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Dear Poll: Does Sex Make Things Complicated?

I'm sure you've heard the phrase "sex makes things complicated" on more than one occasion, but I'm not convinced that there's any truth behind it. Sure, if you're crossing the line of friendship with someone, sex can complicate things, and if you're not having sex in a relationship, that can most definitely raise a red flag. But does the actual physical act of getting busy convolute a relationship? Tell me ladies, do you think sex makes things complicated?


calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
ofcourse it would complicate things. for some girls, and guys, sex isnt a big deal. but ofcourse it is. you shouldnt do it with just anyone. you should do it with a special someone. girls who do it with just anyone in my opinion are sl*ts. sorry but really, how cheap could u be to fuck just anyone? if it were me, i would totally stick with the person i do it with.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
If it does then you're doing something wrong. ;p
havok636 havok636 8 years
in my case sex started the relationship. we somehow went to a fling, to f*** buddies, to best friends, to bf/gf
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i don't think so. not for me anyway.
yadiet yadiet 8 years
In this topic, sex always complicates things. For instance, lets say you are dating someone for around 7 months and you break up. If you still talk to the person over the PHONE its okay. However, once you cross that boundary and they come over and you have sex its a different story. Especially in a guy point of view. B\c even though you are not together you are still having sex leaving him free to roam around and speak to other women while still coming back to you for some good lovin. Its happened to me with a ex. I was so blind sided by him and so OBSESSED that I didn't mind. Then I realize I didn't love my self enough. good thing that was back in HS. I'm much older now and I learned from my mistake.
rellicDragon rellicDragon 8 years
lol complicates ... cuz I usually get emotionally attached or feel a connection towards that person ... I wish I could just go to a bar and get laid some night (I have been single for almost a year) but thats never goin to be me ... too complicated
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
Err, it's been a long morning already. I meant to say sex can make it bad complicated or good complicated. I am not sure where that extra "makes it" came from :(
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
It depends on the situation. Sex can make it makes it bad complicated or good complicated :)
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
It complicates it but in a good way, I think. Well, I guess that depends on the relationship. Either way, that kind of intimacy with a person definitely takes things to a whole new level!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Hmmm I think it all depends. My bf and I have a very stable, loving and healthy relationship. When we make love, that's just what it is. Love. We are so infacuated with each other we just get the urge to do the deed. It's really hard to explain...I dunno!
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Well, in my opinion, sex can be just sex. Not everyone is looking for something more out a person. I have known many people who had sex and it didn't mean that "oh wow, I love you and want to be with you" -- all it meant was "hey, I need to get laid". Personally, I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't care about, and neither would my man. I believe the man or woman who has sex with someone and likes that person as more than just a sex partner complicates things. The person makes it complicated, not the act of sex itself.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
And with that said, not all men view sex as sport, and women their points on a scoreboard. Just to clarify ;).
indielove indielove 8 years
:rotfl: jessie!
JessNess JessNess 8 years
I think we have this societal view that for women sex can make things complicated because we automatically attach emotional strings to the person that we are with. Yet society does not hold men's understanding of how sex changes relationships into accounts. Women can compartmentalize sex as being just sex just as easy as men can
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
I guess I think like a dude because I can totally have emotionally disconnected sex. Sometimes the Chemistry is great and the sex is phenomenal, but personality wise neither one of you likes each other that much.
indielove indielove 8 years
"Being intimate with someone makes me more attached to them, so I couldn't have sex with just anyone." Same here.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
I think Sex changes the dynamic of a relationship for sure, but does not cause any problems for me unless that sex resulted in STDs or pregnancy. I think people complicate things. You can have one of the most complicated and dysfunctional relationships without there ever going to the point of sex. And I think in most situation where people vote yes, sex complicates things, the situation was complicated way before sex became a factor.
Glittersniffer Glittersniffer 8 years
I think it can be a NASTY tangler. Been there, done that. I think in my case, though, I was confusing sex with intimacy, and it was the latter that I was after. I have long since figured out that the two do NOT go hand in hand, and 86'ed any attempts to turn a booty call into a lover. Sometimes you go in thinking one thing, and leave thinking another, though. That's just how people are. But that doesn't negate the need for honesty with a "partner of convenience". Just be honest about how you're starting to feel, but know that that honesty could cost you the lovins. Better to know it ain't happening than to continue sleeping with someone who doesn't CARE about you, I figure.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I don't think it has to, but I think in most cases it does complicate things. At least for me it does, emotional attachment and all.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
For me, personally, sex ups the emotional ante. I have a tough time being intimate without some kind of attachment. Having said that, my most recent heartache was a guy friend I never had sex with, who I totally fell for. I decided to cut him out of my life at least for now, because it was really too painful seeing him date others. I know that sounds lame, but I fell hard. I hope time and dating others can diminish those feelings and I can approach the friendship again someday, because I miss him so much. So, I guess the point is, sex CAN complicate a relationship, but only if there are underlying emotions there to begin with.
Myst Myst 8 years
I think it depends on the situation. Don't make someone who's only booty call material to be a relationship type and relationship types into booty calls. If both parties are open and honest about what they are looking for then there shouldn't be any problems.
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
I have a few "friends with benefits" and they weren't complicated, but I guess that's only if both parties are honest and no one is harboring deep love for the other. I on the other hand have had friendships were emotions complicated the relationship and there was no sex. See I don't think the issue is sex, it is the emotion that it can represent.
Jmartens Jmartens 8 years
There is no such thing as "just sex". Okay, maybe if you pay for it, but even then...
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