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Dear Poll: Do You Like Getting Looks?

A little flattery can go a long way when it comes to boosting the ego, but even praise can get excessive sometimes. To be honest, I’ve never been a fan of the male gaze; no matter the guy, I just don’t like being stared at. My girlfriends see it as a form of flattery, but to me, being ogled is just too much. Is this flattery you can get behind, or do you prefer to grab your compliments verbally?

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Sumhope Sumhope 9 years
it depends on the kind of look. if its a discrete appreciative glance its all right. but if its undressing me with thier eyes, licking their lips, making animal noices and catcalls in my direction I hate! for all the old men out there stop trying to hit on 20yr olds! if you need a bottle of pills to get it up the answer is NOOOOO gah that felt good to vent
watereatsrock watereatsrock 9 years
Since mostly perves stare..I detest it.
Brandiatx13 Brandiatx13 9 years
I normally am in my own world and never notice...
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
I like that others shared my views here - if they are cute and they wanna look at me, go right ahead. But if he is not, especially if it is a group of creepy guys, hellz no i don't like it!
designerel designerel 9 years
I hate being stared at, period. It's 10 times worse when it's some sketchy-looking guy. Even if the guy is cute I feel really uncomfortable. I just try to ignore them.
chocolatine chocolatine 9 years
I just don't like the type of men who *stare* at women, not matter what they look like. I like the shy nerdy types, who usually just give quick glances (and look me in the eye, thank you very much).
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
12% (18) I can’t stand it. It makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.
seraphimm seraphimm 9 years
I have to go against the group on this one! I find it very flattering, most likely because I NEVER got any attention from guys like this before. (when I was 40 pounds heavier) I'm a server, so whenever I lay down food or drinks... I see the guy(s) staring "subtly" starting from my hands.. to my face...and when I turn around it's my behind then the whole body up-down stare. It's actually hilarious because it's ALWAYS the same kind of stare and really obvious that they're interested. And I'm pretty sure all this attention is only because I'm a 5'11" Asian girl w/ a big ass.
CYL CYL 9 years
Jude I agree about the Group of men comment ...that creeps me out and scares me especially if I HAVE to walk by them...
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 9 years
"I wouldn’t say I love being stared at, but I do find it flattering." That's how i feel about it. Most of the time it skeeves me out when older men or creepy-looking guys do it, but it also makes me a feel a little bit flattered. When I do get checked out or hit on, its usually when I look my worst...which is really confusing to me but whatever :D
MeggyPoodles MeggyPoodles 9 years
hate hate haaaaaate. no matter what, all the time, no matter who is doing the staring. It makes me sooo uncomfortable!!
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
I always find it flattering, as long as it's respectful... and seriously... wtf?? as if the guy in question has the fault of looking the way he does and the fact that you don't find him attractive!! as long as he shows his admiration in a tasteful way, why would I ever care what he looks like?? just my opinion...
HeidiMD HeidiMD 9 years
There is a difference in turning heads and the gross leer.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
Spill the dirt, lemuse! :D
lemuse20 lemuse20 9 years
Not after my friend who's a guy gave me an in on what his co-workers are really thinking when they give a girl the "look"... so basically it just makes my skin crawl now, I don't like being looked at at all, no matter if he's cute or not.
bluestar bluestar 9 years
Depends on who's doing the looking!
fleurfairy fleurfairy 9 years
This reminds me of something that happened to me a couple weeks ago. I was walking into Borders and this construction worker was walking past me down the street. Out of nowhere, he looks me up and down and then says "Nice" right out loud to me. I mean how did he want me to respond to that? I started laughing because it was just blatant ogling.
mollyyymo mollyyymo 9 years
Having dated a few boys who don't even have classes with girls, I've become increasingly uncomfortable with being stared at by guys. Especially after one incident in which several of them logged onto their Facebook, rated me, and reported their opinions to someone I was dating at the time. However, it can be flattering to turn heads. If it's confidence and subtle sexiness they're staring at, so be it, but if they're only looking because I happen to be female, they're pigs! I can rarely discern who's who, so I tend to assume the worst.
austerity austerity 9 years
hehe...glad to see my thoughts are supported by many ;)
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
You know what else is creepy? When there's more than one of them and their WHOLE GROUP is doing it to you.
Swen Swen 9 years
It depends on my mood mostly. Usually I appreciate it as a compliment and it makes me feel good. But some days it makes me really angry. It also depends on how it's done. If it's subtle and quick, fine. However, if it's prolonged and I can feel your eyes on me to the point it's making me uncomfortable or creeped out, no bueno.
CYL CYL 9 years
only if the guy is cute ;) and I agree there is a right way (aka apperciation of beauty) and gross way (I want to do bad things to you...) ew.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 9 years
If the guy is attractive, yes, it can be very flattering...but if the guy is a creeper who won't leave you alone, it's not so appealing.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
"I usually ignore it, so it doesn’t matter to me either way." That's my vote. However, truthfully, what (somewhat) bothers me is when his female companion gets insecure, and give me a dirty look. That look irritates me. It's not my fault her male companion is looking at me. I don't control his eyes. She should be giving HIM the dirty look, not me. I am learning to ignore that look, too. Like I said, I think it comes from a place of insecurity, and I feel sorry for her. Insecurity is a very uncomfortable emotion. It's sad that she is made uncomfortable by an innocent woman strolling down the street minding her own business. How sad.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
It's so degrading. And I doubt that they do that kind of stuff because they really think it'll get them anywhere with a girl--I think the guys who do that just like being pigs.
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