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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Had a Rivalry With Another Woman?

Blake Lively dispels the rivalry rumor between her and Leighton Meester in the December issue of W magazine. She blames the media for starting it, but it got me thinking about competitive and contentious relationships between women. It seems like many of us have had a frenemy at one point in our lives, but tell me, have you ever had a full-blown rivalry with someone before?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
i did, but its in the past
Kat-E Kat-E 8 years
Oh god. My boyfriend has a friend who does and says things to constantly try to communicate that she believes she is more "important" to him than I am. It's not only ridiculous because he doesn't consider her to be a close friend, but she recently put me to tears when she tried to make me believe that he was saying nasty things behind my back and she supposedly stood up for me. Not only was it not true (which I knew), but she has actually tried to do this same thing to other couples we know too! It's really upsetting and sometimes I just want to hit her.
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
I clicked no, but after reading some of these posts I can totally relate. My bf's ex was completely crazy when him & I started dating.. she kept asking him out and whatnot. It pissed me way the hell off, and because we had so many mutual friends (I even had a class with her sister! WTF!) there was no avoiding running into her at parties or hearing her name come up in conversation. We always pretended the other didn't exist -- even when we were literally an arm's length from one another. Now we have a class at the same time in rooms across from each other, so I see her sometimes (and how did THAT happen? There are 40 000 students at my school! We're not even in the same faculty!). We're still pretending the other doesn't exist. It's a very quiet rivalry lol
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
this is kind of a complicated one for me. i don't consider myself to be jealous of people, but there's this one girl that i worked with and she would always try to one-better me and she was always trying to compete with me. i didn't make sense but then i realized that she was making me into a rival - but that's her own stuff - i never did the same thing with her.
architectdarling architectdarling 8 years
I have a frenemy. She copies everything I do, and always tries to one-up me. Too bad she doesn't succeed, because by the time she rips off my idea I'm already on to the next. She is always 3 steps behind me, and she can't catch up. :D
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
flickster... thank you. :OY: It's a damn Katrina-sized disaster I tell you, I had NOTHING to do with. He follows me EVERYWHERE, here too! :IRK: He decided we were a couple. It took me a couple years to figure out who my 'boyfriend' was... and she thinks I want him. Huh? :? Unfortunately she thinks I don't like her because of him. Honestly, I wouldn't like her regardless after the stuff she's done out of 'retaliation'... from what...she's fighting her damn shadow. I've been running away from that FOOL! :ROTFL:
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
OMG!!! TidalWave, same thing happened to me. Uggg...bad memories. :/ Yeah, my ex's crazy ex was totally jealous of me and wanted my then bf back, or at least acted like it. She was very mean, talked about me behind my back and was pretty much just a total biotch. I'm SO glad I'm rid of both of them. They can have each other back, they deserve each other. >:-0
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
mesayme! you poor person! I've heard of internet crazy stalkers but woooooooooooooooow. you have my condolences.
Meike Meike 8 years
Nope, I never had that sort of friend. I am competetive though in the workplace and martial arts in a professional manner, however.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Yes, back in junior high school. The operative expression is "back in junior high school." I've outgrown that mentality (thank goodness).
thelorax thelorax 8 years
There's no option for "Yes, I HAD one, but it's over/I'm over it."
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 8 years
Yes, back in grade school and high school. We were both athletes and she was one grade up from I would always try to beat her school records. hehehehe We were never friends and she was mean to me so I focused my energy on making her #2 instead of #1. Fun times! hahahaha
psterling psterling 8 years
My high school BFF and I competed for everything it was a really unhealthy relationship. One of my oldest friends and I used to steal each other's boyfriends all the time but we both have found men we're happy with, and our friendship it still strong.
hibiscus96818 hibiscus96818 8 years
About 3 years ago I stopped talking to 2 of my closest friends because I could not handle their drinking and immature actions. 6 months later the rivalry started. The 2 girls were sending hurtful messages to my e-mail, calling at all hours of the night from a private number, threatening to come to my house and beat up me and my roommate (who they also hated). Things got so bad, I had to call the police and file a harassment report against them and I changed my cell phone number 3 times. After the police got involved the situation settled down, but it was a horrible experience.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 8 years
yes, but in the past, this girl and I went to high school together and I remember I would always try to be nice to her at first, but then she started spreading lies about me to other people.. I didn't know why at first , until someone else had told me that she had a crush on this guy who sat behind me in science class, who I would help with his homework sometimes. I didn't like him, but she did. Which explains why she would cut eyes at me every time I would speak to him. so immature. now, we're "friends" on facebook. but she's definitely NOT my friend.
iamangiepooh iamangiepooh 8 years
I said no, but I remembered after the fact one particular incident with a particular girl. I grew up going to church and was super close to everyone in my youth group, including the boys. They were like my older brothers and everyone would hang out all the time, even after church. Well, there was one girl that had a problem with me for no reason. I didn't have a clue why, but I found out from my friend that the reason why she didn't like me was because I was so close to all the guys. I was pretty upset because I didn't do anything wrong, and didn't understand what I did to deserve that type of treatment. I never confronted her though, but she was mean to me quite a few times. A couple years later, she friended me on Facebook and now we're 'friends.' Lol. I'm not one to hold grudges so it doesn't matter to me anymore.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I'd trade what I'm dealing with for any one of those 'rivalries'. Hell, all of them at once!!! :) How about the current 'girlfriend' thinking you want a man who's been stalking you for years before he met her. And yet, she tries to play you like you're jealous of her. :OY: I've never fought over a man in my life. I strictly won't take a man back if he involves another woman in any way that creates chaos for me. And I've never even met these people IN PERSON! damn internet... :rant:
richkidblues richkidblues 8 years
I have never felt like I've been in rivalry with anyone. I think its pretty normal to be in a rivalry with a boyfriends ex or an ex's current girlfriend. I have a friend(if you can call her that) who since the 8th grade has created rivalrys. She's very cocky but she's very insecure. our friendship has been a trainwreck, when she's nice its great but when she's miserable she makes your life a living hell. After all these years I've finally cut it off. SO i guess you can say that she's been in a rivalry with me. Im very laid back and get along with alot of people whereas she has a hard time keeping friends. I think she's jealous of that and creates all these problems between people to give her power. UGH its a nightmare.
gooniette gooniette 8 years
Of course, that probably means that the guy I was dating was leading them on which makes him a jerk, but that's no reason to be mean to me!
gooniette gooniette 8 years
I always find out after the fact, but yeah. Mostly it was girls trying to get guys that I was dating. I would be totally nice to them and they would give me the cold shoulder. I'd find out the next day or so why they were so rude...
chatondeneige chatondeneige 8 years
There was this one girl in college (she's actually on the sugar sites and uses her face as her avatar! It was quite a surprise to see) who slept with my then-long-term-boyfriend, and that started a rivalry... then my little sister started to date her ex (completely unaware, I think?).... Ugh. It escalated from there. She'd go on my boyfriend's facebook and look at my status, and show up where my little sister and I were. She was a little crazy/obsessed with us, from what I could tell. My little sister is still obsessed with her, but I don't really think much about her except when questions like these come up... or when my little tells me about their latest encounter - I guess this girl who slept with my ex showed up to her Zumba class. :eye roll:
momma-tikita momma-tikita 8 years
Yes but it only started happening after I had kids...people pass a lot of judgment and Im still learning that! I think the worse one was this one breastfeeding mommy who was part of "La Leche League" completely bashed me for feeding my kids formula. I am all for breastfeeding but some women just cant or choose not too. Well she decided to say things like " kids are SMARTER when they drink breastmilk." I responded with "If that was true then why is my son who is 8 months younger than yours on the same level and maybe even doing more things then yours?" Im not a mean person at all but when it comes to my children..dont F with me. ;) some other time where a girl I knew was in a horrible relationship with her second baby's father and I decided that as a friend I told her the truth when she asked me what I thought about the guy (which was an asshole). She accused me of being jelous and I laughed...histercially. That just got her real pissed off.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Thankfully, I've never had an rivalry with any other woman in my life. Not even in high school. The women I currently have a problem with, were never and would never be a friend of mine. We are entirely different types of humans beings.
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
Hm. Not that I know of? :? Maybe some have beef with me but I am pretty oblivious and detached. Could not care less :)
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I wouldn't call it a rivalry. More one 'real' woman defending herself against some 'surreal' bitches who needs to get a 'real life'. (I'm sure you're quite filled in Dear ;) )
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