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Dear's Advice on Atonement

Dear's Advice on Atonement

Atonement, one of the Best Picture nominees for the 2008 Oscars, is wrought with wrongdoings and drama. In this specific incident, a chain reaction of events actually seems to echo a universal problem that I'm sure we've all dealt with in one way or another — if a message that's never meant to be seen ends up in the wrong hands, trouble always arises. Check out the clip below, and then share your own experiences.

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Dear's Advice: We've all played the game of telephone enough as kids to know that a message can be completely changed and taken out of context after it's been told too many times — especially one that shouldn't have been revealed to begin with. Once it's out, it's out, so the best thing that you can do is some immediate damage control, which usually begins with fessing up and apologizing — it's going to be awkward no matter what, so get it over with quickly. Confront the "messenger" directly before the rumor begins to spread, and try to offer a reasonable explanation.

Once you've apologized, take the necessary precautions to make sure this doesn't happen again. In this case, getting rid of the note is probably a good idea but in this digital age, when sending a message is just a click away, things are dicier than ever. Make sure to confirm who you're sending something to before you press send. That one second can save you hours of anxiety — trust me, you don't want to learn that lesson the hard way!


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pyleela pyleela 9 years
The movie (and the situations in it) was just very frustrating for me.
pyleela pyleela 9 years
I thought Briony was stupid. 13-year-old usually understands love, and even lust.
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
I hated the movie.
geenbean geenbean 9 years
I think the movie stays true to the book, which I have yet to read. Really, the picture is just gorgeous, and even though the ending is sad, come on, it couldn't end any other way! And yeah, Briony's atonement at the end made me just roll my eyes. Definitely not good enough!
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
I read the book. ARGH. It's just...ARGH!!!! I'm not going to watch the movies, because I don't want to cry my eyes out. bUT YEA...SNIFF...I want to deck the nosy Briony and yeah, her 'atonement' didn't cut it, the book, that is. But I don't know if it's going to be the same in the movies..not wanting to find out since it's already too sad for me :(
geenbean geenbean 9 years
Basically, Robbie is in love with Cecilia, and spends an afternoon composing various versions of a letter to her trying to explain his feelings. He decides in the end to give her the most romantic version, instead of a more explicit (or, as they said in the movie, the more anatomical) version. He asks Cee's sister Briony to deliver the letter. Robbie realizes too late that he gave her the wrong version, and Briony (being a nosy 11 year-old) reads it prior to giving it to Cee. Later in the movie, something happens on the family's estate and Briony ends up accusing Robbie of a dreadful crime he did not commit, prompted by her overactive imagination after reading his (pretty much tame) love letter to her sister. Whew. Go see the movie, it was good!
gummyxgurl gummyxgurl 9 years
I didn't watch the movie, so I don't understand the clip either. What's going on?
mnp mnp 9 years
I get it. i.e. You tell someone that you think so-and-so is making the wrong decision by marrying what's his face. You were saying it casually but someone repeats this message to the so-and-so and she is now pissed and wonders what kind of friend you are for talking behind her back about her impending nuptials. But since it's during this day and age, and we email and text all the time...Dearsugar added in the fact to take care in sending out emails/texts to avoid any confusions/frustrations. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
kaenai kaenai 9 years
I'm also confused. :(
Lovaajn Lovaajn 9 years
Yeah, I don't get it either. At all....
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
i dont get it...=S
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