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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Snooped?

Snooping is usually a pretty bad idea. Not only is it a violation of privacy, but it’s very rare that the snooper actually feels better after the misdeed. But still, many of us are prone to fits of curiosity and an open email account or unmanned cell phone can be too tempting. I’m not one to judge, so ladies, tell me, have you ever snooped?

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meechie meechie 8 years
I snooped I knew my ex was an assh*&$ but I wanted to give him a concrete reason for leaving him. He was about to go out of town so I looked through his bag and found pic.'s of him and a mutual female friend. I was very upset but it gave me the courage to give him walking papers its been about 6 yrs and I've never been happier!!!!!!!!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
designerel - I hope you're not still with him?!
designerel designerel 8 years
I snooped in his phone once after a conversation I had had with him in which I jokingly said we should exchange phones once and check out each other's texts. His eyes went so big and he seemed so relieved when I said I was just kidding. Long time after that, I saw his phone sitting on the table (he is almost never without it) so I took the opportunity to snoop. And guess what, I found some flirty texts between him and an old crush of his (and not so innocent picture exchanges). Of course he tried to turn it around on me and got mad at me for snooping, but he knew he was in the wrong.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I'm the same as tweet pants. I am just really curious and my husband knows that I do it and doesn't change passwords or tell me not to.
ChristinaMUFE ChristinaMUFE 8 years
I agree with k8t. What's mine is his and what's his in mine. Nothing to hide.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I have felt tempted to snoop but the most I ever did was look through the address book on a partners phone. I was a bit baffled by the amount of girls in there but then I looked through mine and realized that my phones full of numbers as well. And I socialize as much as a hermit does! Occasionally I do get curious but I usually ask. I know my boy can keep it in his pants so I don't feel urges to make sure he's still mine. He does go through my phone sometimes, I really don't mind.
ajhodge ajhodge 8 years
Yes, and I felt horrible afterwards. Not because I found anything, but because I didn't. I should have known this person was trustworthy, but I let my own neurosis get to me. I don't think snooping is the kind of thing that pays off - most of the time. A girl I know found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her by spying on his email, but that's the only fruitful snooping story I've heard...so far.
seraphimm seraphimm 8 years
Bravo, annebreal & MeggyPoodles. I agree 100%!! When I was with my ex, I obsessively read his wall-to-wall with his ex-gf who I knew he wasn't over... I didn't find anything surprising, but I found out that I was right, he really wasn't over her. It sucks because I figured this out AFTER I broke up with HIM (for a completely different reason), so I just wish I snooped more thoroughly!!!! Wasted so much of my time with someone that didn't love me as much as I thought he did... My current boyfriend on the other hand, is wonderful :). I trust him COMPLETELY. He always cracks jokes when I use his phone, like "well, aren't you gonna check my text msgs?!" because every girl he has been with before has done that and he appreciates the fact that I don't. Men know that generally women are more insecure, so snooping isn't rare. And like some comments above explain, intuition is very often the reason some of us do it. We're not snooping because we're untrustworthy, insecure b!tches. You can't possibly jump to conclusions on the stories above. Seriously, don't come here to judge.
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 8 years
I don't consider it snooping really...whats mine is his and whats his is mine... he can use my cell phone and I can use his... he can look at my inbox and I can look at his... if you have nothing to hide I don't see the problem.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I have. Not a good idea but sometimes you have to. to find out the truth about scum bags! lol.
subtleheights subtleheights 8 years
I have snooped into my BF open email. i found a dear john letter he emailed me once before we got back together, i also found other emails to other women in his past. why does he need to have those? , i am not sure. cant ask. i have figured out how to get to his myspace page and looked through that. i am just curious. i have found out he had mail from dating sites and i went to those profiles to see how recent his activities were. so i found nothing suspicious but my curiousity got the better of me. i also found pictures of past girlfriends whom he said were gorgeous. NOT!!!!i know snooping is not right but you never know. nothing wrong with keeping on top of things and protecting yourself.
Roarman Roarman 8 years
I snooped because I felt something wasn't right, something was going on and I wasn't sure what. And I was right. So there was no guilt on my part.
joesbabygirl joesbabygirl 8 years
I did snoop. But I did find an email from his ex that really hurt me because he didn't tell me about it. The email was just her "letting go of him" I guess it was the only way for her to get closure! But it still hurt that he didn't tell me about it. And let me say I only snooped because she had been texting him alot so I wanted to know if there was anything else going on.
lemonice lemonice 8 years
I had a sneaking suspicion and I did snoop and found what I was looking for. Even when I confronted him, he still denied and acted like he didn't know what I was talking about.
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
yep and i found out what i was looking for :-)
Seka21 Seka21 8 years
I snooped and found out my best friend was emailing my boyfriend lies and negative things about me (she introduced us) My relationship later ended (i suspect) because of more of her influence Im glad i did snoop so i didnt have to wander what i did wrong as i was never told what did inface go wrong
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
I don't snoop...I would be so pissed if my bf snooped into my stuff! Once in awhile we look through each others phone, but it's not because I think he's doing anything bad. We'll just be laying on the couch and I just pick it up or something... I trust him.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
I am not someone who naturally snoops. If I feel like something is up, then I will, and everytime I have, I have been dead on except once! I have once with my current boyfriend, because something didnt feel right...he got a phone call and all of a sudden decided to he was going to visit a guy friend which is uncharacteristic of him....so when he went to take a shower, I checked the phone...and I was wrong, he was telling the truth, and I felt horrible. I haven't since, but haven't felt the need to either.
wambalus wambalus 8 years
I snooped and hated myself for it, but I felt I needed answers. At least I didn't find evidence of cheating! Also it marked a turning point in our relationship where I said, look, I don't want to be with someone where I feel like I have to do detective work to figure out what's going on - and he said you're right, let's get it all out in the open. It highlighted a gambling problem that could have gotten out of hand and I really dread what might have happened if I didn't have some evidence with which to confront him. He was hiding it from himself as much as from everyone else.
sassy_chick sassy_chick 8 years
I have--and you do get the answers you want. But occasionally, you find something that you were better off not knowing. It's a risk you take if you have suspicions.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 8 years
i don't snoop. EVER. infact, if i'm ever in the position i feel really uncomfortable and run away. i'm afraid of finding something i don't want to know...so basically i'm choosing to be ignorant.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I snooped with my ex boyfriend. I'd never really felt complelled before him. I found out he was dating two other girls when he got together with me AND he'd cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend too. He still behaves like this. He is currently dating two girls and prowling for more and I am glad I am far away from that situation! With my boyfriend I don't feel I need to check anything he does. I trust him 100%.
mtothawhat mtothawhat 8 years
Lol I'm sorry but to the person who stated that women who have snooped have low self esteems...get real. It's called intuition. Everyone has it. We all feel when something is off or when something doesn't seem right. I really think you need to get off your high horse and not judge these women. They had their reasons and were validated in what they felt. I understand being innocent until proven guilty but when you feel in your gut that something's wrong, you're going to try to find out what that "something" is. It's just how it is. How many times have people lied about whatever it was they were accused of? People lie EVERYDAY. I dunno, I guess you're that gullible.
greystonegirl16 greystonegirl16 8 years
I agree with tweethotpants and Sun_Sun . . . I do trust him, but I'm a very curious person anyways. He lets me on his computer, he gives me his passwords, he watches me on his phone . . . and he knows he's welcome to mine any time.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
tweet hotpants- same here ;) but its not even snooping. sometimes i'll just go thru his phone in front of him. so he's like, what the hell if shes gonna do it so am i ;) so he does too
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