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Dear Poll: Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

If you've ever thought the notion of love at first sight was only in the movies, I bet you'd be surprised to know that it does happen in real life too. I've never experienced it before — I've experienced lust at first sight — but I've heard people say they knew the moment they laid eyes on their significant other that he was the one! Even if you've yet to feel it, tell me, do you believe in love at first sight?


loveskeptic loveskeptic 8 years
I'm a real skeptic with love all together. I believed that you can learn to love someone for their qualities and I believed in committment and loyalty. But just recently love at first sight happened to me. It was just a chance meeting, and when I proceeded to look up to him, our eyes locked and I looked down to see the most beautiful lips on a man. When our eyes locked, it felt like a timeless familiar recognition, maybe something subconscious. Although he was a stranger I felt comfortable and right somehow with him. I've seen him 3 times and I don't think it's a good looking thing because he is not a handsome man but he has a quiet elegance to him. I won't have the chance to see him anymore and may not see him at all again in my life time. We met at an inopportune time, he knows I'm married and I know that he's married. I still can't figure my feelings out for a total stranger that's why I'm trying to do some research on this love at first sight thing. Didn't know that alot of people believe in it as well. It's ironic that fate does that to you. Now I'm spending all my energy trying to forget him. It's funny because we don't even have a relationship. Hopefully this love at first sight thing will fade with time.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
i strongly disagree with everyone who voted yes. love at first sight is bullshit. how can you fall in love with someone when u dont know that person?you can only fall in love once u get to know that person. not by seeing a handsome guy or a pretty girl. thats total bullshit. no one can ever fall in love with someone at first sight with someone who u think is ugly. love at first sight is complete shit.
Kat-E Kat-E 8 years
Oh, I should also add that Time magazine did a whole section about this last February, and it discussed scientists' studies of chemistry and attraction. "Love at first sight" is not exactly lust, so much as it is DNA. Studies show that men and women are more likely to be attracted to someone with DNA that is close to opposite of theirs, which is basically evolution at work to ensure that the dominant genes are passed on, rather than the recessive. However, another interesting piece of food for thought on this is that women who are on birth control are actually more likely to be attracted to men who they are not "genetically compatible" with. Interesting, huh?
Kat-E Kat-E 8 years
I voted no, but I'm with Tari... I knew the second I met my current boyfriend the first time that I was attracted to him. He gave me butterflies in the first five minutes of conversation... and I hate to admit it, but I was dating someone else at the time! I felt so guilty about my feelings towards him that I didn't see or talk to him again until after things fizzled out with the other guy. Five days after guy #1 and I broke up though, I was on my first date with guy #2, and almost a year later, we're still together and he still gives me butterflies. And he says the feeling that first day was absolutely mutual.
Tari007 Tari007 8 years
I believe in instant attraction at first sight...but love is something that grows, you can't love a person you don't know and who doesn't know you. Big difference between LUST and LOVE.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
yes - i 100% believe in it. the FIRST time that i saw my fiance i knew that there was something there and i was right!
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
One thing I have realized over the years is that real love is not the sweeping grandiose gestures, the hot sex, the butterflies in the stomach when you look at someone. That is all great, but it is not love. Love is caring so much about someone that even when they are at their worst, what you care about is their happiness. It is the little things that you do everyday for someone out of thoughtfulness that become second nature to you, even things that may seem mundane. It is giving without truly feeling expectation for immediate reciprocity. I think you can have a chemistry meeting someone for the first time, and occasionally that is the person you end up with, but that is not love at first sight. That is just the occasional exception rather than the rule, I think, and a coincidence.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
LUST at first sight definitely. LOVE at first way. If you include loving someone's personality in your definition of love (and I most definitely do), then it's not possible. You can't know someone's personality by just looking at them, so there's no way to know if you love them. Yes, some people might find LUST at first sight and then it turns into LOVE later, so they feel like it was LOVE at first sight, but that's not really what it is, the true love happens later. candace87: "How many times have you felt something with someone and then nothing happened, now just because something did happen its all of a sudden "love at first sight?" Sorry but that's coincidence. I'm not really a romantic at all." Ditto to candace87.
Liss1 Liss1 8 years
I do believe in love at first sight! I have loved my husband since the moment i met him and here it is 14 years later.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 8 years
I do agree! I think people are taking the statement to literally. But I do agree!
rellicDragon rellicDragon 8 years
I guess you can never give up hope right ... So I guess I do believe there might be fireworks one day ...
sw33tlovin sw33tlovin 8 years
to be honest, i'm surprised many ppl do believe in it. i'm a cynic most of the time .. lol .. but i do believe in romance. i think you can feel a connection to someone at first sight & i think you can know when you've found someone who understands you on a level that most ppl don't, but i don't think you can love someone when you first meet. anyways, congrats to the ladies who have healthy, loving relationships :)
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
Lust...not love.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Lust and infatuation, yes, but to me "love" means the deeper feelings of appreciation, loyalty, and commitment that only develop with time, so no.
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
Nope. Lust at first sight.
geebers geebers 8 years
No- you may find a person attractive and maybe hit it off but it takes time to really have a commitment and trust- to me that is love. I think if you have that chemistry at first sight and things work out -you may believe in love at first sight but it is not love it is lust.
CYL CYL 8 years
LUST, Chemistry..yes. But I believe you have to get to know someoen before you love them. How do you know if you love them if oyu don't now if they snore? If they have bad hygiene? If they are super rude to your friends and family? If he likes to cheat? Those are things you only know about someone when you start spending time and getting to know them..
melizzle melizzle 8 years
LUST at first sight...
Renee3327 Renee3327 8 years
Love takes time to develop. I think you can be really drawn to someone at first site, but "first sight" implies a physical is so much deeper than that.
Blackwidowchick Blackwidowchick 8 years
ROTFL Gscott86. Good one. I do believe that love has to grow. I knew my husband in high school but wasn't attracted to him, and then ran into him 3 years after graduation and he was different. I was really attracted to him, and couldn't stop thinking about him. He is still the same, nice person he was in high school but the lust at first sight lead me to fall in love with him through the years.
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
I dont believe in love at first sight, at least not for me. I dont fall in love easily so it takes a while for it to grow. Not saying that this may not work for other people, just not for me
candace87 candace87 8 years
Karlotta, I'm just curious did you write that after first talking, or first sight. If you wrote that after you all had talked online and gotten to know eachother.. then you already knew you liked his personality, correct?
candace87 candace87 8 years
I agree with psterling above as well. How many times have you felt something with someone and then nothing happened, now just because something did happen its all of a sudden "love at first sight?" Sorry but thats coincidence. I'm not really a romantic at all.
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
I think lust at first sight happens a lot more than love, I think love at first sight is bull
reeeeka reeeeka 8 years
No, love takes time to develope. You have to know someone and get to know them in order to love them. It's lust/infactuation/crushing...people confuse love with lust and it's so...ugh.
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