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Is Dad Walking a Bride Down Aisle Sexist or Sweet?

Is Giving a Bride Away Sexist or Sweet?

Crown Princess Victoria of Sweden is upsetting elders and the Church of Sweden because of an odd wedding request she's made: she wants her father, King Carl XVI Gustaf, to give her away at her wedding next month.

Of course, in the US many brides worry about asking their fathers not to walk them down the aisle, but Sweden considers the practice sexist. Priest and theologian, Annika Borg, is disappointed in the princesses choice. "The idea of the couple entering the church together symbolizes that the man and the woman are entering the marriage of their own free will," she said. "In the future it is going to be very hard for us to resist requests from brides who want to be given away."

So, wedding tradition aside, is dad giving daughter away on her wedding day sexist or sweet?

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Studio16 Studio16 7 years
It's just tradition. It's not Daddy Dearest saying, "This is mine, now it's yours." Like another poster said, it's a send-off. All the women who consider it a hallmark of the patriarchy need to calm down. It's a tradition, and no one seriously considers it the father trading property anymore.
canadianbacon canadianbacon 7 years
Enough PC-ness already. It's HER day; let HER choose. What's more egalitarian than that? Since I'm not the groom, I'm going to keep my f**king nose out of someone else's business (as everyone else should, also).
robinlh912 robinlh912 7 years
I have no problem with the father walking the daughter down the aisle, but I'm sure when I get married I'd go with both my parents, just because it's always been me and both my parents, no siblings, and it would seem weird leaving my mom out at that point.
Lyv Lyv 7 years
Sexist, at least in theory. I don't wanna do it either. How weird is it though, that Sweden's so awesomely open-minded and worried about sexist traditions but are old-fashioned enough to still have princesses ?
bryseana bryseana 7 years
The ceremonial aspect may have sexist origins - the bride wearing white to symbolize purity, the father giving her away, then taking the husband's last name.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
^^Nancita, that's a great idea (having both the bride and groom walked down the aisle by both parents).
nancita nancita 7 years
Ugh, I just find it old-fashioned and offensive. Not when other people do it, but it's not a statement I want to make. I'm all for including my family, though; both my dude and I will be walked down the aisle by both our parents.
sourcherries sourcherries 7 years
I think you can infer your own meaning. I want to have both my parents walk me down the aisle.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I kind of like the Swedish tradition of the bride and groom walking down the aisle together. Too bad that's not more common in the US, though I've seen it done before.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I agree with boredgourdles. It was originally very sexist in that up until the last few decades, there was no symbolism to it. It was literally a father handing over responsibility for his daughter to her future husband. Now, I think it's a rote tradition just like wearing white or tossing a bouquet, so I don't think it's really sexist to the extent that no one even thinks about why they're doing it.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
(Or I could have just agreed with postmodernsleaze, as she said it all already!) ;)
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
Someone on Jezebel said that, to paraphrase, the tradition started as a piece of patriarchal society, and has now morphed into a rote tradition. And I agree; does any modern bride really think she's being handed off like a piece of property? That being said, my dad gave me away. It made him so happy to walk his daughter down the aisle, I couldn't imagine telling him no.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
IMO our tradition and theirs is silly but harmless traditions non the less. Bride and groom should be free to do whatever the F they want it's their wedding.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
It is tradition. In my culture, I think, the mother also gives the groom away, I have seen mothers walked with their son towards the aisle.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I think it's sweet and just an item of tradition nowadays. I doubt there is any bride who takes it seriously that she is being "given away" as property from her father to her new husband. A lot of traditions have odd beginnings, but if you take them too seriously in the present day, we might as well rewrite everything we do.
FrostAyr FrostAyr 7 years
I think it's sweet... but the bride and the groom should be on equal footing in the marriage (if they enter together that will symbolize that more). I think that if the father goes, it's like a nice gesture, or the blessing that was so important in olden days. Then again, in my culture, this stuff usually doesn't happen/I have never seen it happen.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I like it as a symbolic gesture, like a sending off.
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