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Dear Poll: Do You Mix Business With Pleasure?

I've asked you before how you feel about dating people you work with, but what about befriending the people you work with? Since we inevitably spend more time with our co-workers than our friends and family, it's easy to develop strong bonds. But no matter how much you may try to deny it, we live in a dog-eat-dog world. It seems like everyone is out to better their career, make more money, and climb the corporate ladder, which makes me question if co-workers make trustworthy friends. Obviously every company dynamic is different as is every friendship so tell me ladies, do you combine your personal life with your professional one?


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ann418 ann418 9 years
Then again, sometimes it can work out perfectly. I'm still happily dating the guy that hired me at a job 4 (almost 5) years ago. I usually lose touch with my work friends after I stop working there. I've always seen that as the beauty of having work friends, as long as it's mutual!
luckyme luckyme 9 years
I totally screwed up my your's. *You're...twice.
luckyme luckyme 9 years
It can really depend on your work situation. If your not on your career path and your working a part time job, you're probably more likely to become friends with your coworkers. Anyway, I also tend to be very particular when it comes to befriending colleagues. I don't see anything wrong with a drink after work, but I haven't ever befriended anyone to the point that they became a part of my core group of friends. They were my "work" friends. You have to be careful mixing business with your personal life. You never know, that person could be your boss one day, or you could be theirs.
petite42 petite42 9 years
While I am friendly at work, I shy away from developing a more social relationship because I'm in management and you never know when you may end up managing someone. It can get awkward. However, I have numerous friends from past companies. Once I leave or they leave, it's a different story altogether. In fact, I am still very good friends with my very first boss. And if I was to leave my company tomorrow, there's a handful of people (including one who works for me now) that I'd reach out to right away in the hopes we could switch to a more social relationship.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I have friends at work. But they are only work friends. I don't think i could hang out with them on the weekend or let them know my personal life. Plus, I am the youngst in the office by 4 years (average age probably 30-35) soooo it would be weird hanging out with people 15-20 years older then me!
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I have a few work friends that I might hang out with once in a while, mostly all guys though, as the girls at my work are competitive and I'm higher up than they are so I don't think they like me much anymore :( I am starting to 'see' a guy at my work, but at least he works in a different department and at work we barely talk or anything so no one suspects anything. Gossip travels far at my work.
ur_momm ur_momm 9 years
I have a few friends at work i consider good friends BUT not the type i hang out with on the weekend or outside work.
ella1978 ella1978 9 years
I used to be friends with a lot of people I worked with, but as I moved up the ladder, and starting controlling what they worked on, they were none too happy, and have since totally excluded me from their parites, trips, etc. It's even harder to go from being good friends, to being purposefully left out. I have a couple friends who are older & are sort of mentors, but no one close that is near my age. Sometimes is sucks a lot.
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
Some business and some pleasure.
divinelight divinelight 9 years
Some of my co-workers are GREAT friends. Tonight a group of us went out drinking and dancing. We all spend a lot of time together at work, so it sucks when certain people don't get along.
tee0206 tee0206 9 years
Unfortunately, all of the other people in my department are probably at least ten years older than I, and they're all married with kids. When I worked with younger people with similar lifestyles, I had plenty of work friends. We went to happy hours all the time. It was great. I still go out with them on occasion.
annebreal annebreal 9 years
I picked other because I'm a college student, and I work part-time at the school doing writing tutoring with other students, and a lot of them I was already friendly with and it doesn't really count. On the other hand, I'm an intern, and because of that situation (being graded and going after good references), I put myself on a pretty strict code of conduct. I'm friendly with people and go to lunch with them, but I would never hang out outside of work or date anyone or anything like that. Also the age gap is pretty significant because everyone I work with for the most part has some sort of graduate degree.
Marci Marci 9 years
Firstly, I have been interviewing for MONTHS and just got a great job offer that I'm going to accept, so I'm really happy right now. Most of my jobs have been as a high-end EA. The very nature of that position includes highly confidential company information crossing my desk. The result of that is that I've gotten so I don't socialize with work people outside of the office because even the best of them are always trying to find out stuff. I have no interest in having to watch everything I say even after a glass or two of wine, so I just don't do it. I get along really well with everyone at work and leave it at that. No lunches, no drinks; just company functions, but no more.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
i think i have 1 or 2 friends that i remained friends (in touch) with them after one of us left a company. matter of fact, i need to call Norma. maybe we'll go Salsa dancing this weekend. i just got some new dancing shoes (i only paid $150 for them , so i'm extra excited to break them in).
julieulie julieulie 9 years
I adore my coworkers. ALL of them. There isn't a single person in my lab that I don't consider to be a friend, and a lot of them are a good 10+ years older than me. It actually really upsets me that I can't invite them all to my wedding, but with spouses, it's almost 30 people. A lot of labs are very cutthroat with people trying to steal research and ideas, but we all share and help each other out. I've always found it beneficial to have befriended everyone because people always know I'll help them out so if experiments get out of control, they'll ask me to do a few, an then I get to be a co-author on their paper. So in my case, being nice and friendly furthers my own career -- none of this backstabbing nonsense.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I have friends at work. they aren't my closest friends, but we invite each other to each other's parties, go to happy hours, and pre-party before firm events.
emalove emalove 9 years
Oh yes, I have several close friends that I work with. I can't imagine NOT getting close to at least some of the people you spend so much time with. But then again, I'm a teacher and there really isn't that kind of competition that you might see in the corporate world. We're all equals as far as job status goes, so I suppose that makes it easier to trust and establish real friendships in my line of work.
atablackbelt atablackbelt 9 years
I work with all men so not so much at the current job...everytime I start to become cool with the guys....someone mistakes my friendliness for flirting and it blows up in my face. So not so much these days
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
I have befriended people in different departments before and we are still in touch after I left the company. But it all really depends on where you work and what you do.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
I spend a SHITLOAD of hours here so of course my girl Susie is BOMB! I wouldn't be able to make it thru the day w/o her...she's like my sister. We always bring something from the donut shop in the morning for each other, or if she's on her way to work from school, she picks up a sandwhich for us. I wish she wasn't part time. But we go to concerts, to movies, to bars and dancing...girl is FAMILY for SURE! as for the rest....who are they? lol
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
It doesn't matter whether you do or don't. Some women are just crude or childish
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