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Dear Poll: Do You Consider Yourself a Serial Monogamist?

When I asked recently about whether or not you had ever dated a commitment phobe, many of you said you had or were currently, while others admitted to being one themselves. Just as we tend to characterize commitment phobes as men, many females are often labeled the opposite — serial monogamists — someone who goes from one long-term relationship to another out of fear of being alone. So now let me ask you, how many of you out there would consider yourself a serial monogamist?


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Lyv Lyv 9 years
LOL that's exactly my drama too, TidalWave! I've been single for like, ever now and I tell myself it's not by choice but. I don't know, maybe it is.
subtleheights subtleheights 9 years
Since i have started dating when i was 21 i have not ever been alone, except for 1 year after i seperated from my husband. there has always been someone. i think i am afraid to be alone. i go directly into another relationship as soon as one is done or about to fizzle. they all tend to be longterm always over a year. not sure what my issues are, but my relationships seem to be okay though. it just happens that way for me.
lexgal916 lexgal916 9 years
after my breakup of almost 3 years, and i was still hooking up with the guy, i went through a rebellious period of just being friends with benefits with 3 guys. i eventually became in a relationship with one and we've been together almost a year. maybe i have to always have someone, but im ok if it's just hooking up.
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
I'm scared to commit and scared to be alone. LOL.
LOVErickii LOVErickii 9 years
im a monogamist with commitment issues. i'd rather be single than in a relationship just to be in one but i've also never had a long term relationship. just casual dating. hmm...
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I believe in monogamy, but I’d rather be alone than in a relationship just for the sake of being with someone.
kythera kythera 9 years
Same here aimeeb. I've been single here and there, it's really nice. 8)
gigill gigill 9 years
I'm a bit of both, but I won't get into a relationship anymore (have in the past) just for the sake of being in one. I'm happy when I'm single. Actually, I'd say I'm more towards the commitment phobe side now since I'm having so much fun! But at the end of the day, I think monogamy is a good thing when you've met that special someone.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
It just happens like that. :S Even when I am trying to be single prospective boyfriends come out of the woodwork all over the place! Never when I am in a relationship, mind. Though my boyfriend now is my ex's best friend and I lusted over him for the longest time before I was single and a reasonable amount of time had passed between the break-up and getting together with him... my ex even did the set-up! :p
animatedpunk animatedpunk 9 years
in the past i've been a serial monogamist.... but 4 months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up after 4 years. I tried dating again recently, and my heart is just not in it. For the first time, I'd rather be single. Well, until someone knocks me off my feet...
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I'm dead scared of being left alone ... but I also don't want to be in a loveless relationship. If there aren't feelings there, I don't want to be in it for the long run. I want out as soon as I know for sure that it's not going anywhere. Better alone than not loved.
Marci Marci 9 years
I grew up in a big, crowded household, so once I moved out on my own, I cherished my space and alone time. I liked being in a relationship, but wasn't very good at being in one just for the sake of it. So I had long stretches without a boyfriend, but when I had one, I was monogamous in the relationship.
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
I would guess that I am, but I have no real evidence. I've been with the same guy since senior year of high school.
JessiShaye JessiShaye 9 years
i'm a serial monogamist/dater but it's not out of fear of being alone. it always just happens. i'm a homebody for the most part so i guess relationships tend to be a natural for me. i plan to take a hiatus after the last one though...for awhile.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I'm still with my first serious boyfriend (And we've only been together for 1.5 years). I started dating late, so I guess being single was a way of life. When my boyfriend and I temporarily broke up, I couldn't stand being alone and sort of jumped around from guy to guy. That was bad...and ultimately hurtful. I am a STRONG believer in monogamy, but...I also like dating. I don't think I would mind just dating people after a big break-up.
ShePirate2010 ShePirate2010 9 years
when i find the right guy, i want it to be the right guy, i dont wanna get in to relationship after relationship just to say im in a's gotta be real, no 2 weeker date things.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I'm married to the first man I ever dated.
MissChita MissChita 9 years
I used to be a serial monogomist. I was scared to be alone. I have been in 4 'serious' relationships (from the ages of 16-24), for fear of having to be alone. But I have been single now for 2 months and even though it takes getting used to, in a way, I am content, and happy. At this point in my life, I most definitely believe in monogomy (and if the RIGHT person came along, we could date), but I would rather and happy and content than in a relationship that is not the best and miserable.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I am definitely a serial monogamist "by accident" as well. I'd be perfectly fine being single for a long period, but that's just not the cards that life has dealt.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i've never been one to "fake it" ie: if i dont totally love the guy, there's no way i can pretend to enjoy his company in order to have a boyfriend for the fun of it...i cannot fake enjoyment or love!! haha that sounds bad! but you know what i mean!
LaLa0428 LaLa0428 9 years
Ditto to what Lovely_1 said.
mnp mnp 9 years
I'm a serial monogamist. But between the relationships, I date like mad and have lots of dates. Of course, there are no sex involved. I'm also a germaphobe.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I don't have a problem with being single although I'm more of a relationship girl than a serial dater.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I'm not afraid to be by myself, but I went right from a 2-year relationship to a 3-year relationship to a serious one right now with maybe only a month of "singleness" each time. We've only been dating a month but he's already told me he loves me and I'm meeting his family soon--in a completely different state, mind you. I'm definitely a serial monogamist I guess..though during my few single months I wasn't exactly an angel :P
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