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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: Sayonara Sublets

DEARSUGAR and Hasta La Vista Venus could use some advice about courtesy when it comes to leases and roommates. As you become older, this kind of thing only gets trickier. What do you think is the proper way to handle her situation?

Dear Sugar
I am the "master tenant" on a fabulous three bedroom apartment that I share with two roommates. I found the place and my name is the only name on the lease. The other roommates sublet from me.

Recently, my boyfriend and I have decided to move in together, and we want the fabulous apartment to ourselves. I am locked into my lease for another year, and I know that I can't really kick my roommates out, but I'd like to ask them, politely, to leave.

How do you think I should go about it? Should I offer to help them move? Should I offer them money to move? Should I give them a set time when I need them out? I don't want to be mean and leave them stranded, but this is my apartment after all. Hasta La Vista Venus

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cubadog cubadog 10 years
I have been in this position with someone that I was renting from and I would highly recommend you check out the rental laws in your state before you do anything. I would suggest 60 days with my experience 30 days really would not have been enough time. The place I wanted to move into wasn't going to be ready in 30 days and where I am at now is where I really wanted to be. Be very honest with them my previous roommie was not so it made things really uncomfortable for her because I found out while she was away for a month why she wanted me out. Also realize that if they move out before the 60 days is up they are only required to pay rent for the time they are there since it is you that is asking them to leave. Helping them out with moving supplies etc would be a very nice thing to do.
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
Thirty days notice is sufficient, and offering to help them move is sweet. If they are your friends, they will be happy for you and your man. If they are not, 30 days is all they need.
SleepyMeg SleepyMeg 10 years
I think it depends on if you guys are all friends...Also did they sign a sublease or was the arrangement verbal? You should check with your state to see how long of a notice you are required to give your "tenants" It would suck to be sued...but in today's society you can't be too careful. 30 days is usually customary, though.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Set a time and get it in writing. Im a similar boat cept we allowed our stubbornly dumb brother in law to move in our 2 bed room apartment. hmmm I think I need to ask dear sugar to lol
haze1nut haze1nut 10 years
how long have you been living with them? if you're not too close, 60 days seems like a good amount. 30 would be okay but 60 would give them time to find a new place. i don't think any material compensation should be needed, it is YOUR place and it's under your name. you should help them out to be polite, maybe buy some boxes and what not and start seperating things. make sure your boyfriend helps out! that way they don't really see him as 'the reason' they were kicked out.
Nicadema Nicadema 10 years
I agree with Whiplash. Give them 60 days notice. It had to end sometime as you all grew older and would eventually move on to different things. Explain that you are ready for the next phase of your life!
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