DEARSUGAR and On The Side Sandra need your help. She just found out that her husband had proposed to her and another woman at the same time. She has just learned that the other woman was killed in an accident. Should she confront her husband about his affair?
I met my husband in Iraq on deployment. During this time, I was separating from my ex-husband, and our separation was mutual. I almost instantly fell in love with my current husband, however we decided to wait a year to publicly date in the states so that everything would be settled with my ex.
However, before we got home, we changed our minds and decided we should be together right away. I moved in with him, but he refused to call me his girlfriend; he just referred to me as his "friend". He said it was because his divorce had not gone through yet.
Just recently I found out that while he was confessing his undying love for me, and telling me he wanted to be with me, he was also with another girl. He had proposed to her as well and was waiting for her answer before he would call me his girlfriend. As it turns out, she turned him down after six months of waiting.
Just a little while ago, I found out that she died in a car accident six months after she turned down his marriage proposal. He doesn't know that I know about her but this whole saga has really been bothering me. Do you think that I should I confront him about it? It really hurts to know that my husband proposed to me and another woman in the same time frame. On The Side Sandra