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Dear Poll: Do You Need Clitoral Stimulation to Climax?

I don't have a current statistic, but it's generally believed that the majority of women can’t climax through vaginal penetration alone. I've always found that to be a disappointing fact — especially since so many women don't actually learn this until late in their sexual development. I decided to test this notion so I questioned a group of my girlfriends. Many did acknowledge that an orgasm without external stimulation is possible, though quite uncommon. In fact, the number of women who could reach climax without it was more than I expected — around half. So let me ask my loyal DearSugar readers, do you need clitoral stimulation to orgasm?


Isista Isista 9 years
I also agree with cjmara -- I've orgasmed with just nipple stimulation before. Only with my current boyfriend though.
Isista Isista 9 years
Only sometimes. Most of the time I don't, since my boyfriend is very good at G-spot action (and yes, I believe that the G-spot exists).
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
I'm so jealous of all the girls who come really easily. My boyfriend still hasn't figured me out (like designerel, I'm a tricky customer), so I have to do the work most of the time. >:( I wish so much that I could "learn" to come from vaginal penetration alone. We're working on it, so there's still hope.
I also agree with everything MarinerMandy said. However Usually for me clitoral.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I've never really needed it, but my boyfriend had to work for nearly 6 months just to make me climax. I think after much practice, it becomes easy not to rely on clitoral stimulation, especially for me because my boyfriend is my first and I never masturbated before.
kythera kythera 9 years
We are all women here. I think we should be able to talk about sex and what pleases us. Everyone of us is different so there are going to be some different comments. I respect anyone's view here. My two cents: I voted yes. But I come both ways. I have a sensitive (in a good way) g-spot. I have friends whom have a hard time having pleasure at all. I can't say for certain what the problem is, but if you masturbate, you will find that you can have orgasms. Just don't be afraid of your own body. It's not bad, it's not dirty.
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
Absolutely, I think the large majority of women do.
lucky_karabear lucky_karabear 9 years
only my vibrator can get me off through clitoral stimulation alone...I get multiple Os through vaginal sex and yes, I know I am lucky!
cjmara805 cjmara805 9 years
I've been known to orgasm from nipple stimulation alone :[ I'm way sensitive lol.
megzie356 megzie356 9 years
I can have an orgasm (G) without ANY physical contact if I am turned on enough...No Joke! It's great when its time for a quicky but otherwise, its just bittersweet. ;) My yoga instructor teaches us to concentrate on our pelvic muscles (almost like kagel -sp- excercises, but more internally-the area b/w the genitals and the anus). Sorry if its graphic but it helps if you concentrate, put all your energy into the pelvic muscle. Meditate on that'll help, I bet!!
MandyPinecone MandyPinecone 9 years
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I can have an orgasm without it, but it's not the same type I guess. Clitoral Stimulation is great but I rather prefer the more elusive vaginal orgasm because for me at least it's a much deeper sensation and it lasts longer.
jessiminica jessiminica 9 years
With my ex I could never gain an orgasm with out the clitoral stimulation, however with my current bf I can and do several times....I guess it's true that it doesn't matter the size as long as they know how to use it.
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
Oh yeah, we're here lying. *rolling my eyes* There are many different kinds of orgasm, and just because some women need clitoral stimulation doesn't mean all do. hell, some of us don't need any kind of contact, just contracting the vaginal muscles and engaging in a fantasy can bring an orgasm.
ilikeatea ilikeatea 9 years
no...I guess I am one of the lucky ones..don't need it..I can have them through penetration
andremott211 andremott211 9 years
Where is the secret spot? Sadly, I don't do much....
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
TFS why would suspect that people are lying? I don't and I am definitely not going to tell stories about something like this. WHAT exactly would I get out of that? Just out of curiosity.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
I agree with everything MarinerMandy said.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
I think they say that only 13% (or was it 37%?) of women can orgasm from penetration... that's what I saw on DearSugar a while back. But I'm one of them. =)
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
MarinerMandy, what you said about lining the hips up just right is exactly what has to happen for me too... oh and I have to be on top. But I guess it is actually a combination of the two instead of just vaginal.
MarinerMandy MarinerMandy 9 years
I very rarely climax by clitoral stimulation alone...maybe 5 times in my whole life unless aided by a vibrator like kikidawn said. I don't climax just through sex either, I have to line up our hips right so I get a combination of vaginal and clitoral and that does the trick! Although, I did have a bf years ago that could do it just with his fingers inside. I guess I'm just weird...
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Actually... I can't climax by clitoral stimulation (unless by vibrator). I only climax through vaginal sex.
Hootie Hootie 9 years
Wow, being that the age requirement here on Sugar is only 13 years old, some of the topics here seem to racey! I know it's the parents responsibility to monitor... 13 years olds have sex these days. Yada yada yada... Just my thoughts upon reading this post and the comments.
Oh yes and I feel quite a freak as I have absolutely never climaxed through vaginal penetration and I have done it with clitoral stimulation only very few times. I'm really trying to cheer myself up that I'm still young.. But gosh, how I'd like to know how that feels..
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