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DEARSUGAR NEEDS YOUR HELP: My Friend Borrowed My Underwear!

DEARSUGAR and Grossed Out Gretta need your help. Should she ask her friend to replace her underwear or just let it go? Some people have such bad manners.

Dear Sugar
Saturday night I had a bunch of girls sleep over after one too many cosmo's and a movie marathon. It was great and is something that we definitely need to do more often. Three of us piled into my bed and the other two slept on the couch.

The next morning one of the girls had to go to a family brunch and she asked if she could borrow an outfit. I said yes and I truly didn't mind at all. She's a good friend and she's clean and responsible so I didn't think twice about it really.

Well, the next week, she handed me the clothes back in a bag; all washed and folded and I was happy. However, when I got home, I saw that she had also borrowed my underwear. They too were washed and folded but there was a nasty period stain in the crotch.

Ew! I was totally skeeved out. I can't believe that she thought I wouldn't notice. I don't know what to do. She could have at least mentioned it. I am so disappointed that part of me wants to ask her to buy me a new pair of panties. Is that lame of me? What do you think? Grossed Out Gretta

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soccer_obsessed soccer_obsessed 10 years
H0T-Tamale H0T-Tamale 10 years
you know gossipqueen has a point there ,what if that was your stain and u didn't notice it before .eeuwww..and what it is this underwear sharing in the first place.if u guys were hanging out the night before and she had to go somewhere then she could have just gone out without underwear ,it's not like anyone was gonna notice. under wears and bathing suits are very personal.those are two things that even the best of friends shouldn't share.have some of you notice ?..when u go out and buy a new bathing suit how there's a protective label on the crotch area well it's there for a reason .
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 10 years
I agree with everyone else. Just chuck the undies out.
honey31 honey31 10 years
Id say u can have them!
Lindsb Lindsb 10 years
Um yes, definitely throw yours out. Haha. I don't think that should be an issue. I wouldn't say anything.. I am sure she is ridiculously embarassed already - she really needed to ask to borrow those though.. they don't really fall in the same catagory as borrowing an outfit. Haha. Just remember it for the future.. if she asks to borrow an outfit again just say yeah.. but help her pick it out and keep an eye on your panty drawer.
pinkangelmonkey pinkangelmonkey 10 years
i just hope if she replaces them they are with underwear NWT! haha instead of a pair of hers. i think that is gross and she should have replaced them or tossed them and not said anything about them. i say you should say something though because that is really disgusting. if she could gross you out by returning blood spotted underoos you can embarass her by mentioning it. imo she should be embarassed of her actions...sorry but seriously who borrows underwear and returns them? im with jinxy on that comment! :jawdrop:
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
I agree: just throw them out and don't embarrass her.
Jinx Jinx 10 years
Who borrows someone's undies? And then returns them? Thats awful. ~Procrastinate Now! Don't Put It Off~ (Ellen)
azucar_maddy azucar_maddy 10 years
I agree with most of the commenters. Just throw them out and move on. She probably doesn't know that she did something "wrong." After all, that is all relative according to perspectives. Don't humuiliate her _ how would you feel if you were in her shoes?
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
Throw them out and forget it! A pair of panties that you didn't even know you were missing is a stupid reason to lose a friend. How do you know they're yours for sure? you guys could have the same kind...or how do you know is her stain and not yours??? because she returned them you "inspected" them...unless she has absolutely no sense of cleanliness or shame she would have never returned them stained.... but seriously...get a life...lose a friend for a pair of panties?????
Mme-Hart Mme-Hart 10 years
Kaaaaaaaaaate!!!!! Have you married that alien-man yet?? LOL!
Kate-Needs-Help Kate-Needs-Help 10 years
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
See when it comes to stuff like this, I'm so close with my friends I could be like "Did yah start your period in my panties, there buddy?" Just laugh it off. Fuh-getta-bout-it!
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 10 years
Toss 'em and move on already.
H0T-Tamale H0T-Tamale 10 years
i say just throw them out ,maybe it wasn't even her that washed them and she didn't notice..although if it were me and i was returning some piece of clothing i would make sure that it was properly washed but just let it go.
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 10 years
i think you should throw them out.. but wow thts jst wrong.. to give back underwear with a stain in them? wtf was she thinking??
wynter wynter 10 years
Yeah, I'd toss them too and save the friendship.
sofi sofi 10 years
Toss em- too embarrassing to bring up. Unless she is usually this inconsiderate, forget about it.
la_clique la_clique 10 years
Yech. Toss em.
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
Who knows, maybe her Mom did the laundry, and put it the bag...and your friend has no idea. :? Friendship is way more important than a pair of panties. :)
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
Please, take JessNess and WhiplashGirlchild's advice. Just throw them away, and save the friendship.
Rainey Rainey 10 years
yikes, throw them out.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
That reminds me of my mom. She borrowed my bathing suit when she visted me the LAST time and well from what I know about my mom I had to throw them away Sad. Trash and move along. Hide ur panties -------------------- -------------------- ATTENTION ALL SECRET SANTA LOVERS VISIT THE ONCE UPON A FAB FINDING HOLIDAY SUITE ASAP TO CONFIRM PARTICIPATION!
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 10 years
I agree with Jess. It's disgusting and inconsiderate that she borrowed your underwear but she probably just didn't realize she was doing anything wrong. Different people have different standards. Just let it go and throw the panties away. Bringing it up would probably humiliate her.
JessNess JessNess 10 years
Are they really expensive underwear? If they are just plain undies that you buy in a 6 pack I would just throw them away and not say anything. There is no need to embrasass her. Actually even if they werent the 6 pack undies I probably wouldnt say anything...just throw them away. There is no need to possibly ruin a friendship for panties
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