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Dear Poll: Is Trust a Given or Is It Earned?

While I completely understand what people mean when they say that trust must be earned, I’m also of the mindset that people should be given the benefit of the doubt. I would never tell you to confess your deepest, darkest secret to someone you barely know, but what’s so wrong in assuming the best in someone? Perhaps this is a naively optimistic view, so what do you think?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
definitely earned. you cant just trust anyone. because some people just want to know one thing about u to back stab you. u definitely cant trust just anyone
lexichloe lexichloe 8 years
Trust issues have been a constant factor in my childhood and adult life. It MUST be earned.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 8 years
Both. Some people I trust right away (and haven't been betrayed) and some people have to earn my trust. The people who I have trusted from the beginning are my best friends and the people who earn my trust are usually just friends.
Hootie Hootie 8 years
missyd missyd 8 years
psychobabble hit the nail on the head
almost-famous almost-famous 8 years
Earn. I've realized this *ish now. LOL
Miss-Metal Miss-Metal 8 years
For me it's a little bit of both . I mean I know that not every person is a good person because there are a lot of bad people in the world but I also don't like to pass judgement on people unless they do something really shady .
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Earned... and well-earned at that. Hindsight! D'oh!
bethinabox bethinabox 8 years
I agree with what psychobabble said. Unless someone gives me reason to believe otherwise, I basically trust them. But once they prove me wrong...
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm with Psychobabble. I operate similarly.
psychobabble psychobabble 8 years
For me there are different levels of trust. The first level is a given until they prove me wrong, generally trusting people to be decent human beings. But greater trust or more intimate trust has to be earned.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
definitely earned
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
definitely earned
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