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Couples Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms

One Couple, Two Beds

Sleeping separately may sound like a throwback to Victorian times, but it's also a look ahead. By 2015, the National Association of Home Builders expects 60 percent of custom homes to have dual master bedrooms.

One in four couples reported sleeping in separate bedrooms in a 2005 survey by the National Sleep Foundation. And they have good reason. Snoring, TV, and late-night computer use have become less tolerable as sleep has become an increasingly precious resource of American life.

I'd rather sleep — and I do mean sleep — alone than lie awake together. But there's one major problem: the bed is where American couples spend the most time interacting. With couples seeing less and less of each other, the marital bed may just be what's keeping the knot tied.

Sleeping in the same bed is good for health (somebody there to help in the middle of the night), sex, and security. But are those long-term benefits worth losing sleep over?

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amber512 amber512 6 years
I guess I can see how some would find it cold and distant, but I just don't. I mean, you're asleep! And we sleep very far apart in the bed, anyway. I can't sleep with something or someone touching me. Sometimes if the blanket brushes my feet wrong I wake up!
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
Not only do we sleep on one bed but we also share a blanket. And not one of those oversized ones that are meant for two. It's a normal sized blanket. Makes for a lot of cuddling. There have been nights where one of us has crashed on the couch because of sickness, but I would never want my own bedroom (well maybe for decorating purposes...I'd like to have my princess room back ;)
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
Unless one of us is sick, we'll sleep in the same bed. We're both pretty heavy sleepers, neither of us snore, and we generally have the same sleep schedule, so I think we're very lucky!
inlove23 inlove23 6 years
My boyfriends parents sleep in separate rooms and it's one thing I can never understand. I agree with skigurl while sometimes it is necessary it's not something you need two separate rooms for. I personally couldn't imagine sleeping away from my boyfriend while he is in the same house =/
amber512 amber512 6 years
My husband and I don't specifically have separate bedrooms, but we sleep separately sometimes throughout the week. I am a VERY light sleeper, so if he is going to bed much later than me, he just sleeps on the couch so I don't get woken up. It takes me hours to fall back asleep after being woken up, so I very much appreciate it! Even if we are going to sleep separately for the night, we still get in bed and do our nighly chat first. I wouldn't want to miss that!
bransugar79 bransugar79 6 years
I can't imagine sleepin in another room for my whole marriage. I think everyone has those restless nights when no matter how hard you try sleep just doesn't happen for some reason, so I can totally see spending a night in the spare bedroom to let the other person get rest. But overall, sleeping together is one of the thing I enjoy most about being married.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
oops I meant under the same roof* and plus, we have 2 spare rooms, so if I ever needed to sleep elsewhere, I'd just go there.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
With reference to the post's question: are those long-term benefits worth losing sleep over? YES I think they are. Sleeping together is very important, and it's intimate, and I think it's a part of a healthy relationship. Plus, I agree with SKG, while sometimes sleeping apart may be beneficial (if it's too hot in the room due to lack of A/C, if he is snoring, if he or I am sick etc.), I would never make seperate bedrooms. While under the same rood, I have never slept apart from my bf in all the time we've lived together or known each other.
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