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Dear Poll: Do You Have High Self-Esteem?

According to Merriam-Webster, self-esteem is defined as “a confidence and satisfaction in oneself." That sums it up, but I think it’s so much more. Self-esteem is about defining yourself outside of other’s perceptions. It’s about recognizing that you’re an imperfect person and that that’s OK. People with high self-esteem naturally make those around them feel more comfortable and confident, while persons with low self-esteem can easily end up closing themselves off from others. I know we all grapple with insecurities — that’s just part of being human — but would you say that you have high self-esteem?


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kh61582 kh61582 8 years
Overall, I would say yes. I am confident in who I am and where I come from and how I got here. I'm attractive enough;) The failures that I've had could have been avoided if I had been more logical and less emotional but I don't believe that there's something wrong with me. The complicated thing is, I've moved around a lot this past year trying to figure out where I fit post-college aka in the real world. I've had a lot of people second guessing me and treating me as though I were flighty which couldn't be farther from the truth and it's frustrating. Sometimes it's hard to stay positive and believe that life hasn't become so confusing because I'm just weird but I know I'll figure it all out if everyone would just get up off my back yo!;)
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
Was extremely low, but it gets higher everyday, especially realizing that it doesn't matter what everyone else wants out of me, it's what I want out of me.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I am kind of insecure. But I'm trying not to be and I'm getting much much better. :)
AlexE70 AlexE70 8 years
I'm a pretty confident person, not just in my looks or appearance, but in the kind of person I am. I try and take care of myself and eat right, etc. The woman I'm with now though is very insecure, to the point where no matter how attractive I tell her she is, or how beautiful I show her she is, compared to other women, she still complains about being too fat and ugly. I think, if you can find someone who appreciates you for who you are inside, and not just out, you should be thankful for those people are few and far between. I actually enjoy waking up next to my lady in the morning, seeing her with no make up on, and saying "good morning, beautiful!" because I mean it. ;-)
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I am more confident than I was as a younger person but I still have days when I feel insecure and unattractive. I am still sometimes surprised when someone calls be thin or pretty. I am still partially stuck in my fat teenage body and in that mindset.
dontknowwhattodo dontknowwhattodo 8 years
Sadly, I picked the top one. I have no self-esteem at all. I am ruining my relationship with my boyfriend because I accuse him of looking at every girl that I think is prettier than me. Our relationship is on the rocks and I don't know what to do. :(
awkwardturtle awkwardturtle 8 years
depends on the day
TidalWave23 TidalWave23 8 years
Usually. But like anyone...I have my insecure moments.
brandi07 brandi07 8 years
I have always struggled with self-esteem issues. I have been trying to work on this, so hopefully it will get better over time!
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
childhood's worth of emotional beating can probably never shake it off. sure you can. I know this for certain. yes, you can. I know this for certian as well. It takes alot of looking inward and realizing that those people who did that to you are the ones with the problem, not you.
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
Gweneth Paltrow looks kind of serious all the time and I bet she is pretty savvy and can stand her ground. Sometimes happy people make me feel uncomfortable cause I never know if they're sincere or not!
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
You know..i notice happy people do have high self esteem, I always look bloody serious but this doesn't mean I ain't happy just that I was trained to think at all time (sociology major here), I'm perfectly happy with my serious face but sometimes people think I have low esteem because i look so serious and i don't laugh at stupid jokes so easily. Plus I'm quite shy.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I absolutely have high self esteem, its taken awhile! but its there!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
Depends. But Usually I have been really insecure all my life. :(
MissyB1984 MissyB1984 8 years
Yes! I can be borderline cocky and have to rein myself in once in a while, but its strange because growing up I was painfully shy and insecure. I'm the youngest girl in my fam, and my sisters outshone me by a mile so it wasnt until I moved away from home and went to college that I really found my confidence.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
childhood's worth of emotional beating can probably never shake it off. sure you can. I know this for certain. ;)
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Pretty much the same as italianblonde. It sucks. I have people who love me and tell me I'm wonderful all the time but a childhood's worth of emotional beating can probably never shake it off. I don't know.
italianblonde italianblonde 8 years
I definitely don't. But in the paragraph up there I can relate to realizing I'm not perfect and being okay with that; my family just isn't. I can walk out of my house and feel okay but then one thing someone says can bring me down so far.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
I have my bad days, but for the most part I am.
otaku otaku 8 years
nope. i definitely don't. i never have, but i hope someday i will.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I sure don't have high self-esteem, and I haven't ever since I can remember. I can accept myself for who I am - but it doesn't mean I like it. I go through cycles where everything is okay but not great, and then it will go ALL the way down and stay there for a long while. I've gotten used to it. From the article: "persons with low self-esteem can easily end up closing themselves off from others." This is REALLY true. I only close off now because no one ever opened up to me when I did put myself out there. Since I was 12 I've considered myself pretty misanthrophic - but my desire to *be* social leads me to have a love/hate relationship with people.
Kazagirl Kazagirl 8 years
No. I've never had high self-esteem. Some days I have good days where I like who I am, other days I wish I could just crawl under a rock forever. I am learning to like myself more each day.
austerity austerity 8 years
Yes, I have high self-esteem. I am very determined and once I set my heart on something, I use my determination and self-confidence to get it. I guess it is partly inherent and partly how I was raised. My mom is an amazing woman and always made me believe in myself. I am confident in a quite kind of way; I never need to throw my weight about in a group just to inform people of how 'great' I am; I feel secure enough without it (though I may brag a lot on this network...I dunno, it's like suddenly it becomes okay to brag about yourself because of the anonymity here...suddenly all my bottled up feelings of self-confidence come out..I wouldn't dare brag like this in real thank you all for putting up with my occassional bragging :) ) If I could give one tip to people who would like to increase their self-esteem, I would say; accept yourself AND others the way you are. Learn to appreciate the good and bad qualities in others; that way you can see what you're relatively good at (which gives you self-esteem), and where you could do better compared to others(which will increase your motivation to improve yourself). See others as a learning opportunity rather than competition (especially in a mean-spirited way). You are only as good as you bring yourself up; you don't become good by bringing others down. In other words; if your self-esteem depends on how good/bad others are doing, it's really no self-esteem at all.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Why I believe I have high self esteem... and usually it's the only reason other than God's grace... "There is nothing more difficult to take in hand, more perilous to conduct or more uncertain in its success than to take the lead in the introduction of a new order of things.-- Niccolo Machiavelli" *not just going along with things you believe to be wrong to avoid adversity or confrontation.
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
I've struggled with confidence all through school. Years later I decided this is stupid. I started exercising and eating right. I felt better about myself. I love me today and will encourage self-confidence to my daughter so that she won't have the struggles that I did.
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