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Dear Poll: How do you Order on a First Date?

According to a New York Times article, some are saying the way you order at a restaurant on a first date can tell a lot about the person you are, especially if you're ordering red meat. Back in the day, many women would eat a large snack at home, alone, before their date so they could order a light dinner to appear ladylike, but now, ordering light fare is considered high maintenance and finicky.

This article states that more women are ordering a steak or a burger on a first date to give off the impression that they are down to earth and unpretentious, that they don't have any problems keeping up with the guys in a sense, and reassuring them that they don't have any eating issues - it's the incognito way of saying “I am woman, hear me chew.”

So ladies, do you agree with this? When you go on a date, do you typically eat lightly or do you go for the gusto and eat whatever you're craving?


calli-gurl calli-gurl 9 years
never let a chance of food go away lol
nessabum nessabum 10 years
it's a bit of hard question to give a specific answer because i eat complicatedly and what i want to eat can vary. with my bf right now, the first thing i ordered on a date was a salad. not exactly the best choice because he was convinced that i'm just a health nut, which i kinda am, but it's stuck.
pnayxphile pnayxphile 10 years
If I'm hungry... I'm hungry! My bf loves that I'm not shy in enjoying food and will stuff my face if need be. As long as it's not all over the place and a napkin is always within reach. =)
Sugarblonde Sugarblonde 10 years
Well I do not go "all out." I could just imagine having rib sauce on my face all night - wow that would be embarassing. I order normal meals... whatever im hungry for! Not a dainty little salad or something.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 10 years
I usually would order something that….looked good, no matter what it was. Messy, expensive, red meat, whatever. Usually I go for the steak, As rare as they will allow, run it through a warm room, mooing and eat it with relish just like the carnivore I am.
girlnamedRoo girlnamedRoo 10 years
I will eat what I feel like eating on a date. I rarely order salads or something light when I go out to eat with friends & family.. why should it be different when i'm on a date or with my boyfriend? Besides he had mentioned to me that he likes the fact that I eat and i'm okay with it.
rubialala rubialala 10 years
I'd be myself.
lilv lilv 10 years
i like to avoid the messy so if we are going italian no spaghetti that sort of thing. i'm going to eat and be me but on a first date i will probably not order anything too fancy either
tatisugar tatisugar 10 years
i think you should eat what you want. dont think about what will he think if i order a salad or what will he think if i order the lobster. eat what you want and be who you are, don't care about what he thinks of you for ordering what you like to eat. eventually he'll find out what you're really like regardless of your meal choice so you might as well enjoy the meal
partysugar partysugar 10 years
Hopefully the guy will be smart enough to take me to a place where burgers are not on the menu...
bakejn21 bakejn21 10 years
I also would avoid very messy foods, like spaghetti...I would order penne instead.
auddie auddie 10 years
amanda02215, that's such a cute story! I'm a burger-and-a-beer girl, so if that's the type of place we're going to, that's what I'm ordering. The only thing I avoid is pasta like spaghetti or linguine, since I will spill on myself if it's a date. Burgers can always be cut smaller, half or quarters, so they really aren't that messy. Ordering really light (like a salad) always comes off to me as though you aren't really interested, so you are getting something that you can finish early so the date can end early.
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 10 years
I've been out of the game but when I was dating and now, I always order whatever I want. I may be small, but I will THROW DOWN on some food! I do tend to be conscious of price though, to be considerate. Hey, and burgers are cheap.
amanda02215 amanda02215 10 years
I usually just avoid messy foods, because I don't want to have my dinner down the front of my dress all night. I also usually don't order anything too extravagantly expensive, just because I'd feel bad about the cost. On my first date with my current boyfriend, I ordered grilled baby squid, and they came whole! I loved them, but he was a little grossed out by the 10 little squid on my plate... we laugh about it all the time, because he's always like, I knew you would always be yourself and be comfortable around me if you would order something so gross the first time we went to dinner!
lintacious lintacious 10 years
if a guy is disgusted i can eat a whole burger, then i dont want to be with him.
muchacha muchacha 10 years
i agree with allijean an lalalaurie .. i try not to order messy food, nor something expensive.. other than that everything is fair game.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 10 years
I go for something not to expensive that is not that messy and won't make my breath stink too much.
melda melda 10 years
i just drink lots of water lol
AuroraBorealis AuroraBorealis 10 years
I like Japanese food, because it's not messy, yet tasty and I definitely avoids pasta and too expensive things
sittingonawall sittingonawall 10 years
I order what appeals to me the most on the the menu. AS I don't usually eat burgers or steak I wouldn't order it on a date either.
Marci Marci 10 years
c0rkie did this same blog the other day. I guess it's topical! :D
ManicMauritian ManicMauritian 10 years
The safest thing for me to order is ... french fries lol. I'm shy when I'm getting to know someone and feeling all self-conscious, being a messy eater ... :s Even with burgers, I end up with sauce all over the place! That said, if my fairy godmother could work magic on my messy eating, I definitely would order whatever I want, ladylike or not!
leigha926 leigha926 10 years
i almost always get something like a salad, but not with the intention of being ladylike. i am honestly just not a big eater and heavy, greasy food makes me sick. and if that makes me look finicky, then so be it.
jen22 jen22 10 years
I would eat a steak, but never pasta. That stuff gets all over the place. :)
demeter demeter 10 years
I would hope our first date wasn't a place I could get a nasty flattened burger anyway...
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