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Is Crazy Sexy?

What is it about those nutty girls, the ones that leave a wake of chaos and drama behind them everywhere they go, that make the men swoon? begins to examine this strange phenomenon offering both real-life experiences and movie romances — they point out Natalie Portman in Garden State, but I immediately thought of Kirsten Dunst in Crazy/Beautiful. The post states:

Of course it isn't about trust. This is about lawlessness. Chaos. Escapism and unpredictability — a balls-out, soul-affirming what's-nextness that is so rare and so powerful that you completely forget to give a sh*t about consequences and personal sacrifices.

Okay, this explanation is all well and good — we get it, she's exciting, but what about all the extra baggage she brings? Obviously I don't make the connection between crazy and sexy. Do you? Please explain this to me. What is it about being a bit loony and wild that makes a guy go gaga?


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CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
candy, actually what you just said proves what we all said, guys like crazy because there isnt a commitment, if you are having one night stands with them and they dump you.....its the same thing as us saying that guys like crazy because there is no commitment. and there isnt any such thing as "normal"
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
not sexy. thrilling for an evening though. i had some wild times back in the day. now i'm older, married, have kids. i wouldn't do any of that now. glad i got it out of my system, glad i did it a little.
candy-apple candy-apple 9 years
wow.. for once, i have to disagree with dear and most of the posters. and believe me- i speak from personal experience. i am crazy. it's not a good thing. it doesn't get me guys. it gets me one night stands who don't give two fucks about me the next morning. it makes people scared, and it makes people leave me. and because i'm crazy scared of being alone, i act even more crazy to make them stay. which makes them run faster, surprise, surprise. it may look cool and like a fun role to play once in a while, but when it's reality for you, when you're the one with the drama, the baggage, the constant emotional ups and downs and neediness, then it's not fun. you won't believe how it feels to have your heart break because the wonderful guys you're best friends with, and who you happen to have feelings for, keep falling for the "normal" happy, sunshiny and well rounded girls. it's happened more times than i can count. it just happened again- why the rant. sorry.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I remember that movie, good lord she was tapped.
gummybears123 gummybears123 9 years
i think that guys like crazy girls because they are usually confident and confidence is sexy. Also crazy girls intrigue them because they want to figure them out.
Stacey-Cakes Stacey-Cakes 9 years
It's because we are wild, fun, and spontaneous and probably everything their moms told that to stay away from! It's the same reasons girls always go for the bad boys.
AnnaLove AnnaLove 9 years
Well I'll just come out and say I get to be pretty crazy psycho when I'm in a relationship. Most of it has to do with my jealousy. I make up crazy rules for my boyfriend and I'll choke him when he doesn't do what I want :) But he loves that I'm crazy for him. I think I got this from my ex who was my first real boyfriend. We were together for 3 years and he was sooo crazy. Like really nuts. He'd lose it if I hung out with my guy friend (a skinny little sad looking dude I might add) and drive 2 hours to my school and threaten to break his nose and kill him and shit. I KNOW this was crossing the line... I could go on and on with all the crazy shit he did. He was never actually violent with me physically. I'm not gonna say I didn't have anything to do with him being crazy, I did cheat on him 8 times (I was 16, this was a long time ago). It's sad but that first relationship set the tone for my current relationship, I think. I rubbed off on my boyfriend and now he's crazy jealous too -- He freaked out crying last week when I was about to get examined by my OB for our baby... ugh. I guess we're just really wrapped up in eachother. Like we love each other to the point of losing it. Yah it's sick, but I wouldn't change my relationship.
Marci Marci 9 years
I think that kind of craziness can be a real aphrodisiac to some guys; the wild and fun girl they can't quite get hold of. The one they can't get.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
I instantly think of Drew Barrymore and Chris ODonnell in "MAD LOVE" when i think of crazy girls attracting normal boys. I agree with others. the crazy=easy=no commitment. that simple. Or else they are wanting to "fix" her.
lemuse20 lemuse20 9 years
I've wondered this too. I have thought that... the thing is, the girl can be unpredictable for only so long, until the guy learns all her schemes and how she works, what makes her so fun, and the exciting stuff dissapates, she becomes predictable, and then what's left? There's definitely got to be more than just being unpredictable.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
Maybe it's the 'devil-may-care' attitude that they possess? Spontaneous, unpredictable, exciting. Men like excitement. But too much excitement will probably tire them too when they are ready to settle down? I dunno. Everyone's different. Plus those girls in the movies are gorgeous :lol:
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
See when they say the "Nutty" girls the crazy sexy, I think instantly of a few people I know. The kind of girls that are loud, rude, say whatever they want to whoever they want and act as if they don't care what anyone thinks about it. And they tend to be WAY worse and pretty scary/fun when they are drunk. I have friends like this. The guys I know, say they like them because they have spunk! I kid you not.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
Spontaneous and unpredictable? Great. Nutty, violent, stalkerish, or otherwise just plain wildly unstable? Not so much. Maybe it's the same sort of thing as the girls who are attracted to the "bad boys"?
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
brittanyk--hunny ur not crazy, ur spontaneous which is extra cool i think they mean crazy crazy, like ppl who dont give 2 sh*ts about consequences and just break things, break hearts, break rules u know
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
My fiance has told me that my "craziness" is one of the main reasons he's attracted to me. I love doing random, unplanned things. I live for crazy adventures and occasionally letting go and just not caring. My fiance is the exact opposite, he always has to have everything planned out and researched. He kind of admires my independent streak. About a month ago, we were talking about deep dish pizza. Two weeks later I made him get in the car and I didn't tell him where we were going. I drove the entire way from New Jersey to Chicago to go get pizza...and needless to say, we both had a fun time. :-p
spazzydana spazzydana 9 years
its almost funny how everyone now has to go "dont kill me but.." so they dont get brutally attacked on these posts.
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
I understand this and live it. I am drawn to men who are off-balance, myself. I am willing to deal with the cons that come along with it, because it's what I like. No one is perfect, and I would rather have a thrilling life than a boring and complacent one.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
no offense, but the "crazy" ones also arent the "marrying type" dont blame me, guys have told me this
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I think it has to do with the fact that many women can get bogged down with planning every single detail of every day, and over analyzing ever single thing, and women who don't do that can be refreshing. I love to be friends with crazy women, they keep life interesting!
missyd missyd 9 years
OK don't kill me for what I'm about to suggest.......... Sometimes *just sometimes* the crazy ones come off as so crazy and nutty that guys think they'd be easy. It's just something I've noticed. Not always, but sometimes.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
I like there to be some type of adventure such as; traveling out of the country or coming up with random ideas... However, there are time I like to stay home and rest...
lemassabielle lemassabielle 9 years
I think this is part of the reason my boyfriend loves me so much and keeps coming back. I'm really unpredictable and crazy. He always says it annoys him that he can't tame me or break me down a bit. It's a great way to be in my opinion as long as I'm not breaking any serious laws.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I tend to be a bit like this sometimes. When I can you know? But there is always a time and place. I think I am more outgoing and sporatic then crazy though. My bf is the opposite haha. I always tell him to do last minute vacations and let's move to another city...but it's not like that!
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