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Dear Poll: Is Sex Mandatory on Your Wedding Night?

It used to be that having sex on your wedding night was the official culmination of becoming man and wife. For many people this remains true, but for others, wedding-night sex, while important, just doesn’t hold the same meaning. Some couples are so beat from the big day that all they really want to do is crawl into bed, cuddle, and fall right to sleep. Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with taking that night off, but many disagree. So tell me, do you think sex is mandatory on your wedding night?

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Marie5555 Marie5555 3 years
Some people are not able to. I was in preterm labor and on bedrest. I think it was 3 weeks later when I got released to do what we wanted and that made the baby born immediately and 3 weeks early. We had to resort to butt (crack) cleavage/breast/oral alternative. Traditional marriage confirmation could have killed the baby.
hazem02 hazem02 8 years
lusty dreams... another dream i got with you ... got you with me into my world... another poetic night we had... a poetic sweet love,while a candles enjoyed our love... another sweet love we had together... feelings burned and melted into each other.. bodies got its desires with no shame... bodies started to give it`s best to the other... bodies searched for a love and satiation... bodies tried to get enough from the other... but it failed... because it will never reach the enough from the other... another night... in the mid of night... till the end of that night... spent the whole night with love... spent and didn`t felt how that night passed... night passed as a seconds... sweet seconds passed with an endless love... that love we gave to the each other... we made it together... even still more inside with an endless desires to give ,each others... another night... there into our bed,waiting you... a bed full of roses and so lusty... loving warm bed waiting us... would you come again... would you wake me up again... to start another night... to make as always a great love... by: By hazem02 © 2009 hazem02 (All rights reserved) let`s dream again... feel free to leave your comments through my link which i gave... yours,.. hazem al
hazem02 hazem02 8 years
i missed that poetic feelings from a long long time...
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
first time! ofcourse its a must must must must!
Stephanie-P Stephanie-P 9 years
My husband was o drunk, he fell asleep!
italianblonde italianblonde 9 years
If it is your first time having sex ever or with each other, then yes I would say definitely go for it. But otherwise, the day is soo long and stressful and drinks are there's nothing wrong with just crashing either!!
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Not mandatory, but I think we definitely will ;)
Zulkey Zulkey 9 years
"Mandatory." that's so special!
bbkf bbkf 9 years
Not mandatory, but we definitely did :-)
LuvFrancis LuvFrancis 9 years
This is a great question! The romance website I write for actually just released a poll that found one in five couples don't consummate their marriage on their wedding. The most common reason why they didn't? People were exhausted from their big day, took full advantage of the open bar or still had wedding guests hovering around. A few poll respondents actually provided specific reasons like "He was playing blackjack all night.", "Too much sake and sushi consumed." and "It was consummated MANY TIMES before." How funny is that? If you're curious, you can check out the results of the poll at
dootsie dootsie 9 years
One third of couples don't.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I guess the idea of "consummating" the marriage is sweet. However, I would never judge someone for being too tired to have sex the night of their wedding. People should do whatever they want. If I'm tired, I'll wait until the next morning, and I won't feel bad. We're about to spend the rest of our lives together....We can just revel in that while we rest up.
dimples128 dimples128 9 years
I'm waiting til marriage and I don't see myself waiting much longer after we're married than is absolutely necessary! I will have sex on my wedding night and I've never considered NOT having sex that night.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I never even thought about it. We had sex because it's what you're supposed to do but it wasn't any more special than any other time and it felt weird to be expected to have sex.
Marci Marci 9 years
I'd sure like to think we will, but it wouldn't be grounds for divorce if we didn't.
eshellmoyer eshellmoyer 9 years
I was so tired after my graduation party that I got powerfully nauseated. If I'm that tired after my wedding there's no way sex would be at all special, but it would be memorable.
divinedebris divinedebris 9 years
My husband I didn't have sex the night of our wedding, but we did the next morning. :) It didn't make too much of difference. We're doing good.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
I do not see it as a "must" however my choice would be the wedding night. If you just spent a good portion of the day becoming husband & wife then celebrated afterwards; personally I would want to have sex on my wedding night.
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