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Dear Poll: Do You Create Exit Plans?

I’ll be the first to admit it, if I’m going somewhere where I really don’t want to go, with someone I don’t want to be with or might not want to be with after all is said and done, I’ll set up a convenient/fake phone call from a friend about an hour and a half in, with a request to come pick them up. If I’m having a terrible time as expected, this is the perfect out, but if I’m having a blast, I can easily just tell her that I can’t get away — she'll know the code. It’s not my classiest move, but it saves me a lot of heartache, plus it saves my “date” any hard feelings. So do you ever use an exit plan when you're unsure of how your evening will pan out?


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sabrinaland sabrinaland 9 years
I once went out with a guy and he did this to me! He had a friend call him an hour into our date. I couldn't believe it! It's a pretty underhanded thing for someone to do to you and it made me feel pretty crummy.
JessiShaye JessiShaye 9 years
this has become habit for me...i never get away with the real reason, that i just want to go to bed at a reasonable time soooo the excuses come out.
linb linb 9 years
I have done this, but I've never gone so far as to have someone call me to help me escape. I usually come up with an excuse before I arrive.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
d_ford I agree. About 6 years ago I was on a date I felt "iffy" about. He ended up being a huge jerk and was able to get myself out of the date ASAP. Thank God...
d_ford d_ford 9 years
emalove, I don't think it's rude it's practical. What if you go on a blind date and the guy turns out to be a complete dud and all you want to do is go? It's better to have a back-up. I've never actually used this and I should have. Once on a horrible blind date (he told me he had been in a high speed chase with the cops the night before!) I told the guy I was going to the washroom and never came back. The next time I saw him he was on the news after being beat up by the cops. Could have killed the friend who set us up. Another time the guy I had been seeing was annoying me so badly and wasn't getting the hint I was over it. We had run into a guy that I had hooked up with in the past, so I was able to get out by faking that our mutual friend was having a crisis when actually I went home with my previous hook up. Not my classiest move, but when it's going wrong you get out.
emalove emalove 9 years
I can honestly say that I've never done this or even considered doing it. If I don't want to go somewhere or don't want to spend time with someone, I don't make the plans in the first place! I think it's rude and I hate when people commit to plans and then back out at the last minute. If you don't want to go, just say no and make up an excuse. Much easier in my opinion.
Random2 Random2 9 years
I've gone to lots of places with an exit plan, but I don't use them all that much. My Mom helped me with my last exit plan. I was at a friend's party I really didn't want to be at, so I had arranged to call home at a certain time and claim illness.
Sandra16 Sandra16 9 years
I did this a lot of times... :S
Merlin713 Merlin713 9 years
I did this, a lot, when I was dating a lot before I met my current man. A few times I just came out with it, and that was just as easy.
missceego0711 missceego0711 9 years
I have never needed an escape plan, but if I need to, I will. You never know when you'd need it.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I have done this a couple of times in the past but now I probably wouldn't do it. I am at the poing where I am not going to torture myself by going out with someone when I do not want to be there. Besides I think guys have caught on and know when we are bailing on them.
Marci Marci 9 years
I can't say I've ever done this. But I might now!
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
Whether or not it's a "classy move," this is always a safe and smart move. I know this sounds really paranoid, but it's never a bad idea to tell a friend when and where you're going out and have him/her check in with you. Not only is it convenient when you're having a crappy time and just want to bail, but you could also set up a code word in case something's wrong.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I've done this before. Sometimes a girl's gotta bail. You know what's worse? When people come over to your place for a visit, and stay waaaaay too long. We had a friend of my SO's over the other night. The girl literally hung out until 4 in the morning, and no hints would budge her butt from the sofa. :OY:
rpenner rpenner 9 years
i always do this. not always a phone call, but something. if i'm going to something or somewhere that i really do not want to be, as soon as i get there i state that i have to leave by such and such time because i have ________ to do.
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
never thought to do this. i am neather here nor there on this one.
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