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Dear Poll: Did You Grow Up in an Affectionate Household?

My family has always been affectionate both physically and verbally, so it wasn’t until high school that I realized not every family was like mine. Other families — although equally as loving — didn’t necessarily go around saying “I love you” every time someone left the house. Neither is better, but I do think the level of affection in the household you grew up in will have an effect on the adult home you make for yourself. So did you grow up in a family that was quick to show affection?

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
we arent all that close. yeah, mom and i talk and share. but she loves my brother more and she favours him a lot. it sucks. dad rarely talks and i see him like once a day or once in two days. all of it bothered me before. but i try not to let stuff get me now.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
my family definitely was not the hugs and kisses type of house - but that's partly because my mom was a single parent raising 4 kids and working a million jobs that she didn't have time to do all that. we definitely knew that we were loved and cared for but we were the touch-feely type. i think that's partly why i am the same way now - i don't like to be touched and i don't like the hugs and all that...even from my fiance. i know that it bothers him, but it's hard for me.
Cider-Morten Cider-Morten 9 years
We might not tell each other how we feel all the time, but in my family there's never any doubt about how we feel about each other, it's all love. Thankfully :)
txcowgrl077 txcowgrl077 9 years
My family rarely showed affection. It was clear that the affection was only shown in public to prove a point. It's made me look at life differently - it has helped with the guard that I front and the reasons I don't let people close. It's a shame.
Seka21 Seka21 9 years
Wow what a mixed response.. it really just shows how many people have the same lives and how many people understand each other But i did get sad reading some comments
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Nope! None of that in this household. At my age however, i no longer mind it. I've no issue being affectionate with people that i care for.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
My mom has always been pretty affectionate towards my sisters and I. Im almost 25 years old and I still kiss her on the lips when we go our seperate ways.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
My mom was and my dad was not..
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
No. My father has never told me he loves me, though my mother does /now/. I grew up in a cold and abusive household. Explains a lot really.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 9 years
My SO's family gives hugs and kisses on the cheek and all that stuff, and even though I have been around it for 4 years now, sometimes I still can't get used to it. My family never hugged each other, would never ever even think about a kiss on the cheek, and we never even ate dinner together! BUT, I want my kids to know they are loved, so I will make sure we have a very affectionate household.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I definatly grew up in an affectionate family! We hug and kiss and always say 'i love you' to each other! My boyfriend's fam is waaaaay different but he's super affectionate towards me :)
lattegoodness lattegoodness 9 years
sw33tlovin, I totally know how you feel. I wish I didn't. I have an awesome, awesome boyfriend now, and though I want to have kids with him, my upbringing with no physical or verbal affection leaves me scared that I'll repeat that with my kids. That and the fear that I'll end up beind disappointed and disillusioned by them like my parents are with me. :(
sonya-ina sonya-ina 9 years
My Mom was always very affectionate toward my sister and I, my Dad not so much, and I never saw my parents being affectionate toward one another. I always wished that they would be though! Hmph.
chocolatine chocolatine 9 years
My family is super-affectionate, but we also bicker sometimes, and when we do my mom is not above calling me names such as "cow" or "b*tch". I know it's not malicious so it doesn't bother me, but people who don't understand our family dynamic are usually appalled when they see us fight. I guess the best way to explain it is that we don't hold back - neither with positive nor with negative emotions.
sw33tlovin sw33tlovin 9 years
no, my family is and was not physically or verbally affectionate. never having that affirmation or self assurance that i was loved still cuts deep even now. it's one of the reasons i don't want children. and this is so after school special, but it's the truth.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
Yes and No. My mother would tell me many times during a day how much she loved me and gave me a hug all the time. My father used to give hugs however as I got older he sort-of stopped and it became a random thing; I don't think he ajusted to having his daughter grow up. However I know he loves me, he just doesn't say it/show it all the time. So my parents were affectionate towards me; however not to one another, no real love there they just dealt with one another.
lexichloe lexichloe 9 years
I come from one of those "creepy" families, who say "I love you" when we depart whether physically or over the phone. I guess we're all semi-superstitious, and always need consoling to counteract that.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 9 years
Mum grew up in a very affectionless household. So everyone makes a point of making her feel loved and included, especially as she now has family relatioships that she didn't have before (such as strong mother daughter ties). I wouldn't say we shower eachother with hugs and kisses all the time, but we are affectionate in our own way.
italianblonde italianblonde 9 years
No. No hugging or any of that sort. I'm most like my dad and we have some trouble expressing our love for people, though we definitely feel it. My family didn't really start hugging or saying I Love You all the time until a series of bad things happened...
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 9 years
Yeah, I would say my family is very loving and somewhat affectionate. My mom was very insistent on giving us hugs and saying I love you all the time, which is how I am too. My dad usually isn't the first one to give affection to us, but he will do it sporadically and he will definitely reciprocate if you say "I love you" or whatever. My sisters aren't usually affectionate because they think it's cheesy, but I know they love me anyway.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
That family in the pic look so perfect.
KadBunny KadBunny 9 years
Ha, no. My parents don't make a good couple and they're not even fit to be parents. I know unhappy married couples who are still great to their children but they're just not. Mom did wonders to me and my sisters' self-esteem and dad just doesn't know how to express his love. It was all discipline and intimidation. It's alright though :) I'm just glad it didn't ruin me; if anything it's made me stronger. Plus I know what to avoid in my future family, haha.
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 9 years
My family is extremely affectionate my mom is a hug addict! My husband's family is more cold and distant however he adapted quickly to our hug fests LOL!
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