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Dear Poll: Do You Believe That Opposites Attract?

I’m sure we’ve all heard that opposites attract adage. It's true that I’ve seen my share of people come together who seem like polar opposites, but for the most part, people seem to be attracted to people they can talk to about similar interests and experiences. I may not find this particular dating rule of thumb true, but do you?


calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
i know that if my relationship proceeds to a marriage, it would be VERY difficult for me. Jude C, i agree. it depends on what kind of opposite. in my case, he loves some stuff that i hate and cant stand. u see why its hard for us :(
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
"it invites a lot of fights and disagreements." I agree, Calli Gurl. It just depends what's "opposite." If it's your values and beliefs on relationships and stuff like that, then that's probably not a good thing, but if it's little stuff like your feelings on sports, I can see how that wouldn't be a problem. But you've got to be compatible, ya know? :)
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
NO WAY! it invites a lot of fights and disagreements. i am only attracted to people i have more in common with. but it wouldnt apply to my current bf. we are very different. im experiencing how things go when opposites come to a commitment. very difficult
annalizer annalizer 9 years
My boyfriend and I are opposite in our personalities and interests, however we have the same values and we are always open minded with new or different things so we work well together.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 9 years
My boyfriend and I are pretty much opposites. But we never run out of things to talk about, we have an amazing connection, and while we might argue about some things and disagree sometimes, I don't know a couple that doesn't do that! Luckily even though we are opposites we work well with each other. :D
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
My boyfriend and I are complete opposites, and we butt heads very often. However, like bigestivediscuit said, we complement each other. We both bring different things to the table, and we make up for what the other lacks. It's a great learning experience, and it's fun to be with someone that's constantly bringing another perspective into our relationship and into our discussions.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
They might attract but they don't work well together.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i do believe that opposites do attract but in many cases, you're going to find that it's really topline. i think that in the end, you find that you like the things about the person that are completely different than you are however you will want to change them or they will want to change you and then that's where you run into problems. you should go into a relationship with someone accepting them for who they are and realize that you can't change them..and when you're so different, something's going to give.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
*superficial :coffeecup:
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I think it's true as far as supercifial attractions go, and I can get along with most people, but I find that for very close relationships it works better if we share important values and beliefs. Similar backgrounds are less important.
Swen Swen 9 years
I think it's different for everyone. Some couples you see that love doing everything together and are almost the same person. Others seem to be complete opposites. I think it's easier for a relationship to work when you're similar on the big issues- values, religion, etc. But I think it keeps things interesting if you have different types of personalities, work, hobbies, etc.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
i dont think its entirely true. i think that eventually you need to share the same ideals, morals, values etc. however, when it comes to 'im outgoing, he's shy'...sometimes that attracts. altho, me personally, i am so outgoing that shy guys got on my nerves. even tho people at our wedding say me and my husband are like ying and yang and i guess that was a good thing altho in my opinion ying and yang are polar opposites but i *think* they meant it as a compliment haha
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
My boyfriend and I are not total opposites, but we are definitely opposites. However, I do think that our differences complement each other, which is why we fit together like perfect puzzle pieces. :)
KadBunny KadBunny 9 years
I do, yes :) After all my boyfriend of 2 years is my complete opposite and we're still very much in love. I think it keeps things interesting, and the traits I lack I gain from him. It's a balance. And as some of the girls said the strength of the relationship is tested when these differences rise. I mean obviously when it comes down to it we ARE similar, ie. same interests, views on life etc. but as far as silly little things like lovey-doveyness (I do it a lot; it embarrasses him), telling stories (I'm an open book; he's a dark horse) or our attitudes in general (idealist VS realist). I really do love him though..
geekygirl geekygirl 9 years
although i always thought my partner is TOTALLY different to me (before we started going out) after being together, everyday we find more and more things that are the same. we have different personalities but they work well together and we share the same values.
gemsera gemsera 9 years
I dont know about others, but me and my beau are SO alike its not even funny. To the point where we are clumsy with the same things (when we go to do a quick dash to the door etc, we both twist our ankles and hobble LOL) and when we are deciding what to have for tea, we both usually come out with the same thing. Thats the way I like it :)
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
No not really, but my sister is dating a guy that is completely different than her.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 9 years
polar opposites, ack
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 9 years
My husband and I are very polar in a lot of ways... He's tall and lanky.. I'm a foot shorter than him, all curves and hips. I'm cleeeean, he's messy. He's an Aries, I'm a Libra (WAY POLAR astrologically). But then we will say some of the same things at random times today (we've never said this before but) at the same time we both blurted out "Vomit Orange". (We were coming up for names of colors for the houses where we live.) We sometimes think very similarly. And then we've just kind of grown together mentally, musically, politically, etc. I don't mind that we're not exactly the same. I don't want anyone to be like me.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
What Renees3 said. If you truly love the person whether you're in love or just love them, then the opposites will attract. I've known tons of people who dated opposites and were just fine. Some people marry/date others that are similar and some marry/date those that are their exact opposites. Some work out and some don't. It all depends on how hard the people work to keep their relationship.
inksee inksee 9 years
I think it's more like ying and yang. There should be some differences in order to open up newer experiences and characteristics for a wholesome relationship, but in a way that they are intricately balanced with some similarities to tie them together.
itsme3683 itsme3683 9 years
I'm pretty much on par with runningesq. My boyfriend and I are similar at the core in terms of our values and goals, but we are complete opposites in every other way. I think as long as you share certain core values, it doesn't really matter what else is different. In fact, in the past I tended to have very bad relationships with people too similar to me because we would butt heads so often (I'm very stubborn!).
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
my boyfriend of 5 years and I are pretty opposite. I'm outgoing, always wanting to be out and meet people, he's more shy and quiet. We also have differing views on religion but we respect each others ideas. I didn't think we'd make it in the beginning but we've learned how to see past our differences and thats what makes us closer. I guess it all depends on the person and what you're willing to compromise on.
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 9 years
Mmm, I'm not sure. My ex and I were had a lot of the same things in common was pretty much alike, but my current boyfriend and I are pretty opposite. I don't know I like it either way, opposite or not.
runningesq runningesq 9 years
I think it depends on how the two people are 'opposite' ... my husband and I share similar values, beliefs, political opinions, but I am a high strung type A and he is a low key rational type B. It works out quite well :)
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