Skip Nav
These 26 Guys Drinking Coffee Are Hotter Than Your Morning Joe
42 Sexy (but Discreet) Tattoos For Women
Are You and Your Mom BFFs? Here's How to Know For Sure

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Had a Secret Lover?

Lance Armstrong and Ashley Olsen are still denying reports of a romantic relationship even though they've supposedly been spotted all over New York sucking face! Now, if I were Ashley, there's no way I'd be able to keep mum about my relationship, but of course celebrity relationships are those of a different breed.

Their denial got me thinking about real life relationships. People keep new romances under wraps for all types of reasons, everything from getting back with an ex to dating someone else's cast aways, so ladies, tell me, have you ever had a secret lover?


Join The Conversation
burnsjl burnsjl 9 years
I dated someone I worked with for a year and we kept it a secret from everyone at work. I can't believe no one figured it out!
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
Sort of... It was fun. :)
darlene darlene 9 years
I did, I was young
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I usually do this, not because of shame or anything, but just because I like to keep it to myself when something's just starting up. It's not something I keep a secret from everyone, and I don't lie about it-for example if someone asks if i'm seeing the guy, I will say I am- but I like to keep it just for me instead of sharing it with every single person I know. I feel like there's less pressure if it's just between me & him.
mrspiven mrspiven 9 years
i did for a while, after i broke up with my first serious boyfriend when i was 19 and pretty rebellious. he was from my highschool and i would have been mortified if any of my friends knew about us, because of his weird past. it lasted a few months and no one found out. it was really thrilling, but i wouldn't do something like that again. i'm still afraid someday people will find out! i'll still be embarassed.
kfish kfish 9 years
When my boyfriend and I started going out, we just didn't mention it to anyone. I found the "Guess what guys? We're DATING!!!" approach somewhat awkward and wasn't certain my parents would approve. He wanted to see how long it would take people to figure it out. We decided to go with that.
demeter demeter 9 years
No, but I wish.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
I'm in one now.... only b/c of the age difference btw us... I'm 18 he's 25..... so Idk how my parents would react... plus the way I met him is a lil shady....but hey we've been in this for nearly 9 months... so I can't say its a bad thing... Its just nerve wracking not to be able to be with him whenever I want... I sorta feel like a cheating wife at times... but its worth it!
Nitrobezene Nitrobezene 9 years
I have one right now as a matter of fact. No one knows about him. :)
NdHebert NdHebert 9 years
Ashley Olsen probably isnt like most 21 year olds. She had a multi million dollar industry under her belt before she was 10. I bet she and him are on the same maturity level. She can probably relate more to him than some other 21 year old frat kid.
karlotta karlotta 9 years
Back when I was 16, I had a crush on this guy at school. We were always hanging out, going to movies, exhibits... etc - he really opened my world to more adult cultures, ideas and emotions. And soon... sexuality too. It was like being projected into a completely different dimension, filled with a thousand things I couldn't even fathom existed just a couple months before. I don't know why we kept it a secret - except I guess it was part of the game? -, but it actually lasted for years and I did most of my sexual experimentation with him. We did some pretty insane stuff for teenagers... We're still friends, even though it's been many years since we last slept together. He's probably the most brilliant person I've ever met. And oh, the ton of memories! It's funny to see him now, and we're grown up, we live with our significant others, and we meet for coffee casually and never discuss our past. But we know what happened... and it's funny to wonder if he remembers as vividly as I do. But I'll never ask!
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 9 years
I had to say Other, because yes I have been in a secret relationship, but it was FAR from a thrill. I was young (18) and had been going out with this JERK. We broke up and all my friends were happy, but then we got back together. I wouldn't tell my friends or family because I was ashamed (deep down I knew he was a complete A$$) and he didn't tell anyone because he was ashamed of me (he was LDS and I wasn't, and I was like his 'dirty little secret'). It went on for a couple of months like that before I finally realized why we were keeping things a secret, and I dumped him!
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 9 years
I have one right now :love: :innocent:
Jinx Jinx 9 years
Yes I have. :oops:
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
i had to keep it a secret and it was not right. it was a bad time but a great time. it got all sorted out. we have been together for 4 years or somthing like that. oh, and its not a secret anymore haha
shugahxnxspice shugahxnxspice 9 years
That's how my boyfriend and I started out! It was definitely thrilling and exciting...we still like to reminisce about those days. :)
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 9 years
Yes it was short and sweet, we were co-workers and could not tell. It didn't last long and luckily he wasn't ready for a committment because then I wouldn't have gotten with my current boyfriend, who I love dearly.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
Yeah, in college I started seeing my ex-boyfriend's friend a couple months after we broke up. We had to keep it secret so we wouldn't hurt my exes' feelings. It was just drama followed by more drama and the relationship just sort of died down when we left for summer break. (And by relationship, I mean regular hookup.) I'm still friends with that ex and I told him about it like a year ago because I still felt guilty for hiding that from him. It turns out he knew about it anyway lol. Also this one time I was hooking up with a guy who in all likelihood had a girlfriend who lived in another state. He claimed he broke up with her so that he could hook up with me (which was my condition) but I got the feeling that never really happened. Mainly because we had to keep the relationship a secret from his roommate. None of my friends met him either because he wasn't exactly the kind of guy I normally went for. It was a little weird.
Marci Marci 9 years
I went out with a guy for 6-8 months that I didn't tell many people about. We had a fabulous physical chemistry and had a lot of fun together, but I knew it wasn't going anywhere permanent, so I just kept it in it's own little place in my life.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
Yes. Years ago I continued a physical relationship with an ex boyfriend for several months after we had broken up. I couldn't tell anyone because he was so bad for me, I didn't want anyone to know. I kept it purely physical and totally secret. It was kin of hot even though he was a total trainwreck.
girlshape girlshape 9 years
yeah but it wasnt very fun to be honest. if its something you are able to keep secret, then it clearly cant be as good as something you want to shout out!
vmruby vmruby 9 years
No.....I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret if i did have one.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I had one. But I only hid him from a lot of people because he was a bad choice for me and I was young and dumb :P
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Umm no...
Marseeah Marseeah 9 years
It's fun to sneak around, as if you were having an affair! It adds an extra dimension of fun to the relationship!
Why It's So Hard to Leave an Abusive Relationship
Husband Buys Roses For His Wife Every Week
Signs He's Not Into You
Best Friend Tattoos
From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds