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Dear Poll: Do You Believe in Casual Sex?

Everyone views sex differently - some save themselves for marriage, some have sex at a very young age, and others consider it just what happens after a dinner date. We are all entitled to our own opinions, so I wanted to ask you how you feel about casual sex. Assuming both parties are practicing safe sex, what I want to know is...


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Casual sex. Meaning what? One night stands or an orgie? I wouldn't recommend that. If it means women getting tricked into a sexual relationship with someone who dumps her three weeks later is that her fault? I wouldn't count that as casual sex. If the quesation means having some fun once or twice. Go ahead. Just use protection and some common sense.
kelli9590 kelli9590 8 years
i don't see any reason why casual sex should be avoided if both parties are safe. HAVE FUN! and i know I'm totally contradicting myself when i say its not for me. when i was younger i was more liberal about it, but now I'm engaged to the most amazing man I've ever known and we have a very healthy sexual life, but i wish now that i waited for him.. but that's just my preference.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
I don't like the idea of casual sex. You can't really be "safe" if you don't know the person's history, and so much casual sex happens while people are under the influence (especially in college) that they totally forget to use condoms. I would only ever have it in the context of a loving, mutually exclusive relationship in which the guy has promised to marry you if a little person gets involved. But that is just me.
Isista Isista 9 years
Personally, no. Yeah, I have sex with my boyfriend, but I love him and wanted to share that with him. We talked about it beforehand and I couldn't imagine having sex "casually." But if that's what works for you, then (as long as you're safe) go for it. I couldn't imagine having sex without any emotional ties.
JeasaidSam JeasaidSam 9 years
It's something that's meant to be saved for marriage, not something to be taken lightly.
cocca cocca 9 years
i use to be ok with it when i was younger... sex didn't mean much to me then, it was more of having fun... now, i want the intimacy that goes along with it... it means more when you actually love the person and to me, i can feel the difference :)
alltherage alltherage 9 years
sugarsister sugarsister 9 years
There's no such thing as casual sex for me which is why I had to stop having it. I either get attached too quickly or I'm not nearly comfortable enough with the person to express myself the way I'd like to. I really had to come clean with myself and realize that I'm looking for more than just sex when I get together with a guy. Now, it only happens within the confines of a deep, mutually-caring relationship.
kathynyc kathynyc 9 years
It's ok, as long as you protect yourself. Sometimes, you don't have that one sexual partner, and if you're not in a relationship, you gotta do what you gotta do ;)
Buffy2103 Buffy2103 9 years
I only have sex when I am in a committed relationship and in love. But I don't necessarily think that its "trashy" or wrong to engage in casual sex, as long as you are safe and understand the possible consequences. Casual sex just isn't for me.
Cleopatra2U Cleopatra2U 9 years
Shoot, I chose "Yes" before I saw "I used to be OK with it". But that is okay. I used to have casual sex. ("Casual" doesn't necessarily mean "with a stranger", just "not in relationship". It could be with a friend.) Now I would rather wait until I get in a relationship or not have it at all. I keep saying, "I want the next person I have sex with to be the last person I have sex with." Who knows, though... I could change my mind again. I don't think it matters as long as you are careful, which includes getting tested annually because condoms can and do break and sh!t can and does happen.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
casual sex, in my opinion, will ruin your self esteem no matter how much you think you are in control of your emotions. its not freeing, its not liberating, its just plain sabotaging your happiness in the long run
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I would be for it if it were like it is in movies or Sex and the City. It's never as romantic as it is on screen. Even if you initiate it, want it, and are emotionally OK with it, the man will ALWAYS think he used you. There will always be a smug smirk in his heart, regardless of how often he tells you he "understands" or thinks you're "cool" for doing so. Of course he does!! And there are things that as a modern woman, we are "supposed" to do. That's just not true. Even in this day and age there are girls who don't have casual sex, don't do drugs, don't drink underage or in excess after 21, don't smoke, and those girls are extraordinary. So why strive to just be ordinary?
renaimarie renaimarie 9 years
I enjoy it, but don't prefer it. However, I can't deny that having sex with more people has taught me a lot of things. I still sleep with my ex sometimes (who I dated for two and a half years and had lotsssssssssssss of sex with) and he actually loves the fact that I've been with multiple people (men and women) since him, because I've learned new tricks and become more comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I don't feel like I need to apologize for that.
alillee alillee 9 years
i say no for me..but for other people it doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Neural Neural 9 years
I'm w/ Masqueraded_Angel-- I used to think it was Ok but I could never just walk away from it without feeling some attachment. Not for me!
Green Green 9 years
jaclynloro jaclynloro 9 years
I think it's dumb that sex is about as special these days as hand holding. I'm not waiting for marriage, but I'm waiting until I'm in love. I feel no rush to lose my virginity and it's not something I want to regret.
SugarFreak SugarFreak 9 years
I guess the main thing is SAFETY! As long as it's safe, why not?
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
lala788 lala788 9 years
when i was younger it was OK for me , now I'm in a committed relationship i don't feel the need to go to a bar and pick up a stranger, but i have some friend who do that , and as long that they are having safe sex i'm fine with that - here are my 2 cent.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
I don't judge people who have lots of casual sex under the age of 30. It falls into the category of stupid things people do and like smoking weed or getting trashed, it's best saved for college but if it leaks into your early adulthood, fine. I tried it. It's not for me because I don't want to get an STD and also, the more random it is, the less good it is. No one has mindblowing sex with some guy from a bar. I'm all about the quality.
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