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Dear Poll: Does Seeing Your Friend Have a Baby Make You Want One, Too?

A friend of mine recently had a baby. She's a glowing, amazing mom and she makes it look so easy. Of course, she's super honest about how tired she is, how much work it is, and how she can't even think about having sex right now, but at the end of the day, she's loving being a mom. Now I'm nowhere near ready to have kids, but watching her has definitely gotten me more excited to one day be a mother myself. So whether or not the time is right for you, let me ask you this: Does seeing a friend have a baby make you want one, too?


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anke35 anke35 7 years
LOwithoutVE LOwithoutVE 8 years
I really really do want one and my fiance does too! But I'm in college right now so i think is best if i wait. I'm gonna get married next year, but my fiance is in the Navy, so there for that's another reason why i want to wait. Once i marry him I'm gonna go and live with him meaning I'll be away from my family. So I don't want to have a baby knowing he will get deployed and i'll end up being alone in a place I'm not familiar with. But if none of these things were going on i would definitely have one even if that meant putting school aside for a few months.
keiraz keiraz 9 years
oh so excited about? gaining too much weight being huge for 9 months not enjoying anything sleepless nights, dirty poopy diapers loud noise in ur ears 24/7 no more so and so bcz of the baby and this will go on for years until they grow up and f*ck my head even more oh no thank u very much llol
brandiboop brandiboop 9 years
I just went to a birthday party for my friends one year old, and literally everyone except for my fiance and I had children or were pregnant. It is contagious, all of our friends are pregnant!! I kind of feel like I want to be too, but don't think I am ready to be responsible for someone the rest of my life. That is scary!!
richandfamous10 richandfamous10 9 years
no way! and just because my friends are doesn't mean i want's not like picking up a new is starting a new life! i definitely want to wait til im much older and in my 30's
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Nope, it confirms for me that my husband and I made the right choice of being child-free. We're enjoying married life, without children. It's a lovely lifestyle, and it's the right one for us.
ashleycheer ashleycheer 9 years
Seeing other people playing with their kids always makes me want a child of my own. But I really don't want children. And I don't want to go pregnancy and all that afterwards.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
When I see married people or pregnant women, I want it to. However, I don't really want children, so it's weird. I just feel like it's such a wonderful experience feeling a life forming inside of you, but I wouldn't want to raise a child for 18 years. Getting married seems fun for the wedding planning and wedding day part (and being with the man you want to spend the rest of your life with), but I'm too young for that, now.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 9 years
ive been married for almost 3 years and im still in college so me and my hubby are putting off kids till i graduate.. but i totally want one soo much!!! my bff is preggers, and that totally makes me want one of my own too lol
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
I couldn't possibly agree more with JenFan! I've always thought pregnancy was gross and babies were ugly and annoying, and at 27, I'm starting to think I will always feel this way. I'm a practicing artist, and also working on my PhD, and for me, academic and artistic accomplishments mean way more than spawning -- that's something animals do all the time! It's not exactly an achievement, and I don't enjoy hearing about people's icky pregnancy and childbirth stories, or how "intelligent" their spoiled brats are. My boyfriend and I have talked about this, and I think he may want kids someday, which scares me. I'm hoping he will see the greatness of ADOPTION!!!
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
kids are scary
darlene darlene 9 years
Yes it does
Lele777 Lele777 9 years
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 9 years
Lol at TidalWave's comment!
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I am on the ten year plan, so it I'll be like 37 when I have a kid by this point in my life.
JenFan1 JenFan1 9 years
heheh..definitely no! I personally have never wanted kids to begin with and little has been done to change my mind. I was surprised to see so many ladies on here feeling the same way I feel...I'm the only person of ALL my friends who doesn't really want kids and never has. Sometimes I feel as if there is something odd about me for feeling like this in this seemigly baby-obsessed culture. But its nice to see there are quite a few ladies out there who don't think that breeding is necessarily the way to enlightment! Thanks girls!
TsuKata TsuKata 9 years
It bugs me that the quiz options are basically, yes, yes, and "I'm having fun being single." 1) It implies that neither of the first two options include the case of having fun being single. 2) There's no option (humorous or otherwise) for "I have no plans to have kids, single or not." I guess that's what "Other" is for, but it sure makes it seem like you're supposed to fit into one of the first three options. :(
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
LOL @ some of these responses so far! :D They're cute and all, but: 1. They do seem like a lot of work. 2. I am still way 2 selfish and enjoy going out 2 sacrifice anything else any more than I already am. 3. I'm having way 2 much fun being semi-married and doing things with my fiance at the moment. 4. We have 2 dogs and I feel tied down enough just having them around! 5. It also freaks me out about how you cant drink for almost 2 years (while prego and while breastfeeding) 6. I'm still kinda trying 2 lose weight, not really excited about gaining more!
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
Heellll to the no. Babies are such a hand full, your life changes drastically whether you want it to or not. Sure, their cute and lovable but their also ALOT of work. I am not ready for kids right now. Im not even close, I would like to have kids when I am finanically, mentally, emotionally, and physically stable. I have fun playing and loving my friends kids but I am SO happy that I get to go home without them. There's just so much I can handle right now. I am happy with my life and have some goals I need to accomplish before I have kids.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
bbkf bbkf 9 years
Being around babies reinforces that I never want to have one.
marinewifey marinewifey 9 years
Not at all.
hillamaria hillamaria 9 years
I want a baby sometimes but not right away. Thank god none of my friends are pregnant yet. ;)
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
hmm . .not so much. a lot of my friends are a bit older. so when they started getting married and having babes, i was over the moon about the little f*ckers . . . (my BFF is pregnant right now with her and her hubby's first kid, and i am already buying crap for the kid- she's like 4 mouths pregnant) but i'm not at the point in my life where i want children. i make pretty good money, but i'm not married . . .and as of right now, i don't want to be married. and i don't really want to take care of a kid right now. you have to really give them attention . .and feed them . . .and clean them . . .and play with them some more . . .at some point feed them again . . .
injustica injustica 9 years
Ugh yes. My boyfriend's aunt just had a baby last August, so he is now eight months old, starting to walk, and has eight teeth. He's growing so fast that we can't even keep up with him, especially while we're away at school. Today I spent a few hours playing with him, and I must say that I can't wait to be married and have kids! In a few years of course ... not while I'm still in university!
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