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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Asked Someone Out?

Making the first move can be terrifying; rejection is never pleasant. But I also think there’s something empowering about asking someone else out. Like doing anything that involves taking a chance, there’s a rush that comes with putting yourself out there — even if he declines, at least you'll know that you took a risk. Ladies, have you ever walked out on that limb and asked someone out?


calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
nope, and i never will. loads of guys asked me out though, i said yes to two guys. my first one lasted for 7 months. but didnt work out. this one, on january 1st its gonna be 18 months. lol
bellanatella bellanatella 8 years
Yes, three times and it only worked once: the other guys had girlfriends.. Lmao. Smart move, right? The one time it worked I hated the relationship. It lasted on/off about two or three years when I was wayyyy too young so I don't reccomend it as I haven't had good experiences with it. I like when the men are men and play their part and most men I've talked to like it that way too, I'm sure. Haha
Belle1031 Belle1031 8 years
First guy I had a crush on I asked out. His initial response was yes, then when I went to ask if a certain day worked he backed up and said no. He was an idiot and the first guy to break my heart. I went on to ask a guy out I met through and I haven't regretted it since! 1 1/2 yr and still going :)
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I asked my boyfriend out! I asked him out for coffee and then I asked him if he would like to be my boyfriend. ;p I already knew him for a long time before we started dating so I knew how shy he was. :)
lexichloe lexichloe 8 years
Most of my relationships have developed out of me asking them out. Guys are intimidated by me...
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Yep! It always worked great.
valancyjane valancyjane 8 years
I couldn't remember (it's been a while since I had a date with anyone but my husband) but then I remembered that I had formals and date parties in college, so sure, I asked guys out. Thank God for sorority events, they gave me a lot of practice with social graces! On the issue of what it says about a man if he doesn't make the first move ... sometimes guys legitimately didn't think of you in that way but when you show some interest they perk up and think "hmm ..." That happened to me in college - I had a date party and asked a guy from work who I enjoyed talking to. A few weeks went by and he showed some interest, then we dated for a few months until I graduated. You never know how it might work out, so might as well take the risk.
stumbler02 stumbler02 8 years
I don't like waiting on a man to ask me out. I did it with my current boyfriend and I regret it! He's really shy. Even though we'd been friends for years and it was obvious that he liked me, he just wasn't confident enough to ask me out soon enough. We went back and forth, I think I waited for him to ask me out already for three months! We still joke about how he waited too long. I agree with mesayme that this kind of hesitance shows a lack of confidence and decisiveness. It shows that he is still a bit of a child. Luckily, I'm a bit immature myself and I have plenty of other shortcomings of my own, so I don't hold these things against my boyfriend, who has more than enough redeeming characteristics for me :)
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
For me it's not a fear issue, or a female issue... it's a 'most little boys want to be a superhero', as a man, I try to give him as many realistic opportunities as I can. ;) I think a high self-esteem on a man's face is cute. That's why David Beckham's so sexy to me; he's fearless about soccer, being a husband and father on film, but you just know he's curled up on Victoria's lap at home. It's adorable. :) That's the kind of man that lowers my draw(ers) bridge. LOL :OOPS:
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
:D someone agrees with ME? I almost fell out of my chair. :ROTFL: jk...
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 8 years
I've asked four times, and I only got through once. I like it when a guy takes charge though. It shows me that he's interested. I agree with Mesayme's response too.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I am not afraid to ask. I always go after what I want. Wondering what could have been is worse than getting rejected.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Never have, don't believe I ever would. If he waits on me to do it, it's unattractive. I see it as not confident enough and lazy. I'm also not the type of woman who rejects cruelly so I think wanting the man to ask me is fair.
CYL CYL 8 years
It wasn't formal but it was more like 'hey do you want to grab a coffee' kind of deal. I extend the Olive Branch and the rest is up to them and the next date is up to them I think.
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I've done a lot of asking ... and getting what I want. I'm actually tired of being the one doing the asking. For a change, I suckered my ex-bf into asking me out ... by leaving him a trail of clues and all the info he needed to make the first move . Sneaky, huh?
kristyy kristyy 8 years
Yup! I just married him. :)
babysoftpink babysoftpink 8 years
really not an option either... :(
babysoftpink babysoftpink 8 years
Yes. I have and that was high school. I think. As you age, your risk taking ability declines every day. The option of remaining a spinster is painful but the alternative of experiencing a heart attack upon one's rejection is really an option either.
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
I can only recall it happening one time and that was with my fiance! We both worked for the same company and it just so happen that I saw him looking in my direction! Women you know how it is when you see a man looking your wondering what's on his mind! So I went out on the limb and asked him would he like to go out side at the picnic table. We talked the whole entire break and every since then we've been together for 5 yrs.. Sometimes it's a good thing to walk out on that limb b/c you never know it might be your future husband!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I have three times, and it's never worked out. I'm very traditional, so it may work for other people. For me.... no.
teegaall teegaall 8 years
I have quite a few times. I've never been flat out rejected. I've either had the guy say he has a gf or say yes, we go out on a date and no sparks that lead to a second date.
Nitachequita Nitachequita 8 years
I'm proud of myself for doing it a few times, but I certainly am happy to take a back seat and let the men do the asking.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i know all the advice out there says guys WANT to be asked out by girls, but i have never been able to be that forward no matter how much i wanted to
missyd missyd 8 years
I haven't, but I can think of more than one occasion where I should have taken the risk and done so
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