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Dear Poll: Have You Dated Down?

Have you ever walked down the street and wondered why she was with him? That's the first thing I thought when I saw Cate Blanchett and Andrew Upton. Sometimes couples seem to be mismatched, even celebrity couples. Of course, when you don't know their personalities, it's hard to decipher what it is that makes the individuals attracted to one another, but let me ask you this: Have you ever dated a guy that people thought wasn't attractive enough for you?


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mcmommy mcmommy 9 years
I voted other. I date who I date for various reasons, looks not usually being one of them.. I'm not going to lie and say I've never noticed someone because of their looks. There has also been a time or two when I've dated someone I found attractive only to look at him weeks later and wonder what the hell i was thinking. Let's face it: not wanting to date someone who looks like he's guaranteed to give you VD does NOT make you shallow!
trish0683 trish0683 9 years
I think that once you get to know someone, they often become more attractive to you. If you find them funny or quirky or intelligent,you may find some physical feature about them that you love that makes them attractive in your eyes.
alydanielle alydanielle 9 years
I don't think you should date for looks. Obviously you have to be attracted to the person physically, but I much prefer guys becoming more attractive once you get to know them. Personality is the most important, because honestly, it is what makes people attractive. You can be a really good looking guy, but that can only take that so far i.e. one date haha One of my friends told me that the last guy I dated was "dating down" (of course after we broke up!) but I really didn't let it bother me, since I was attracted to him, so it doesn't really matter what other people think. But if you are taking people's opinions to heart and letting it affect how you feel about a guy I'd consider whether or not you actually liked the guy in the first place. If you truly like someone it doesn't matter what other people think. I think the term "dating down" is pretty harsh though.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
This is a really stupid poll. I mean, if you answer that you do "date down" because someone isn't as incredibly hot as you are and has a good personality, are you really dating down? That doesn't even make sense. What I would assume you mean by "dating down" is dating a guy you aren't attracted to with an awful personality, so no, I guess I don't date down in that sense of the term.
robs1325 robs1325 9 years
If you close the door on everyone because you don't think they are good looking enough for you, you may eventually run out of doors. Looks can improve or deteriorate after you get to know someone's personality...
melda melda 9 years
no i don't know what is dating down but i don't think i am better looking than my ex boyfriends! wow if i though like that i would be very arrogant
d_ford d_ford 9 years
I have and I totally regret it. I was drunk when I met him, and was drunk most weekends of our 2 month relationship. I think it explains alot. I was young, stupid and thought that looks didn't matter to me. But that relationship taught me alot. I realised that looks matter, to an extent, that I don't like guys who play dungeons and dragons, and I don't like guys who wear corduroys. I'm not afraid to say that if the looks aren't there, I'm not interested. Looks are what first catch you and if you aren't attracted to the person, physically, the relationship won't go far. I also want to add, looks are subjective.
remedios remedios 9 years
Something about this question disturbs me.
jimmalou1978 jimmalou1978 9 years
The only guy I ever dated that was "good looking" turned out to be more shallow and concerned about his looks than I was. It took him longer to get ready to go out than it took me, and he was always asking, "How's my hair?". Most of the men I have dated (and married) were not conventionally good-looking, but have always had some attractive attributes (blue eyes, full lips, etc.) that I concentrate on. That being said, I think my husband's hot! :LOL:
LadyLibertine LadyLibertine 9 years
never have and never will date based on looks I am happy being single so when I do want to date someone it is after I have gotten to know them, their heart and mind is my only interests and they span off into interests etc
potterlove potterlove 9 years
If the guy I date just happens to be gorgeous, then that's just a sweet bonus to the great personality he happens to have that made me want to date him in the first place. Along with that he must be fun to be with and an-out-of-this-world sex appeal, too! Doy!! :WOOHOO:
mrskrismendoza mrskrismendoza 9 years
I don't date for looks.
junebrug junebrug 9 years
I have dated down a LOT. My best advice is don't do it. Whether it's looks, personality, ambition, or just plain kindness, if you feel you're dating down, then you are. Things about a person you don't like get worse over time. If he drives you nuts the first month, run for your life.
designerel designerel 9 years
Yes I have dated down. Even though I'm may not be attracted at first, eventually their personality and charm wins me over. But I did get tired of the comments ("Why HIM?") I think I have this fear deep down inside that if I date a pretty boy, he will just end up breaking my heart. At least with less attractive guys, you know they will be devoted, right?
Marci Marci 9 years
Except for my fiance (who is gorgeous), the nicest guy I ever dated was also the most unattractive. So hell yeah! I've dated down!
murmurkibbies murmurkibbies 9 years
Dating isn't about looks. Looking is about looks. I'm much more likely to refer to my brief relationship with a very good-looking A-hole as "dating down" than a wonderful relationship with a guy that relatively didn't look as good.
Esix Esix 9 years
Well nikkeeb, I already said guys get hotter as time goes by :p No seriously, you're absolutely spot on. A gorgeous person (male or female) can look like crap 5 min after he opened his mouth. And a not so hot person can start looking awesome once you get to know them. And the funny thing is, not only the inside, but also the outside seems to get better in those cases. The outside is fun for like 5 min, but if there's nothing to back it up it fades reaaaally quickly.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 9 years
I voted other because the post asked, "Have you Dated Down?" and I thought it was offensive. Something along the lines of if you are hot then you have more worth than someone who is just normal - it just doesn't sit right with me.
nikkeeb nikkeeb 9 years
i think it's interesting that so many girls actually say they "date down". i don't have a problem with dating someone unattractive, but i have a hard time telling if the guy is since i'm completely biased. i used to get lectures from my older sister about how i could "do better", but to me nobody i was even friends with was unattractive. my opinion of someone's physical appearance is SO subjectively based on their personality. i know it sounds ideal and untrue, but i can't really explain it. i've always thought my fiance was a nice looking boy, but i was never attracted to him. it took almost 2 years until we even dated, and now he's the hottest guy i know!! (hint: he didn't change physically all that much...)
Ashlyn-Rose Ashlyn-Rose 9 years
Yes. Until my last relationship, I thought that super attractive guys are full of themselves and that I should date more average to homely looking dudes if I wanted a real relationship. But now, I know that all guys are pretty much assholes, so it really doesn't matter. I know it's cynical, but I haven't found a guy yet who's been able to prove me wrong.
Esix Esix 9 years
Hahaha :D Well, I was obviously joking (duh) but this sounds quite interesting. So you really think women get prettier after 25? Come on, that's just denial, I almost don't know a single woman who doesn't start complaining about her first wrinkles, cellulite, weight gain and what not between her 25 and 30. By the way, for the ones with a stick up their butt: Yes, older women can be classy and age nicely too.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
In like, 6th grade. we were only a couple at school, and i said yes to be nice. it doesn't count though since I didn't know better, now, it doesn't matter to me...however the boys i have dated have all just happened to be attractive. I bet though, that people wonder why my boyf is with me.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
Hey Esix I get better every year! My mom is 57 and is a Fine, Fine looking lady. Judging by the way my father-in-law has aged I am not going to get a "hot" older guy.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
Careful, Esix. Your last comment is a good way to make enemies.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
women become ugly as they get older? never has a statement been more untrue.
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