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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: A Little Give and Take

DEARSUGAR and Anti Oral Sex Anita need your help. Her boyfriend isn't satisfied in the sack and he's asked her to perform oral sex on him. This is something that she not only dislikes, but really has no idea how to do it well. Since sex isn't just one sided, rather, it's a two way street, can you ladies help her out...but please, let's keep it tasteful.

Dear Sugar
I've been dating my boyfriend for six months now and we are having sex (great sex to be frank)! The problem is that he has told me that he thinks I am selfish in bed and I am not sure how to fix this. He tells me that he spoils me by giving me multiple orgasms multiple times and that he gives into me when I want to keep at it for hours on end (what can I say, I really love sex).

Neither one of us has performed oral sex on one another and I never ask him to do it because I really don't need it and also, I don't want to have to do it to him, I think it's awful. He tells me that he totally understands, however, recently, we had a long conversation and he told me that he really does want oral sex and he feels that it's selfish of me to abstain from it just because it's not my favorite thing to do.

I told him that he does a fabulous job of pleasing me and he told me that I don't fulfill him. He continued on to say that he feels that I don't go the extra mile to satisfy him and I was speechless. I really care about him and I want us both to be happy when it comes to sex.

I don't want to be selfish, I'm just not into doing it. I guess if I want to keep him though, I'd better start taking some action. Can you guys help me though. To be honest, I have no clue how to do it well. Can you please help me out? Anti Oral Sex Anita

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