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Hi Everybody. Since you were so helpful, thoughtful and insightful with all of your advice yesterday, I'd like to reach out to all of you regularly. Please let me know what you think about having DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help as a regular feature on the site.

Today, I'd like to pony up all of you cheerleaders out there. It looks like Sad Sadler could use an inspirational pep talk.

Dear Sugar

I have freckles.
I have braces.
I am overweight.
I just don't feel pretty anymore.
Can you please offer some helpful advice on how to perk up and feel a better about myself when I look in the mirror? Sometimes I don't even feel like getting dressed. Sad Sadler

peepshow peepshow 11 years
Hey Sad. Sorry I'm so late on this, I've been away. Anyway, the best thing to do in this situation is WORK IT! Sexiness comes from the inside and shows through to the outside. And that's not "beauty is on the inside" cr*p either. FEEL hot, and you will BE hot. Others will notice your confidence!
jennifer76 jennifer76 11 years
Awwwwwwww, there's nothing wrong with freckles, braces are temporary and will make you even more gorgeous and weight can be lost!! And, I'll bet even people like Jessica Alba have days where they just don't feel hot. You're in good company!
appreciated appreciated 11 years
Freckles- I have em and don't really like them just because they make me "cute" not "sexy" or "hot" But they do still look good on a lot of people! Braces- Its just a phase! Oneday you'll be brace free and I'm sure you'll be happy with the results. Who cares if you wanted to fix your teeth?! You're taking care of yourself, that's a good thing!! Overweight- Well like others said if you really want to change that you can go to the gym (or work out at home if that's not an option) and eat properly. It takes a lot of work on your part and you have to REALLY want it. As for just generally not feeling pretty...we all have our days. Last week I must've tried on 40 outfits and still couldn't pick something to wear because I felt fat and ugly in every single one! My mom gave me a pep talk about how there was one lady she worked with who had a beautiful face and a great personality but was literally obese. Still everyone was attracted to her and thought she was awesome. Everyone has great features, you've just got to find them within yourself! :)
JennaV JennaV 11 years can fix being overweight. Gym it up! Even if you start with just 10 minutes on the treadmill, you will feel so much better after the workout. Eventually, you will work your way up to more advanced stuff and the results will start showing :) Freckles.....ADORABLE!!!!! I won't even address that because they are so cute. Braces: Just think of how gorgeous your teeth will be when they come off!!!! Hugs, Jenna
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 11 years
1) Freckles are BEAUTIFUL 2) Braces are not forever (trust me- I had them for 5 years- blah...) 3) Overweight is something you can fix. Just try working out a few times a week. Trust me, it only takes a week to start feeling better about yourself. Remember: Feeling good about yourself is all in your mind. Start thinking positive and positive things will come!
sjpwannabe sjpwannabe 11 years
you are not alone! everyone has had a day, a week, a month or a year where they have felt just like you! this too shall pass. and it may return or it may not. try not to isolate yourself--hard as it is you need to get out and go be with people or do something to pamper yourself or even go to a movie. just don't be alone so you can get more into your head and more depressed. hang in there!
My-Opinion My-Opinion 11 years
The freckles will probably fade, alot! The braces will come off after a couple far as being overweight, it's not that hard NOT to be.....stay away from all those sweets! Trim all the fat off of any meat you may eat. Eat alot of fruit, you can eat an apple 20 minutes before any meal and feel very full, so you are not likely to eat a huge portion of 'whatever'........don't use food as a 'best friend' your own best friend and make a goal for yourself...starting with your eating habits, and make an effort to actually excercise.....hunni, we 'all' wish we could just 'think' about an exercise and it'll be like, "TADA".........ALL SCULPTED", but unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. Walking is an excellent way to start out, that way you'll get your heart use to pumpin' more* good luck.
jillyb34ns jillyb34ns 11 years
I have freckles. -> ME TOO! I used to hate my freckles, until I realized just how freakishly cute they are. Tons of people have them. L Lo's got them, Sienna Miller has them (granted, that's only sometimes), and lots more. I have braces. -> I used to have them too. Braces are pretty cool because of what they do to your mouth when it's closed. It kinda pushes your lips out a little, it gives you a super pretty pout all the time. I kinda wish I still had mine on actually... Plus, there's nothing better than a huge smile with lots of glittery little bits! I am overweight. -> Again... I am too. A little. What I am finding to be obscenely helpful, since I'm still in school, is to join a class at my college that's a PE class. That way I definitely feel motivated to actually do the work. If you can fine a community college in your area (since I have no idea how old you are) I'd definitely suggest that. That way, you don't have to buy expensive gym memberships, and you're in a group of people who are all trying to accomplish the same thing- being healthy! I just don't feel pretty anymore. -> I'm really sorry about that. I went through a phase like that a couple months ago, and it just sucked. It may take a while to snap out of it, but until that happens, just keep trying to think positive thoughts!!!!!!!!!!! I really hope that this helps!!!
Advah Advah 11 years
First of all, freckles are CUTE! So stop worrying about this right now. As for the rest, did you ever notice that it's not little physical details but behaviour that makes a person look sexy? Look at Elizabeth Hurley or Penelope Cruz for instance, they don't have a "perfect" nose, but are definitely sexy because they are self-confident, have a great smile. You can indeed do some exercise (endorphins definitely work), or you can also try home Pilates, within a week you'll stand straighter and feel way more confident about who you are, seriously. And try a new haircut to feel different, put on some make up, find nice clothes you feel comfortable in.. If your moral is better, you will feel better and people will only notice your cute smile and not your braces. Moreover don't forget that these are temporary, and that your teeth will be perfect after that!
soglamtheresa soglamtheresa 11 years
K, I had braces TWICE! Including my freshman year in college where I also happened to put on the dreaded Freshman 15. I totally second the work out idea, especially in the morning. You'll be pumped up with a bunch of energy for the rest of your day! PLUS you'll know that you did something great for your body. Also, hit up your fave cosmetic counter and get a free makeover. Heck, you can make the rounds...MAC one day, Lancome the next, Stila, Chanel, etc... Have a great weekend girlie!
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 11 years
dear sad, 1) Lidnsey lohan has a gozillion freckles and considered a beautiful georgoes girl!! 2) you wont have braces forever so just think of it as some temporarily extra bling !!! 3) you can lose weight!!!!! a lil excersise, watchin your food choices and youll be good to go!! good luck and cheer up. we have all been there!
Lea Lea 11 years
we've all been there! freckles, braces, frizzy hair, glasses, a few extra pounds... first of all, just know that you're DEFINITELY not the only person that's gone through this! i agree with meow's comment above - exercising is great and makes you feel happy. curves is a great environment to work out and you don't even feel like you're actually exercising when you're there. when things are really bad, try to do one thing that makes you feel really good about yourself. wear some really cute shoes even if your clothes don't feel right. put on some funky jewelry or get a manicure and pedicure so there's something shiny and sparkly on your body. above all - smile! watching a funny tv show or movie will boost your spirits. and when you're happy on the inside, it will show on your outside as well.
findblancomeow findblancomeow 11 years
exercise! i know that sounds like a pat answer, but once you get going, your body releases endorphins and it really does improve your mood. and getting more in shape is bound to help your self esteem. if you don't feel comfortable going to a gym (which i don't, personally. i find it intimidating) try joining a curves, or another fitness club or something that is just for women. my best friend joined curves and she had previously been very self concious about her body. but she feels comfortable there and has talked it up so much she got me to join too! p.s. freckles are so cute! i love pics of lindsay lohan and other celebrities when they don't airbrush out their freckles, i think it looks so naturally pretty.
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