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Dear Poll: Is the B*tch a Dying Breed?

In a recent article in the Guardian (UK) titled “Bring Back the Red-Blooded B*tch,” Julie Burchill disappointedly explains that the modern-day b*tch has lost her bite. She seems to think that today's women won't be honest in their criticisms or complaints for fear of being labeled the B word. She writes, "These days, b*tching is low fat, decaffeinated, and kick free. Worse than that, it is, above all, phoney."

Her argument is pretty compelling; there's something to be said for a woman who isn’t afraid to speak her mind, even if it means making an enemy or two, but I’d like to think that some of us prefer to offer our criticisms with a kind hand because we do care about other’s feelings, not just their perception of us. What do you think?


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pink-elephant pink-elephant 9 years
I just don't understand how a man can be outspoken and be respected for it but a woman can speak her mind and she's labeled a b*tch! I cannot stand double standards!
jadenirvana jadenirvana 9 years
I read that article and totally agreed! I prefer the bold ballsy bitchiness of The Women (and it's gleeful brilliance) to the petty tea cup catty murmurs of The Desperate Housewives. I say, put it out there and own it. But, I guess that's why I work for :)
looseseal looseseal 9 years
I don't consider women who are truly upfront and speak their minds bitches. I consider them awesome. They are my role-models, because I aspire to be as outspoken in real life as I am in writing. Haha. I know what so many of you mean. It's the simpering fake-nice people of any gender who stabs people in the back the first chance they get that are bitches. Of the two-faced variety. These manipulative bitches love to claim that they're "straight-talkers", though, so it can be confusing. But as long as you have a functioning bullshit radar, they'll ping it every time. For they are full of the feces of the bull. Ugh, I hate two-faced bitches so much! I don't think bitch is too strong a word for these people. If there was a stronger word, I'd use it.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
there are still B's out there, they just disguise it with sugary sweet fakeness and brown noses. I happen to be a straight up B, i take no prisoners. I also get the promotions, praise and always get my work done. the simpering masses all seem to be too afraid to stand up for themselves. My Bitchiness is all about self preservation and doing the right thing.
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 9 years
okay just to bring up something that bothers me...does everyone realize the true meaning of the word b*tch? A b*tch (female dog obviously) is something men called women (and still do, and unfortunately women call women this too) to refer to them as good for nothing except having babies. i find it offensive that someone would write an article saying that being a b*tch is a good thing. Strong, couragous women who aren't afraid to speak their mind? That's a good thing. The term b*tch is offensive and shouldn't be used to refer to any woman, IMO. Just wanted to bring that up.
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 9 years
I agree with a comment I read above. we shouldn't tear each other apart. there are plenty of other people out there who want to do that already.
PJ-PJ-PJ PJ-PJ-PJ 9 years
Asia84, I get what you are saying completely, especially the talking behind your back folks. Just tell me already & we can just agree to disagree...that's my motto. No need for grade school drama. It sucks being labeled just because a girl sticks to her own opinion, but oh well... In my case, my "low tolerance for bull-shit" & "don't start shit you can't finish" personality gets me labeled a bitch by my husband's family. In their case, I'm just not willing to tip-toe around some one's bad temper and/or downright meanness. If my low tolerance & defender attitude gets me labeled as such, I'll wear that Bitch badge with honor. Thank God my husband is nothing like them, or we would never have lasted past the first date! It's crazy how many things can get a girl labeled as a bitch, when really all it means is being a catty & nasty person!
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
I read a quote somewhere to the effect of "the person who enjoys brutal honesty often enjoys the brutality as much as the honesty" or something like that. I find a lot of truth in that. People sometimes claim that being a bitch means you're strong when in reality it often strikes me as a lot passive aggressive - lashing out at people under the guise of plainspeaking. So...not mourning the death of bitchiness. lol
LadyP LadyP 9 years
I am a b*tch and I know it. My husband even tells me when I'm being one. I just speak my mind usually and I don't think about the after effects that it could cause.
Amorinthe Amorinthe 9 years
People who think the bitch is dead have never lived in New York!
controlledspin controlledspin 9 years
This woman obviously never met my husband's ex-wife.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
WOW BRANDYNICOLE730!!!! So true! I think it is MORE personal then ever! Less bitchness in the office life, but more bitchness with the personal life! People saying they are you're friend then trash talk! That's definatly a bitch! You're suppose to be a FRIEND! And that's my rant :)
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I still have my inner b*tch. :)
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
I wouldn't take heed from someone who calls herself LittleLady12 now THAT was being a b*tch! (all jokes aside, i don't mean to offend you LittleLady . . you can't take me too seriously, i mean no harm)
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
and that's what i was saying LittleLady; if i get the vibe that a person can't take what i'm saying, i usually don't make a comment at all. i know that i am tough and a lot of ppl are sensitive, yes, a b*tch can differentiate that. but i can't go through life babysitting everyone either (because no body is gonna babysit me OR you), so if it is necessary to say it, i say it. as long as it's the truth, then i can sleep with myself at night. you'd be surpirse that the only ppl i offend on occasion is the ppl on DearSugar. . . .it seems like no one can have their opinion on here without someone who is more sentive calling them out about it . . .lol.
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 9 years
To comment on the "I'd rather you say something to my face than behind my back..." comment: You feel that way, but others may not! That's the difference. Just because YOU won't be insulted by something, it doesn't mean the next person won't. A little tact and biting your tongue when it means sparing someone's feelings will take you a long way in life. You'd be surprised.
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 9 years
I think people in general are getting this ass-backwards. The lines between being a bitch and speaking your mind/having strong opinions have been very blurred ever since women got out of the cave and realized they could be leaders/businesswomen/independent people. Just because a girl speaks her mind, it doesn't mean she's a bitch. But just because a girl speaks her mind, it doesn't mean she can't be plain insulting about it. On the one hand, a lot of people see a woman speak the harsh truth and call her a bitch, but if a guy said the same thing, they'd call him a pistol. That's sad, and that's a clear (and common) gender bias. BUT, that idea also gives plain mean women a reason to be nasty. "I'm not being a bitch, I'm just being honest." Bullsh*t, no you're not, you're being a bitch! In the end, being a bitch means being mean, spiteful, tactless, and hurtful, and it IS a bad thing.
legalbeagle legalbeagle 9 years
My old boss was a total b!tch... to me. Her young female receptionist trying to finish school. It wasnt an outright mega-b!tch attitude, it was condescending, sarcastic, flatout unnecessary type of b!tchiness... almost like she was afraid to be a b!itch to the people who deserved it and took it out on me... i vow to always be nice to whoever makes my copies and gets my coffee!!!!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
I wonder when being a b!tch became a bad thing.
girlgreen girlgreen 9 years
lol at the picture for this post
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
"I wish women could just stop ripping each other to shreds for our choices." Hear hear! I feel like bitchiness goes beyond being opinionated and outspoken. I think it's those things, plus being needlessly rude in the process. And I think we need less of that in the world, not more.
candy-apple candy-apple 9 years
lol this is going to sound a bit off topic but doesn't it seem funny to anyone that this topic that clearly focuses on the word "bitch" is still sensored with that silly little star in the middle? i mean, when it's in the title, the intro paragraph, the poll and every single comment on this page, why do we still have to pretend like no one knows what the word is??? i know it's no one's fault- probably just one of the sensored words in this network's protocol.. but for some reason it still seems beyond silly.
julieulie julieulie 9 years
Please. Today on my walk to work, I was crossing the street at the appropriate time, when the little walking man was lit up, and some woman didn't stop at the red light before making a turn, slammed on the brakes to narrowly avoid hitting me, and then rolled down the window and called me a f---ing whore for being in the crosswalk while she was trying to drive. All this while I had the walking man, and she BLATANTLY RAN A RED LIGHT. If that's not a b*tch, I don't know what is.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I think people not caring about others' feelings enough to be kind and courteous is borderline personality disorder. Being a "b*tch" to me, is someone just like that. Someone who is opinionated politely, or who sticks up for herself is NOT a b*tch.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
GlowingMoon must have some b*tch enemies, i hear a little resentment in her post (lol). i rather you tell me to my face how you feel about something vs. talking crap behind my back. I have no problem repeating what i say to that person's face. but i don't get into conflict very often. hardly ever . . . there is a difference between a two-faced b*tch and an outspoken one. two-faced people don't get far because their antics usually catch up to them. and in my industry the nice girls who have no opinion don't get very far because no one notices them or they think you don't care. everyone is different.
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