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Crying Too Much

"I'm a Cry Baby"

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

OK, I'll admit it: I cry too much. I just can't control it. I swear I would if I could. But I literally can't. It's out of my control. Tears come in front of any one, and strangers even, and it makes me look so weak and vulnerable.

So last night, while we were fighting, my boyfriend of one year, who Is so understanding and "sensitive" told me that he hated that I cried too much. He said, "You cry when you're happy, you cry when you're sad, you cry when you're hurt, and I am so sick of it."


Should I be worried about his being insensitive towards my feelings? Or is this normal?

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GZO GZO 5 years
I think being around someone who cries at everything is incredibly exhausting. Having to watch someone cry at the drop of a hat puts a person in a difficult position. At first you take it seriously, like "oh no why is this person crying, let me make it better." Then it becomes less like "let me make it better" and more like an "oh jeez not this again", boy/girl-who-cried-wolf, I-can't-help-but-roll-my-eyes kind of situation. I had not one but TWO boyfriends who cried so much, I don't even know how I dealt with it. At first it was like "aw cute, sensitive" then it became "there is something wrong with this person and I don't know if it can be fixed". So that being said, I wouldn't worry that your boyfriend is a huge jerk. I think his feelings are normal.   But I think the fact that you are crying so much all the time needs to be addressed. You probably get too wrapped up in your own emotions that you can't see anything outside of them, and that's why everything makes you cry. When you feel a cry coming on, try to take a step back and look at the big picture logically. I'm not saying it's bad to be an emotional person and have emotions, but if it's affecting your relationships, and the way you present yourself ("it makes me look so weak and vulnerable"), then you need to try something new to change it. Good luck, because I'm sure it'll be hard!
jaan_black jaan_black 5 years
meh, you're emotional - there are worse things to least you'll never suffer from chronic dry eye but I would try to refrain from crying at work or places where people will not care and you could be deemed a "cry baby"...good luck
Hello-Kitty-Lover Hello-Kitty-Lover 5 years
HMmmmmm.........some people might tend to be more emotionally expressive than others. For example, some people can blush very easily. But I'm not sure if you are more emotional or maybe your tear circuit has a lower threshold (sorry if I sound weird, I am a biology student hahaha). If it is causing problems in your daily life, I suggest you to maybe see a doctor? Just to be sure. But then again, he might not mean it in the spur of an argument. So don't be too hurt from the statement. And from the way you described the situation, its like you have no control over your tears and you can't help it. And you are not being some drama queen. So he must learn to accept the 'crybaby' that you are to still be in a relationship. No one is perfect. And some people just have more obvious shortcomings than others and trust me dear this is actually a quite minor thing in my opinion.... =D
Bubbles12 Bubbles12 5 years
Has it caused problems in your life? If it's a problem at work, if you find yourself embarrassed or if it compromises you in life somehow then yes, that's a problem. Otherwise, how cool is it you are that in touch with what moves you? Sounds to me that your boyfriend got sick of this one thing like we already get sick of the quirks our SOs have, no matter what they are. Your call. But from what you say you sound fine.
BiWife BiWife 5 years
If you've not been able to figure out how to manage emotions on your own, don't be afraid to reach out for some help. Set up a few sessions with a therapist/counselor. They can help you learn new/better coping techniques, help you become more in control of your emotions. Psychiatry Today has a counselor/therapist directory that you can search through to find someone near you.
MsSharkie MsSharkie 5 years
Oh my gosh!! My ex-boyfriend used to say that too me all the time. Seems as if he has no feelings. Out of the 4 years we've been together, I've only seen him cry once. Sorry I could answer your question but I feel better knowing I'm not the only one that cries too much.
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