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Dear Poll: Were You Ever Told It Wouldn't Last?

Dear Poll: Were You Ever Told It Wouldn't Last?

When Jessica Simpson first started dating Tony Romo, everyone seemed quick to write them off. She had just come out of a string of failed relationships and Tony came under fire for letting Jessica "ruin his football season." Even though they're still together, I feel like we're just waiting for news of the break up, since we all "know" it won't last.

I imagine hearing this kind of sentiment from people can put a lot of strain on a relationship. I'm not sure whether it would make it harder to stay together, or create more determination to make it work. Although I know I would be both sad and annoyed to have people think that about my relationship, I can't lie and say that I've never thought that about other couples. So let me ask you, have you ever been told — or knew people were thinking — that your relationship wouldn't last?


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Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
I haven's so much been outright told it wouldn't last due to anything specific about the relationship, but it's been implied. I've never been in a relationship before my current one (I'm 21) and when the topic of marriage came up with my sister (she wants us to get married so she can be in a wedding! Haha), my aunt responded with "You don't buy the first car you drive" which I found not only cruel, but crude and simply moronic. Especially coming from a woman who's over fifty and perpetually single - she's not one to be giving relationship advice.
manga manga 9 years
yes, people told me [ and him ] that we weren't right for each other and that we wouldn't last. well we celebrated our 2 year today, bitches, so shut up. ;)
0danielle0 0danielle0 9 years
A good friend of mine recently said that my boyfriend's insecurities probably stem from the fact that I'm much better looking than he is, and that he feels like I'm "out of his league." Her comments infuriated me, particularly because I think he is the most gorgeous man I've ever seen. It shocked me that she was so shallow and inconsiderate of someone I clearly love and intend on spending the rest of my life with. People can be so inconsiderate.
russet1 russet1 9 years
My boyfriend and I started dating in high school, and nobody thought it would last. We're total opposites, so I didn't let it hurt. Last month we went back to our home town and ran into one of our high-school teachers who was really surprised: "You're still together?" We just laugh it off. We may be different, but we're perfect together and we'll will have been together for 6 years this summer. People are entitled to their opinions, just don't let it bother you.
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
Yes, and it hurt. Six years later and I'm starting to wonder if they were right...
msburny msburny 9 years
I was terribly hurt when my fiances parents would not be involved in our wedding,,,,I apparently wasn't good enough for them,,,,ha-ha,, we are approaching our 25th wedding anniversary,,guess I got the last laugh,,,,
fadedblue fadedblue 9 years
Yup. We started dating fresh out of high school after doing the whole crush thing all of our senior year. And then on top of that we were going to different schools. People thought we were too young and had their slew of opinions and doubts, his parents disliked me extremely (for really superficial reasons), long distance blah blah blah. Now it's going on nearly 5 years, we have the support of family and friends, and we're going to get engaged soon. So yeah, it lasted and hopefully will continue to last for a long time! =)
bastille_75 bastille_75 9 years
Yes, and even though it really hurt at the time - they were right. But, it did take me very long time to realize that the majority of people that said it were just looking out for my best interest and it did not come from a place of malice or cattiness.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
to Random: if someone says that, then that is their opinion. i don't sever relationships because someone doesn't like what i'm doing. that's just a bit extreme . . .it ain't that serious. people have said that some of relationships won't last. it didn't bother me. who cares, and who knows. they can have their own opinion. i have a friend, and when she began dating this guy. we all were like, "uuuhh . . .i dunno". some of us didn't like him, and some of us hated him. after a while, we all began to see what he was about. and we liked him. they have been married for i think 4 years now. and i'd throw a can of coke at you if you were to try to hurt him. i didn't feel like that at first. my point is, let ppl have their opinion. it's JUST that. i work in the fashion industry, and if i got all upset everytime someone imposed their opinion . . .well let's just say i'd be crazier than Britney Spears off her meds.
rickimc rickimc 9 years
And it was true.
shugahxnxspice shugahxnxspice 9 years
Yep, everyone was worried that I'd get hurt because my boyfriend had a reputation for being a ladies man before we started going out and I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. (It turned out that I was the bigger heartbreaker! Ha!) Nevertheless, we proved everyone wrong and have been going strong for over a year and a half. I trusted my instincts instead of letting other people's opinions get to me. I still hold a grudge against some people who I knew gossiped about us and doubted us...mostly his rejects. The handful of others who were brave enough to ask me personally about my relationship with him just had my best interests in mind, so I don't hold that against them.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
No one has specifically said it to me, but yes I know they have thought it. My boyfriend and I got together when we were 15 and 16 ... and we've been together for 5 1/2 years now. People also said it to my Mom and Dad. They knew each other for 3 months when they first got married and were 18 & 19 and now they've been married for 32 1/2 years!! So yeah I guess people didn't know what they were talking about for either relationship ;)
sass317 sass317 9 years
I remember very vividly a friend of my parents flippantly telling me that my relationship with my bf wouldnt last when I went off to college. Granted I was 18 and totally in love at the time, and ultimately he was right, we didnt work out, but we are on friendly terms. I think what really bothered me about his comment was the fact that the bf was SO supportive of me leaving the state to go to school. He knew it was important to me and never tried to convince me that I shouldnt go to the school I had wanted to go to since I was 10 years old bc it would mean I would be far away from him. However we did make it almost 2 years AFTER I went to college, so its not like we broke up my first semester away. I guess if I hated the ex-bf I would feel differently about the comment made by the friend of my parents (who JUST met me for the first time when he made the comment) However, years later and happily married and having never heard "it will never work out" from anyone in regards to us- it is a nice feeling. I loved that everyone who was at our wedding was truly happy for us and confidant that we would have a lasting marriage. It certainly makes things happier and easier to not have to have that "its us against the world" mentality.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
Yeah, but the ones who said it were right but they didn't go about it tactfully or reasonably... so I think it lasted longer just to spite them. =\
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 9 years
Yeah, and they were wrong. I freakin hate that crap, I'm not stupid and don't tell me my relationship won't last just because you don't like my boyfriend. >:I hmph! lol but I just chose 'other' because I'd had it told me to me many a time during the first year of my relationship, but I didn't care.
frizzyfawn frizzyfawn 9 years
I got told that and brushed off the comments (I heard it from many different people). I went ahead and thought I knew better but really wish I had listened to everyone since he was a complete and total dirtbag.
Random2 Random2 9 years
When my guy first told me he loved me, someone I thought was a friend snapped, "It's just puppy love. He's just trying to get you into bed and will be over it as soon as that happens." I haven't spoken to that person in three years, and my guy and I have been together for 3 and a half.
senojoy senojoy 9 years
Yes I was told that by a couple of family members. And the ones that didn't say it, their faces gave away their actual thoughts. But now we're married and we've been married for 3 years. After we got engaged everyone thought that was the worst thing in the world. My mom used to call me everyday with "Are you sure you want to marry him? Seriously, this is the guy that you want to be with for the rest of your life? This is the guy that you want to have kids with?" I guess nobody thought we were in a serious relationship until we got engaged. I think the negativity pushed us together more because it felt like us against the world. I can see why they had doubts as at that time he was in school and not working. But now even my mom loves him. So I guess it all worked out in the end.
Stacey-Cakes Stacey-Cakes 9 years
Yes, but it doesn't bother me at all.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
I believe we all say it because we're jealous of that couple. They're never overheard bashing the most couples do. Well maybe bashing is a strong word, negative comments sounds better....
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
It's actually been said about me and my fiance. At points I guess it was true but it did hurt a little. We had a really rocky start and we were 17 when we met so I can see why people thought it wasn't real. Fast forward 12 years and we are getting married in two months so I guess we proved them wrong. Truth is we never really listened to those people anyway and I'm glad we didn't
It's been said to me about my current bf by the guy who introduced us (seriously- why did he even do it right?). It's more annoying than anything. I try to look at it in the light of him trying to be protective or something. It doesn't matter though, we have a good time together and as long as we are happy then nobody else's opinion really matters.
indielove indielove 9 years
Yes, I have and they were right. I'm glad they were too.
mnp mnp 9 years
Yes, but it didn't bother me though. I should've listened! Now, I know friends and family know me well enough to make their judgments.
emalove emalove 9 years
Yes, but like GlowingMoon, it didn't bother me or hurt my feelings. It was said by friends who I know just had my best interest in mind, they weren't trying to be hurtful. And they were right too.
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