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DEARSUGAR and Back-Stabbed Brianna need your help. She just found out that her best friend slept with two ex boyfriend's of hers. She was willing to forgive her the first time, but this time she's reluctant. What should she do?

Dear Sugar
Last year my best friend confessed to me that she slept with the same guy that I lost my virginity to. We dated for only a brief time and we weren't really in love, so I forgave her. She has been my friend forever and I love her dearly- I really didn't want to fight with her over this since she also happens to be the godmother to my son.

However, recently, I just found out that (from one of her good friends) that had also slept with another one of my ex-boyfriends...and this was a man that I was deeply in love with. When I confronted her about it she denied it. The friend who told me has no reason to lie. I am confused and I don't know who to believe. What should I do? Back-Stabbed Brianna

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snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 10 years
oh.. just realized that she slept with them AFTER you broke up.. in that case its not a huge thing! yes it must sting but the important thing is she didn't sleep with them when you were with them, right? For me it would really bother me, btu you can't say much, because you need to move on after a break up. However, i hope she waited at least, like umm 6 weeks before sleeping with them?!
Froggee285 Froggee285 10 years
god parents really are not involved with the raising of a child. its more a religious thing for baptisim. my uncle and aunt are my god parents, and really, they are my uncle and aunt. they dont even live in the same state.
Froggee285 Froggee285 10 years
She denied it, but how did you ask? Were you all angry about it or were you calm? SHe might have denied it out of fear that THIS was the final straw. OR maybe the above was right, she didn't but your friend has something against her. Who knows. But don't ask the ex. Ugh. I think you'd look like a total idiot, going around to men saying "did she sleep with you?", becasue who really cares. If you are NOT dating these men, even if you really loved them, the fact still remains that you are NOT dating them. You do not have your name printed on them, property of ... do you? Women Law says not to date your friend's ex's, okay, her goof. Maybe she has self esteem problems, sleeping around like this, I would just LET IT GO. I would sit her down, tell her that so and so Said you slept with Mr. Ex and you don't care what happened and you are offically letting it go because life is too short to dwell on petty things and you value your friendship. Becasue this is petty.
getstinko getstinko 10 years
there are basic relationship/friendship rules - exes are off limits. 1 mistake is a huge issue, 2 mistakes and you need to kick her to the curb. The choice in GodParents is a different topic and one of the reasons it is my preference to chose family over friends for GodParents. Do you really want someone who makes such poor decisions that heavily involved with your son?
nyarce nyarce 10 years
Luna13 Luna13 10 years
i would cut her out of my life so fast it would make her head spin. Any guy that has been out or slept with my girlfriends is off limits, thats a rule! forgive her once, forgive her twice shame on you!
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
Good advice, kamiko82. Asking the ex is a good idea. ~* “I think the thing to do is to enjoy the ride while you're on it.” -Johnny Depp *~
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 10 years
Well you never know, the one who told you about your friend and your ex may have something against that friend, and be trying to get her back. But it seems likely that she did sleep with him (since she did it once), and it is probably hard for her to admit it to your face since she knows how you felt about him. If these girls are really important to you and you have to know, could you ask your ex nicely to tell you the truth? If not, maybe concentrate on other people for the time being to take your mind off of this issue, and don't worry much about it, because your ex is in your past, and that girl ALREADY betrayed you: forgiveness is ok, but you can definitely find nicer friends than her. From my experiences, girls that do that are pretty much good for nothing, and they have a hard time changing, (although they always insist that they have changed) so why not concentrate on the nicer ppl in your life. Good luck!
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