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Dear Poll: Do You Believe Pregnancy Can Be an Accident?

I've been hearing about many accidental pregnancies lately — newlyweds saying their bun in the oven was a surprise or new parents claiming their second pregnancy was a fluke. But part of me thinks that's an excuse so people won't judge them for conceiving so soon into their marriage or after giving birth. In this day and age when there are so many birth control options available, it seems close to impossible to have an accidental pregnancy if you're using them correctly. Of course there's always the chance of getting preggers if you're irresponsible about taking the pill or if your condom breaks, so ladies, what I want to know is, do you believe the accidental pregnancy excuse?

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myprivatespace myprivatespace 8 years
accident.... of course!! ask me..I am a veteran at that. Twice pregnant even after taking the post-sex pills. Ours is a long-distance relationship and it is waste of money and energy to take the regular pill. Thank God, I rushed in time to the clinic to avoid embarassment of the unmarried raised belly. My boyfriend has been supportive enough since then to understand the need of condoms
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
It could happen.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
Huh? :? "that's an excuse so people won't judge them for conceiving so soon into their marriage or after giving birth" - Who are these people that are judging them? I have never heard of such a thing. An excuse? For what? Why would you have to "excuse" making a baby? As far as birth control methods go...more people use these things improperly than properly. What does it matter if it was accidental? Who cares? What a weird question.
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
of course it can be an accident. but I think that, sadly, the term "accidental pregnancy" is used more often than not to mask the fact that only the guy didn't want it, and the girl planned on it all by herself. but honest mistakes do happen also, nevertheless.
FrankiLee FrankiLee 9 years
I got pregnant on birth control, which I took at the same time every day. I do think that when you are irresponsible about birth control, condoms, what have you, then claiming that your pregnancy was an "accident" is an excuse, but if you were trying to prevent pregnancy as best as you can, that is a different story. I'm happy to be pregnant...I would have liked to wait a little longer, but I'm in a stable relationship, and we are responsible and prepared. This question definitely seems judgmental to me. And #22....that is the worst method of birth control possible! Haha I definitely had a laugh at that one. Obviously sex ed wasn't offered wherever he went to school...
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I don't really think that all the people who claim to have an accidental pregnancy really do. If you're using reliable birth control than it's very unlikely that you will get pregnant. Most people aren't using the proper birth control or none at all and wonder why they are pregnant. You need to think about that before you have sex not wonder about it later. If you haven't made the decision to have a child and don't want one now or even ever you need to find a birth control that works for you and stick to using it regularly not when you feel like it. It kinda makes me sick that after being harped on our entire lives people still can't seem to get it together when it comes to birth control.
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
P.S. YES, I agree this assumption that "accidental pregnancy" is an excuse IS a little insulting! bad sugar bad!
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
If I was pregnant I would NEVER take into consideration what YOU thought of me of my husband...LOL...what a silly concept! You don't pay my bills and you won't raise my kid... *by YOU I mean anybody ;)
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I don't think married couples who get pregnant during their honeymoon or four months after their first child are using "surprise" as an excuse. That seems nothing to be ashamed of, and no reason for people to judge them. It only seems natural that couples get pregnant the first night they have sex without protection or the first night they finally have sex after a baby is born. Of course, that doesn't mean I think all "accidental" pregnancies should be carried out. I honestly believe 16-year-old girls get pregnant accidentally, but having the baby isn't the best option.
fireannach fireannach 9 years
I am actually offended by this question because I've had a truly accidental pregnancy AND Dear Sugar featured my question about it. Talk about hypocritical! I wouldn't have sent in a question if I knew I was secretly being judged when she received it. And for the doubters, I was on the pill AND using a condom and conceived. Thanks Sugar for accusing your readers of lying about some of the most serious and trying events of their lives.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Ashlyn Rose, My friend and I were discussing this in class this morning and she told me that in one of her classes her professor was talking about birth control and was explaining all the different types and he said something about people who practice "coitus interruptus" or in our terms: withdrawal. Then he said, "And you know what we call those people? .... Parents!" On a side note, I know a person who used withdrawal for 3 years (on a very regular basis-- 3x a week or so) and she never wound up pregnant... interesting to say the least!
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I know someone who was on low doese birth control because she was breast feeding and got pregnant. She certainly wasn't plannign it and was doing what she thought to be responsible. I don't think kids should be called accidents but I don think you can be surprised. Now if you are having sex and doing nothing to prevent the pregnancy, that's no accident THAT is bein irresponsible
Ashlyn-Rose Ashlyn-Rose 9 years
Here's a fun fact that I learned in my human sexuality course that I'm taking now. Most hormonal birth control isn't formulated for women over 200 lbs. So if you're over 200 lbs and taking your pills and taking your pills regularly, the dosage may not be enough to prevent ovulation. I definitely believe in accidents. There are women out there who honestly believe that unplanned pregnancy just won't happen to them, so they let themselves be careless with birth control. There are also women who are just ill-informed about birth control. Bonus joke-- what do you call a couple who practices the rhythm method? Pregnant! Ha ha...
sass317 sass317 9 years
I cannot for the life of me remember how I had this conversation- but I was talking to this girl at a party about birth control and she said her sister apparently had very low hormone levels and when she started on the pill it raised her hormone levels high enough that she COULD get pregnant and did immdiately- so for her it would be more effective not to take any hormone BC at all. I have another friend that took her pills same time every day and got pregnant, she would NEVER have done it "by accident" to keep her man, she knew he wasnt going anywhere. Of course I also know another girl from high school and Im pretty sure she got pregnant on purpose- she wanted this one guy and it was the only way she would have been able to keep him around.
emalove emalove 9 years
I definitely think there are accidental pregnancies. I know a couple of women who have gotten pregnant while they were on the Pill. But I also think that if you don't want to get pregnant but don't attempt to use any form of birth control, you can't be all THAT shocked if you get pregnant. Seriously.
nohesitation nohesitation 9 years
This question strikes me as odd too. If anything, I'd say people pretend that accidental pregnancies are planned. No one wants to appear irresponsible or capricious when it comes to having a child.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
Yeah, duh is my answer. If people can get their tubes tied and still get pregnant, obviously. More than that though. Say you use birth control perfectly -- that's, what, 99% accurate. Condoms too. I don't think they're quite that accurate, but for sake of argument, let's say they are 99% too. In that case, one in 10,000 times that people who are on BC AND using a condom will get pregnant. There are probably more than 10,000 instances of BC + condom sex per day meaning at LEAST one accidental pregnancy a day just from people who are using both forms.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
This post really bugged me. And my friend who got an IUD and then a couple months later got pregnant, WITH IUD still in? Yeah, I would say that was an accident.
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 9 years
i got pregnant while on the pill. didnt skip a day either.
Knight-Who-Says-Ni Knight-Who-Says-Ni 9 years
Accidents happen! My little sister was an accident - a pretty great one, if you ask me. And my parents are very careful, and very open about their bc methods (they teach classes on it).
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
My personal opinion is that it is possible to have a true accident, but that many people who are reckless with their birth control claim a child was accidental even though they clearly could have been more careful. I would never accuse anyone of falsely claiming to have had an accident though.
snarkypants snarkypants 9 years
i can't believe i'm responding to this poll since it is a pretty ridiculous question, but... my sister was conceived when my mom was on birth control. she was a slow developer when she was young, so they were even concerned that it was due to the birth control. obviously, it wasn't due to bc, as she is a perfectly healthy 24-year-old now. but yes, it is 150000000000% possible that a pregnancy can be accidental.
gigi_s gigi_s 9 years
I also had a friend that had got pregnant with her tubes tied, she already had 4 kids! It totally happens.
gigi_s gigi_s 9 years
I am currently carrying an accidental pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in January, and was trying to wait until the summer to try again. We were using condoms and ended up pregnant. I am happy to be pregnant, but would have preferred to wait.
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