconsiderate jack*sses.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
*one wor(d) about it.......
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Well here's my practice with noisy neighbors. As long as I can tolerate it I let it be because on the rare occasion that I want to pump up the music or loose my mind with wild sex I don't have to feel self conscious because they're noisy all the time and if they say one work about know what I'm going to say lol.
mnp mnp 7 years
Yes. It seems to me that some people who have loud sex are also habitual offenders of making too much noise at other times. My bf went and talked to them about the other noises (i.e. music and parties) but we had to resort to calling the police later on. They stopped after that.
Hello890 Hello890 7 years
No, but I can hear the creepy old man next door listening to porn. ewwww!
CupcakeGal10 CupcakeGal10 7 years
Yes. My suite-mate in college and her boyfriend. Typical thin college walls, although one night they decided to go for it at 1am when I had a big test the next day. I knocked on their door and very frankly told my friend I could hear them. Problem solved, and we're still friends. :)
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I voted never, because I've never had to. If I ever was in this situation, I would. My old boyfriend had a really loose headboard. If you even sat on the bad, it would bang against the wall. His downstairs duplex neighbors were some of his closest friends, and they would bang on their ceiling/his floor when they heard us, but just joking around. He was a sweet guy and he was very handy about fixing things, but he wasn't that hot in bed. Sometimes I think he left his headboard loose like that on purpose so his friends would hear it and think he was a stud.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
This is so appropriate for the recent noises coming from my neighbors. I just blast the music to drown out the sound of a headboard against the wall and a squeaky bed. It's disturbing, but what can I do?
ikimashokie ikimashokie 7 years
These people who lived next to us loved to have loud, fake-sounding, sex. The girl had a horrible laugh, so I took to calling her chuckles. The geninuses had the headboard against the wall, so they would be at it all night, bang bang bang, 3, 4 am, making awful noise. One night, it made me super-angry. Maybe I had a test? I'm not certain, but I was maaad. I'd been over before, and all they did was go "durrr there is someone at the door lulz". So I decided to apply some interjections to their sex by yelling through the wall. Her: I love your d*ck! Me: IT'S SO BIG, LIKE THE SIZE OF A TODDLER!!!... or something Girl: Please stop! Me: No! Do it harder! in the ass! (I contemplated calling the police because she'd said "please stop", but since there weren't any additional sounds of distress, I let it slide) Girl: Ohgodohgodohgo- Me: JIMINY CRICKET! (you know, from that cartoon The Oblongs? Where the mom goes "ohgodohgodohgod JIMINYCRICKET!") Eventually they settled down that night, but my boyfriend wouldn't let me applaud them for FINALLY being done at 4.30am. Meanie. The next time they woke us up, I called the police.
Choco-cat Choco-cat 7 years
i have never confronted any neighbors, the ones currently below us have screaming fights with each other (yes, they are a nightmare) and loud sex. quite honestly, at this point, i prefer hearing the sex!
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I once had someone knock on the wall in a hotel once. Totally killed the dirty weekend away. When your in a hotel you kinda expect to hear it. But if I were at home? I'd ask them to shoosh a little bit, or just blast music super loud.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
Most of my neighbors are in their 70s and it's not a problem.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I picked Never, although that's not entirely true. I haven't done it yet, but I might if it was really awful. My best friend in law school lived in an apartment with really thin walls, and her neighbor would have shrieking, skin-slapping sex at all hours. She was too nice to say anything, but I totally would've let them know, even if it was just blasting porn-style music through the walls.
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
No, although my floormates and I did once crowd around the bedroom door of a girl we called "The Screamer" and cheer and applaud when she came out to shower after sex once! I know it sounds really mean, but her and her boyfriend had really loud, shrieking sex daily. They'd been written up (and FINED!) for noise violations twice and still hadn't quieted down, so we took matters into our own hands! She was sufficiently embarrassed and toned things down, although the girls in the room directly adjacent to her said they still heard her on occasion (always followed by a loud "SHH!" from her boyfriend!!).
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