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Dear Poll: Do You Sleep On It or Battle It Out?

When it comes to communication and expressing differences, there are just too many dos and don’ts to keep track of. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard “never go to bed angry” used in movies, self-help books, and amongst friends. But then we’re also told to “sleep on it.” So which is it? I wish I knew, but I really think it depends on the person. So, let me ask you, when you’re in a fight, do you sleep on it or duke it out before crawling into bed?


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snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 9 years
i dont ever like to go to bed angry but when we disagree, my bf refuses to argue tired and always wants to sleep on it:(
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
We hardly ever fight but I never go to bed mad. I always talk things out or else I wouldn't be able to sleep and it would just piss me off more.
bingkaycoy bingkaycoy 9 years
I always believe that you don't let the sun go down with your anger.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
It will generally take me awhile to calm down enough to gather my thoughts. Not to sound like an alcoholic, but if I'm super angry I'll generally have a few drinks to make myself tired enough to sleep until I'm ready to handle the conflict.
rpenner rpenner 9 years
I said it depends on the argument but for the most part with don't go to bed angry. When we first got together he'd just want to go to bed but I couldn't. I could not go to bed without having the argument resolved so I'd try to make him battle it out to the end and he'd just get more upset cause he just wanted to go to bed and deal with it in the we'd usually end up going to bed still angry. But we started working on our arguing habits and slowly started to be able to resolve them much quicker so we'd usually go to bed after the argument was resolved. Now we don't get into those big blow out arguments so any disagreement we have is dealt with prior to going to bed.
Jack-D Jack-D 9 years
Typically I like to work things out and wake up in a better mood, but last night we went to bed and didn't work things out. Now things are awkard today and neither one of us wants to bring it back up!!
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
I have to finish the fight if it's something that's really eating me up. Otherwise, I won't be able to sleep and I will practicially talk Sh*T in my sleep to him. If it's something stupid or isn't something that is really driving me nuts, we'll just talk it over another time. Or by the next day we address the main issue because usually by then we have a whole new outlook on the subject.
jedimasterarmi jedimasterarmi 9 years
No one should sleep angry.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 9 years
It depends on the arguement. But if we happen to be in bed during the fight, I'll usually have no choice but to sleep on it. My guy is the type to fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
No battles necessary here because neither one of us likes going to bed pissed off .We alwayd do make the effort to resolve whatever the issue is before falling asleep, but there have been a couple of times where it just was not happening. The one and only thing that laying in bed angry accomplishes is that it keeps me awake at night.
Jessie-M Jessie-M 9 years
I hate going to bed angry, but I usually end up sleeping on it-if I try to stay up to resolve things, I just get tired, and more cranky, and I know I say a lot of things I don't mean or will compromise on something just so I can get to sleep! I have sleep issues so I treasure the little time I do have to be bundled up in bed. My boyfriend and I are always calmer in the morning, and we don't have the heat of the moment to egg us on and say things we don't mean. I am definitely a 'sleep on it' kind of girl. If its still bothering me in the morning, then it's important enough to keep talking about and take time to consider!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Usually we a lways work out our arguments right away because I can't leave them hanging! But there has been a couple fo times when we have gone to bed pissed at each other...and I hate it!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i can't do it. even if we're apart, i'd call 12 times until i resolved it, if need be. i can't go to bed angry.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I hate going to bed fighting but sometimes when my boyfriend isn't here there isn't much we can do.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
We always communicate better after we've cooled off. Neither of us is a yeller, and we both like to have our arguments all planned out before we start talking, so if we disagree, we sleep on it.
missyd missyd 9 years
He is easier to deal with when we are both cooled off. Sleeping on it almost always helps.
girlie871 girlie871 9 years
This is a good question becasue I have always lived by the idea of resolving the issue before going to bed but recently i've had my doubts. If I go to sleep upset i'll have trouble going to sleep, and I always tend to let things go faster or forget what it was that upset me. However, I recently got into a huge argument with my bf and I wish i would have waited to sleep on it because we said a bunch of things we didnt mean. the next day I felt calmer and more clear about the situation.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
We battle to the death. No sleeping here.
thorswitch thorswitch 9 years
I definitely believe in getting it taken care of before going to sleep. I don't want to sleep next to someone I'm angry with, and neither of us want to let things fester. Luckily, our arguments - even when they're bad - usually take less than an hour or so to resolve, and the longer we've been married, the less frequent and less "energetic" they've become. We just don't like being mad at each other, so we tend to start trying to find ways to help each other understand our point of view and find some kind of resolution that we can both live with.
indielove indielove 9 years
I'm with ElizabethRae. If it doesn't end right then and there, it won't be better in the morning. In fact, it would get worse. Better to just be angry, say your piece and be done with it. The next day...we move on.
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
I cannot just leave things until the next morning. I need to work things out and know we're okay, and losing a few hours of sleep is worth it to me.
omilawd omilawd 9 years
I stay up until we come to some sort of compromise or agreement.
emalove emalove 9 years
I can't sleep if I've had a fight with my husband...I'm the kind of person who needs a resolution, or I'll toss and turn, all upset, all night long.
solebrth solebrth 9 years
If she looks like the girl in the picture ,sleeping would be the last thing on my mind
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
i HAVE to finish a fight. i hate when people want to "drop" it, just to sweep sh*t under the rug. don't punk out and man-up!
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